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Has anyone ever announced their pregnancy at or around 7 weeks?

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 12:02

Its becoming impossible for me to hide it any longer, I'm getting hounded by people wanting to have drinks as its the holidays - wanting to book holidays for the end of the summer etc... and I really just need to announce it this weekend.

Any stories?

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thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 12:59

FWIW South I thought your comment was taken the wrong way. Thats the trouble with reading comments rather than hearing them though.

Very easy to misinterpret. But saying that I hate it when people say stuff like 'its not an illness you know' or 'you are not the first woman to have a baby'

It immediately gets my back up even when I know people arent being deliberately horrible.

thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 13:00

Yeah we have known about nickle for aaaagggggesss

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 13:02

Thanks MrsDeVere,

I didn't mean it to be taken as snidey - heaven knows when I got pg (after 7 years of trying) I DID feel like I was the first pg woman on earth! But I was trying to say that most people do manage to sneak their way around the first 12 weeks without people suspecting.

(BTW, I think I 'know' you..... did you sell a 'Close Baby' carrier? If you did, that was to me! And brilliant it was too!)

suzikettles · 22/04/2011 13:02

I told my two closest friends at 8 weeks and my mum & dad at 10 weeks. Everyone else found out after the 12wk scan.

If I'd miscarried or had bad news at the scan then I'd have told those four people anyway. I'd have told other people as well of course but might have appreciated it being at a time of my choosing.

It's completely up to you and of course won't change the outcome of the pregnancy in any way.

Jill72 · 22/04/2011 13:03

I had to tell my headteacher at 9 weeks ( when I found out) as I work with children with behaviour problems that sometimes need restraining - I am now off that duty and my colleagues needed to know in case a situation arose. I am glad I told as everyone at work has been very supportive and thoughtful - telling the boys at school after the holiday (be 15 weeks) as it will be important for them to know too. I also read about what you would do if you miscarried early on and no-one really knew - I wanted that support and understanding if it did happen. I had also been exhausted and my performance at work had not been good - when I explained that I was expecting my headteacher was quite relieved as she had been worried about me and thought that I was not enjoying the job and was thinking of leaving!!!! I too felt relieved as at the time I had not understood why I was soooo offf! I had gone to the doctors asking for tests worrying that I was seriously ill or had the start of early menopause - I came out pregnant!!!

nickelbaalamb · 22/04/2011 13:06

I have to admit, MN knew before my mum did! [bublush]

South I also think your comment was taken the wrong way. Although, I can see why, as the OP wanted advice and felt quite overwhelmed and scared. We've all been there (i'm still in the thick of it!)
Please don't let's argue.

JaneS · 22/04/2011 13:07

south, sorry if I did misinterpret. To me your comments sounded really quite nasty and unpleasant, but if they weren't intended that way I'm glad. It's true it's hard to tell tone on the net.

nickelbaalamb · 22/04/2011 13:08

actually ,have to say, I found it useful to tell people - mainly because my moods have been quite odd , and I would have been worried that noone would understand and just think I was reverting to my old self (used to be very highly strung and rather mardy, but I was going through difficult times)

thefirstMrsDeVere · 22/04/2011 13:10

Hi south no that wasnt me. Glad you like the carrier though, whoever sold it too you [bugrin]

BikeRunSki · 22/04/2011 13:11

I have been so ill in both pg that I told work at 9 weeks with DS and 6 weeks with DC2 due October. Immediate family knew already. Just as well I told work when I did, as I was hospitalised that day with DS, and within a few days with DC2. By the time I was back at work (8 weeks with DS, going back next week after 7 weeks off with DC2) everyone knew. This time I told local friends too as I need all the help I can get with DS.

Fortunately, I have not had to "untell" anyone.

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 13:13

Yes, I should have remembered that OP would be feeling overwhelmed and that comments like that wouldn't help. Also maybe I should have realised she had taken the comment the wrong way when she came back with the reply she did and explained what I meant rather than retaliate.

Anyhow. Water under the bridge. You live and learn.

Nickel, like the name change! Also congratulations!

SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 13:15

I thought you were Peachy.
I am a dimwit.

Still, hello and nice to meet you!

Francagoestohollywood · 22/04/2011 13:15

I've always told people who are important to us as soon as we found out.

orangehead · 22/04/2011 13:16

I told people quite soon. I always get a bit of a bump from about 5 weeks (apparently preg hormones can make your bowels swell, so not baby but enough for people to guess anyway) sadly I mc a 12 weeks. Tbh it was not a big deal people knew, friends made sure the word got round so nobody put thier foot in it. Most people were very supportive, besides learning a couple were actually not as good friends as I thought. I got quite bad depression afterwards and although most people didnt really say anything I think it was good to know that most knew why I was'nt being my usual happy self. Tbh I dont understand why mc is such a taboo subject it just means people are a lot more crap at dealing with it when people they know go through it, because no one talks about it.
I would only not tell this time as I wouldnt want someone let it sip to my dc before I was ready to tell them and I think they are to young for me to tell them early, although they know I lost 3 babies before them.

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 13:17

Look just to set things straight - I'm 20 years old. When I get together with my friends - Its for a drink! When we go on holiday - its a booze cruise! I'm the only one of my friends who has a partner never mind being married so I'm going to be the first to announce my pregnancy and although it was planned, IM SCARED!!

So yes, maybe I did take your comment the wrong way as I dont exactly want to go on boozy holidays when I'm pregnant (or ever again infact) as I'm over that now. And its hard to try and get my friends together when there isnt a wee drink or two involved. Its what we do! But you didint know that. And its even harder trying to avoid them.

Anyway, moving on, I dont think I'll announce it. I feel I would in fact be tempting fate. I'll just wait 5 weeks till my scan.

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SouthGoingZax · 22/04/2011 13:20

Ok, sorry I made you feel worse when you came on for advice. I didn't understand that you couldn't avoid booze when you saw your friends. Hope the 5 week wait is Ok and your scan goes well.

fatfingers · 22/04/2011 13:35

I told at about 7-8 weeks with my last 2 pregnancies. Neither me or dh can keep a secret!! I'm now 7 weeks with dc3 and will probably tell family in the next couple of weeks. Last time I had lots of problems during 2nd trimester and had dd2 at 23 weeks so I think it doesn't matter when you tell...things can go wrong at any time (I know, I'm such an optimist )

TheOriginalFAB · 22/04/2011 13:36

We were told we would lose our baby and when we had a scan at just over 8 weeks we decided to tell parents and grandparents. We waited until 12-14 weeks to tell everyone else as per our original plans.

pointydog · 22/04/2011 13:51

Yes. I knew that if I miscarried I'd want family and close friends to know so I might as well tell them as soon as I was sure about the pregnancy.

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LoveTheWayYouLie · 22/04/2011 13:55

I've told my mum and dad, and DH has told his dad and two sisters.

If I tell my brothers it will getout straight away as both their gfs run in the same circle as me and my friends. And what with Facebook these days you cant keep anything secret!

I think I'll wait - Im having light cramping today/yesterday so Im a bit worried about that too . No bleeding though so im trying to convince myself its growing pains.........

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Danilou22 · 22/04/2011 13:59

I told people really early because I was being so sick. My theory was I am an open person and if anything had of gone wrong I would probably have told people anyway for support. I am 31 weeks now x

ChristinedePizan · 22/04/2011 14:02

I did wonder if you were young but didn't want to be patronising. :o I think you're right - it's good to tell people close to you in case the worst happens. But hopefully it'll all be good and if your friends sack you off because you didn't come out with them boozing for a couple of months, they're not very good friends to be honest!

Don't worry about the cramping too much - probably just implantation pains, happens to a lot of people.

Bogeyface · 22/04/2011 14:04

I told everyone I was on a diet and moaned like hell about not having a drink. When the inevitable "oh you can have one" came up i just said that no, I am such an old lush that one would make me want more so I was better not having any!

As for holidays, then I would say that I didnt think I would be able to afford it this year, so they can book it without you.

You dont have to avoid people as they are the very people you will want around you when you are further along, and you dont want to alienate them now.

claire201 · 22/04/2011 14:11

I told people at about 6 weeks and spent the next six weeks a nervous wreck incase anything happened. If I was ever pregnant again I wouldn't tell anyone except close family and friends i would tell if anything did go wrong. x

Meglet · 22/04/2011 14:19

I told my parents and my sister straight away and work collegues at 8 weeks both times. There was no way I was going to be able to hide my ultra-flat stomach podging out. Didn't tell extended family and friends until after 12 week scan.

I did miscarry at 6 weeks once and no one at work knew so I felt dreadful just sitting there going through it and back and forth to the loo on my own . I wish I'd said something as they would have been lovely.

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