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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

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Shock just found out pregnant at 48!

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adalle · 09/04/2011 12:42

Any old duffers currently active I've seen the old posts and feeling very mixed up at moment. Found this week I am pregnant for the first time at this time in my life and faced with a lot of questions, opinions and health issues. I spent the first day laughing at the news but I know this is serious.

I know girls who've had babies in their early 40s and they faced a mountain of negative medical advice and they were planning kids. I genuinely thought this was the menopause!

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instantfamily · 09/04/2011 12:45

Congratulations! Sorry, no advice as had DC in my 30ies.

activate · 09/04/2011 12:48

how exciting

did you want a baby? how pregnant are you? Are you ready for a whole life change?

IslaValargeone · 09/04/2011 12:50

I have no advice either. I just wanted to say Congratulations! I think it's really exciting, and the fact that you spent the first day laughing at the news is, I feel, a really good omen.
Don't be frightened by horror stories, get balanced advice, have whatever tests you may feel necessary (or not) and take good care of yourself. xxxxx

lolajane2009 · 09/04/2011 12:51

congrats. My DH is still in shock he is having his first child at 40 (although I am 29). But every child is such a blessing IMO.

ajandjjmum · 09/04/2011 12:52

Congratulations.

amyamyamy · 09/04/2011 12:53

Congratulations! Your body is obviously in good shape and reckons you can cope with a pregnancy . How are you feeling about it today?

Blu · 09/04/2011 12:54

Well, the 'negative' medical advice is only relevant if something negative actually happens!

Look at it this way: you conceived during your natural childbearing years, so if you want a baby / child, well. congratulations!

I had my first child in my early 40s and can honestly say I don't feel my age has been a factor in any aspect of pregnancy, childbrith or parenting.

It's weird on here sometimes when there are MN-ers with kids who could easily be my grandchildren, but then the natural childbearing span is long!

Laughing sounds a great reaction - don't be put off by mpountains of negative advice - you get that in every aspect of motherhood anyway!

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adalle · 09/04/2011 12:56

Thanks for the congrats. Not sure whether to celebrate as it is only about 5 weeks and I have lots of tests to face as I am high risk for everything.

I never planned a family although I always said if it happened I would embrace it just didn't expect when we've been planning our retirements thought it might happen when I was younger !!

I think the shock might kill my husband when I told him. He's yet to be convinced we could cope with this life changing event.

I am not a fit young thing planning this and my body wasn't being prepared for it.

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eaglewings · 09/04/2011 12:57

Congratulations! I'm 43 and just had the bfp. My GP was jealous when I told her I was ttc, she asked me how i got my dh to agree!

All the other specialist I see, neurologist etc have also been positive, don't accept a negative response

IslaValargeone · 09/04/2011 12:59

Well you can get a bit fitter if it's a worry for you. A daily walk for example, and maybe clean up your diet if you feel that might be necessary.
Good luck with everything.

eaglewings · 09/04/2011 13:00

just seen your post about tests. Sure lots of people will advise you, but only have those tests you want. Ask yourself what you will do with the results and if you need to know is the route I'm taking

oxocube · 09/04/2011 13:14

Congratulations! What exciting news esp if this is your first baby

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adalle · 09/04/2011 13:18

Thanks everyone

I think my diets not too bad and I certainly wasn't watching it the first few weeks so I only have to curtail the alcohol probably. Although my weight is bad and as a result my bp.

As for fitness I need to work on that I had been unwell for months so I need to get more exercise. It's weird just as i started to get my energy levels back this happens. It does give me a huge incentive to improve.

For the first time I was a bit weepy today so maybe the shock is finally hitting! I am keen not to count my chicks yet as I know there are some hurdles ahead so I am resisting getting excited as it is early days.

Secretly I would love a change of lifestyle with a new challenge. So whilst I say "why not" I am faced by some "don't risk it" family opinions. Not least my other half (what is a dh?)

Ps I am not up on all the abbreviations yet so clues appreciated as I enter this new world of motherhood!

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Casmama · 09/04/2011 13:25

dh - darling/dear husband, bfp - big fat positive (pregnancy test)
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Congratulations hope all goes well.

Casmama · 09/04/2011 13:25

others here sorry

expatinscotland · 09/04/2011 13:26

Congratulations!

My grandmother gave birth to her sixth and last child a couple of months before her 48th birthday.

He was healthy and is now a consultant physician.

nokissymum · 09/04/2011 13:28

if its a boy, you've got to name him "Isaac"

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adalle · 09/04/2011 13:28

Thanks I am catching up just found the acronyms list!!

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adalle · 09/04/2011 13:29

nokissymum why?

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MarieFromStMoritz · 09/04/2011 13:31

How absolutely wonderful for you! I am your age and currently doing iVF, so good for you for getting one for free .

By the way, there is a lady the same age as you who had a baby and writes a column in the Guardian. You might want to check it out.

thederkinsdame · 09/04/2011 13:31

Congratulations! You should read Louisa Dillner's column in the Guardian. She got PG at 48 and gave birth last year...

thederkinsdame · 09/04/2011 13:33

Here: www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/jan/09/luisa-dillner-pregnant-older-mum

oxocube · 09/04/2011 13:33

adalle, because Abraham was 100 and his wife Sarah also rather advanced in years when they conceived their only child, Isaac

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adalle · 09/04/2011 13:40

Thanks peeps I will look it up.

And I will keep this thread updated as things progress.

I think the ante-natal bits are going to be a scream and an eye opener and I think my dh is going to be material for a comedy or divorce (joking)

I have managed to avoid the baby train all these years and now it seems I have to climb on board! I expect I won't be the most conventional mum to be or parent if I get that far.

Thank you everyone for replying definitely lifted my spirits today. X

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