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Shock just found out pregnant at 48!

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adalle · 09/04/2011 12:42

Any old duffers currently active I've seen the old posts and feeling very mixed up at moment. Found this week I am pregnant for the first time at this time in my life and faced with a lot of questions, opinions and health issues. I spent the first day laughing at the news but I know this is serious.

I know girls who've had babies in their early 40s and they faced a mountain of negative medical advice and they were planning kids. I genuinely thought this was the menopause!

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adalle · 09/04/2011 14:13

Thesecondcoming, cheers I read a lot of the posts here last night about the tests and I realised the dilemmas I had always assumed the tests would be routine as never had to consider such things before. I now realise the pros and cons probably what got me worried overnight. I am also a bit flabbergasted that things aren't easier or don't seem to have moved on on the test front. Reading some of the posts was quite moving and I felt a bit of a fraud as I was never trying for kids, this is all very accidental and unplanned!! I know others put a lot of effort into conceiving. I was suddenly struck with the weight of choices and the potential impact not just for me but for the baby.

My mum and some others are clearly excited too which adds an element of pressure however small. I don't think anyone pictured me as a mum.

To lighten things I have nicknamed the baby 'the sprog' and nominated my dog as the nanny.

I hope I can keep laughing.

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ilovesprouts · 09/04/2011 14:19

congrats i had my 3rd @ 39

FluffyDonkey · 09/04/2011 15:42

Congratulations! My DH's mum had her one and only child aged 42 and I haven't noticed any ill effects for mother or child Smile. She even worked up to 2 weeks before the birth...

Add to that the fact that she was/is a single mother and I admit to being in total awe of her.

She is now 72 and gearing up to becoming a grandmother for the first time and she is thrilled! I honestly don't know where she gets the energy from!

Just in case it was worrying you, DH says he has never had a problem with the age gap between them. They are extremely close, even if there are some generation differences.

piprabbit · 09/04/2011 15:55

Congratulations Grin, and good luck.

I'm sure you'll get lots of advice and information, take your time to process what you are told. Some will be rubbish and can be ignored; some will be well-meaning but misguided; some will be contradictory; some will be worrying; some will be reassuring. Ask the questions you need to make your decisions, repeat them if you need more clarity, don't feel pressured into making rushed choices and decisions instantly - go away and consider.

Pregnancy and parenthood are definitely a bit of a roller-coaster, enjoy the ride.

nanbred · 17/04/2011 13:26

Hi Adalle

Congratulations!

I found out yesterday that I'm pg at 47y. Have been pg before, but lost three, and decided to resign ourselves to being a couple. This is a bit of a shock to say the least. My dh is away at the moment and doesn't know. Will share our news when he's back next week. I think I'm around 5 weeks, but can't even recall having a period last month, but digital hpt says 1-2 weeks, which would equate to 5-6 weeks pg, and I suspect I'm 5 weeks. Hope all well with you. I had nuchal and cvs with my second pregnancy, so if you need more info about my experience of these tests you are welcome to message me.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 13:53

Congratulations!! Grin

I can only imagine what is going through both of your minds right now Grin

WRT (with regards to) the testing... I would only ever get all of the tests done if a) I would terminate if they indicated all was not well or b) I simply wanted to be prepared. There are so many threads on here that can help you make your mind up what to do... however, I think you need to let this news settle in first Grin

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 17/04/2011 13:54

Nanbread - congratulations to you too! I guess you are both excited :) and worried :( I really hope this pregnancy goes well for you x

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Carrotsandcelery · 17/04/2011 15:32

adalle what wonderful news. Congratulations! You have made me smile. I really hope all goes well for you. Smile

exoticfruits · 17/04/2011 16:26

Congratulations and good luck.( Perhaps it will counter the ageism on MN )

KellyM256 · 17/04/2011 16:40

Hey Keyliegh I know about this app..i have it!! downloaded it about 2 weeks ago..it is truly amazing..!!! but, u have 2 be in a quiet room in order to hear well..tha's the only downside...

discobeaver · 17/04/2011 17:40

Thanks for the app recommendation keyliegh, my boyfriend has been itching to get a doppler but this is much cheaper, thanks!

If only there was as app that would get up in the night to go to the loo for you!

Congrats bwt, and to you too Adalle, please keep us all updated on ow things go! Didn't Arlene Philips have a baby at 47 or something?

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adalle · 18/04/2011 18:16

Nanbred thanks congrats to you too and thanks other peeps. Once I have had my first ante natal I will know more about how things are going to be handled.

Still early days but will keep you posted thankfully my DH is over the initial shock now it knocked him sideways at first.

I think I am going to treated as high risk or something similar but havent got the detail yet.

Life is one big adventure. Smile

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duchesse · 18/04/2011 20:16

HI adalle, just breaking my Lenten resolution to stay away from Mumsnet to mention our Old Gimmers thread. I had DD3 at 41.5 and although I did get a lot more scrutiny that I had in my 20s with the first wave of children, I had absolutely not a single thing wrong with me in pregnancy. The birth was a bit crap but nothing to do with age. Statistically things are more likely be different in your 40s but that's why they screen so well- you get super-well looked after, and statistics don't mean that anything will go wrong. Come and join us over here if you feel you'd like some moral support from them that know.

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adalle · 26/04/2011 17:21

Update duplicate From other thread

Well folks just pasting post here too so you are all up to speed had an urgent scan today at 8 weeks following weekend of spotting and bleeding

Well looks like the tadpole is no more they are going to monitor me this week naturally but just a lot of fluid showed up on scan. it was nearly a blood bath in the scan room tbh - sorry tmi.

I am strangely relaxed now all the stress was beforehand and we even joked we might try on purpose next time!! Very tired and still showing positive for pg on all tests so I have to go back for more tests later this week.

I knew I was high risk so don't fret I'm fine peeps. Thx for all your support everyone I was so glad to find so much info and help on MN Talk it has been a godsend for someone who knew nothing. could this be a new hobby for me??? DH seems strangely keen Hmm he thinks his sperm is good for another decade or so - doubt my bits will last that long!

Good luck all Decembers hoping you all have a fab 7 months or so ahead and your boobs never look back! Waves Grin x x x

Thanks to everyone on MN love you - power to the female of the species!

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discobeaver · 26/04/2011 18:59

Ah Adalle sorry to hear that, really. You sound so together, hope you are alright, look after yourself x

magicmelons · 26/04/2011 20:07

Sorry to hear that Adalle, i bet its all been a rollercoaster.

ChippingInLovesEasterEggs · 27/04/2011 00:55

Adalle - very sorry to hear that :(

MN is a great time waster hobby!!

Keep in touch & I hope it all goes well if you do decide to start ttc!

PoppysMom · 27/04/2011 02:11

I'm very sorry to hear that Adalle :(.
All the best for the future and hopefully see you soon on another thread :)

BarbieLovesKen · 27/04/2011 10:13

I'm really sorry Adalle. Wishing you all the best.

nanbred · 30/04/2011 15:08

So sorry Adalle, I know how you feel, I also miscarried last week. Any older ladies reading this, hope it doesn't make you feel down. There's always a chance. Good luck to all with pgs. Thanks for the support.

ThatVikRinA22 · 30/04/2011 15:14

im so sorry to read your latest adalle and nanbred, wishing you both well. x

tea4tw0 · 30/04/2011 22:01

Hi - I'm 42 with my first due to make it's appearance into the world in about 10 weeks time, my hubby is 47. It's a bit of a shock, when you come so far in life, but we are both looking forward to it and just believe it was meant to be this way. All the best with yours.

nappyaddict · 04/05/2011 00:07

Sorry to hear your news :(

Let us know if you do decide to try again when you're both ready. There's a thread here you might like to join if you do http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/1182749-Feisty-Fabulous-Forty-somethings-part-3

I know someone who conceived naturally at 47 and had a baby at 48, and if you conceived once at 48, you can probably do it again :)

tea4tw0 · 04/05/2011 13:03

oh heck - sorry Adalle - i just realised i hadn't read the 2nd page when i did my update - i feel really insensitive now. Take care

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