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Has anyone ever announced their pregnancy at or around 7 weeks?

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:02

Its becoming impossible for me to hide it any longer, I'm getting hounded by people wanting to have drinks as its the holidays - wanting to book holidays for the end of the summer etc... and I really just need to announce it this weekend.

Any stories?

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shefliesthrutheair · 22/04/2011 14:22

Lovetheway, I annonced my pregnancy at 9 weeks.

My reasons were that we had waited a long time and were over the moon, I had ohss so was showing a lot anyway, and i had been on ohss-related leave.

I thought that if the worst happened my friends would rally round. I'm the kind of person who needs to talk things through so this would have been wonderful. I would have found it a lot harder to cope if noone knew at all.

Two months is a long time to feel sick and tired and avoid telling your friends why, tbh I don't know how people do it :)

Truffkin · 22/04/2011 14:23

Love I just wanted to add that I have felt awful about lying to people and cannot wait for everyone to know that I'm pregant (2 weeks and counting down!!) and althpugh obviously people will realise that the 'giving up alcohol for Lent' was a lie, they'll understand why and be ok about it. I'm most concerned about saying I'll be going to a friend's hen do abroad in October, which I won't be but have been able to talk about it so far and she'll understand I can't go when we znnounce our pregnancy in a couple of weeks.

It feels strange and quite deceitful at the time but people will understand when they find out why. In the meantime you need to think of reasonably believable reasons for not joining in. Could you try: I've got a family thing that night; we have plans with DP's friends; can we do it after pay day as I'm a bit skint; I'm working overtime..... In a few weeks you'll be able to start making arrangements to meet up after your 12 week scan.

Like someone up thread mentioned, genuine friends won't ditch you if you're out of circulation for a few weeks.

Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy.

TallulahBetty · 22/04/2011 14:48

I am currently 9+2, but various people have known from since I found out, whether that as I've told them (parents, closest friend, manager) or if they have found out (people at work - clearly someone I have trusted has blabbed to someone else and the usual office gossips have spread it).

I would've preferred if only the people I chose to tell knew, but not much I can do now. I've less than 3 weeks to go to 12 weeks (and my scan) so other people will find out then.

I'm not upset that everyone at work knows - I am however pretty annoyed at the method it has got out.

Oh well, I will learn for next time. [buhmm]

figgygal · 22/04/2011 14:50

Had to tell my parents yesterday at 8 weeks (long story why) so now even more nervous as my mum will be gutted if it goes wrong. Am also finding it hard round friends so either making excuses about driving or staying in as am a bit of a lush and not drinking is like having a flashing light over my head shouting IM PREGNANT at everyone. Not being able to have a beer in the sun is very frustrating today!!!

Firawla · 22/04/2011 15:28

i told quite a few people from early with all 3 of mine so far, also have plenty of friends who have told me and others from as soon as getting a positive, so its not like noone does tell early or it has to be a problem to do so. so if you feel it will be easier to just tell them then you could do so, some people may think 'tempting fate' but doesnt really make it any more likely to have a problem just cos you have told people. of course would be difficult if you did have any bad news and then you have to tell them that, if you would not have shared all that with them in the first place. personally i think i would have told some of my friends and family that anyway so doesnt make too much difference to me about announcing to them early.

CrispyTheCrisp · 22/04/2011 15:39

I told family and close friends when I found out as I would have wanted their support if the worst had happened. I know immediately if friends are pregnant, but also am fully aware of the risks so am always careful about asking loss of questions and assume I will find out as and when if something has happened. Mind you, I was in my 30's and had a massively loyal and protective bunch of friends a number of whom had themselves experienced miscarriage. I can imagine at 20 with a group of drinking buddies it is a different kettle of fish.
Many congratulations to you and fingers crossed all continues well

H007 · 22/04/2011 20:30

I told my mum and dad at 7 weeks (as soon as I found out) we had a privte scan at 8 weeks and OH told his rents and I told my boss and colleagues at 8 and a half mainly due to the fact that I was soooooooo ill... I'm 10 weeks now and starting to think about when to tell friends and rest of family. My theory is that if anything did go wrong I am going to need all these peoples' support.

InMyPrime · 22/04/2011 21:40

I told a close friend at 8 weeks because we'd planned a night out with some drinks a while before and I wanted to a.) explain why I was drinking Shirley Temples and b.) I had confided in her previously that DH and I had been trying for a while for a baby and getting nowhere so she knew the background and how happy I'd be. In the end I had an MMC that showed up at an emergency scan a few days before my 12 week scan date and while I felt bad that I'd told my friend, she was a great support to me afterwards and really helpful when I needed to talk to someone.

You can overdo the secrecy element too. We didn't tell my PILs at all, planning to wait until 12 weeks, and then the MMC came as such a shock, we ended up telling them anyway because we were so upset. So they got the news of them being due a grandchild and not being due one all in one, which wasn't great. Also, my sister was visiting when I had the MMC (what are the chances??) so basically the day after I told her she would be an aunt, she had to come with me to the hospital for an emergency scan and find out we'd lost the baby. Pretty horrendous... and made me wish I'd told her sooner so she'd at least have had some upside to the news as well as the downside. If you're comfortable with these friends, then go ahead and tell them. If not, don't. Personally I think there is too much secrecy around MC and people need to not be ashamed or hide it away but just tell people up front what's happened. Most people will be nice - and those who aren't can go and jump, tbh.

OrangeGloss · 23/04/2011 06:38

We told close family, friends and bosses at 8 weeks-ish. I went on to have a MMC discovered at 12 week scan, but I was so glad we'd told them as they were really supportive. When I got pg again we told the same people pretty much straight away as I was off sick for 3 weeks with bleeding and had to cancel planned trips, and again I was so glad we'd told them. I'm now 21 weeks [touch wood] and still not told wider family/friends!

WiiUnfit · 23/04/2011 10:00

Hi LoveTheWay, welcome to MN. Another 20yo mum-to-be here, we're due at the end of June.

Just wanted to share my experience with you, I was so scared about things going wrong that we only told my parents, DP's parents & my best friend until we'd had our 12 week scan (actually 13+3) on the 23rd December, we told everyone else on Christmas Day & they were all delighted.

I'm not a huge drinker normally anyway so it was quite easy for me to avoid alcohol but I found that when I couldn't easily IYSWIM I would make sure I or DP got my drinks & I'd have a mixer e.g. orange juice, coke, lemonade - that way my friends / family didn't know it was alco-free! Even managed DP's work Christmas party without any suspicions (was ill for mine & missed it though!)

As for your friends booking holidays, could you play off that you're a bit skint / saving up for [insert random thing] .etc? Those who are true friends will understand & you won't lose them, maybe not at first but when you make your big announcement. [busmile]

Best of luck with your pregnancy & most importantly, congratulations!

candr · 23/04/2011 21:40

I told one or two peope at work as I kept being sick and needed cover, we also told close family straight away, enjoy having a few people to share your secret with you and if you have been avoiding mates they will understand when you do tell them, the 'i'm on antibiotics' should help with no alcohol or 'health kick' have fun smiling to yourself x

PrincessScrumpy · 23/04/2011 21:52

I had some complications so told parents and my boss at 5+w, my boss told her colleage who went and told the school principal on my behalf plus other staff members! I was livid as I found out a week later (7w) that she'd done this and was about to have a scan to see if I'd miscarried. The people I told were the kind of people I felt I'd need or want support from if it did go wrong.

After the scan, we saw our babies' heart beats - turned out complications were all fine and it's actually twins. Dh and I decided to announce it as we'd seen the hb and I wanted to announce it to work colleagues (the ones who didn't know) and besides, I was far too excited about twins and no way could I keep it to myself.

WhipMeIndiana · 23/04/2011 22:08

I told myfamily as soon as I knew - but DH always wanted to keep it secret. of the 4 times Ive been pregnant 2 miscarried, and I was glad I had their understanding and support.
with the 1st one i told everyone I met - - and that was one of the m/c. its just a bit harsh for everyone if it happens, and if everyone knows you have no section of your life in which you can forget about it, ie. if all your work colleagues know, you'll have awkward silences and people struggling...and the occasional people you bump into who didnt hear the bad news and who then tell you how well you look.......

nervousexcitedandgrowing · 16/05/2011 22:34

I'm 6+2 and we told our family and friends very early on, around 4-5 weeks. I'm really glad that we did as I feel as though my whole life perspective (and social life) had shifted and if I hadn't have told them I might have felt a bit hidden away; I am RUBBISH at keeping secrets and see them a lot.

HOWEVER, I do sometimes feel very scared and nervous that I have become too attached and into this pregnancy, my first. But if the worst does happen I feel conforted in the knowledge that my closest will understand and support me as I am sure I will need.

Good luck and do what feels right for you x

bettyboo83 · 17/05/2011 00:24

I told most people as soon as we knew (about 6 weeks). As a nurse I had to let my colleagues know so I didn't lift as much, or scuttle off everytime someone was x-rayed! I figured that if I miscarried, I would have told my friends and workmates as I would have needed their support more than ever. The only people we didn't tell until after the scan were my grandparents because they would have been devasted if I'd have miscarried. Luckily I'm now 27 weeks and so far so good. It is entirely up to you

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