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Terrible 12 week scan results - cant stop crying.

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misty0 · 06/04/2011 08:02

I think i'm facing a termination. I'm 12+6. '12' week scan yesterday evening gave me a 1:3 risk of downs or another abnormality. Hospital is sposed to ring today to give me a CVS appt. asap.

I CANNOT pull myself together for more than 5 mins at a time - crying and crying. Got a family to sort out. Daughters birthday today. Meal out later ect. My partner is being lovely - hes gone to work this morning tho'. He needed to go, it's Ok.

I cant cope......never fallen apart like this b4. Usually very strong.

Any words of advice?

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pinkytheshrinky · 06/04/2011 15:22

Good luck for tomorrow sweetheart - a really scary time for you all and sending hugs

greenzebra · 06/04/2011 15:31

I shall be thinking of you and have everything crossed for good results.

ilovesprouts · 06/04/2011 15:34

good luck

Beesok · 06/04/2011 18:05

Misty I can't add much to what has been said above but please please try to be positive as much as it's hard - honestly it's a high risk but it's 33% vs 66%! so there is also a very high possibility that all is OK.

I haven't gone through this myself but have had 2 close friends who were in a similar situation - panic and stress because of high risk and then they had all extra tests and their babies are absolutely fine! One is 3 and the other is 6 months.

Try to take your mind off of it if you can - the limbo waiting stage is horrible :( Keeping my fingers tightly crossed for you!!!!

candr · 06/04/2011 19:00

Oh Misty, that is a real shock for you but it sounds like some sensible advice from the others with experience - sending lots of hugs and posotive thoughts your way xxx

FannyLogan · 06/04/2011 19:10

I had a 1:3 as well, nuchal was 4.6mm and bad bloods. Had an amnio at 16 weeks and it all came back fine. Now 34 weeks and counting...

Fingers crossed for you - it all seems like a bad dream when I look back now.

thederkinsdame · 06/04/2011 20:00

And I forgot to mention, someone I know had similar risks and now has a happy, healthy 6 year old. There are some really positive outcomes on here and I will be hoping for the best for you and your DH, too.

witches · 06/04/2011 21:42

It must be hard news to hear and each person know what they can cope or deal with. As some others have said the odds that everything will be ok are still good. Im not sure if its what you want to hear but there will be lots of mumsnetters who have got children with one of these conditions and im sure there are lots of very postive stories. Im not trying to judge you in any way but just incase you wanted more info. All the best.

BadRoly · 06/04/2011 21:44

Oh my heart goes out to you - nothing can prepare you for the shock. I hope the CVS goes well tomorrow xx

IwishIwasmoreorganised · 06/04/2011 21:54

I'll be thinking of you tomorow and the next few days.

Fingers crossed you get good news.

blondebutonlyfaking · 06/04/2011 22:03

Thinking of you and

ALovelyBunchOfCoconuts · 07/04/2011 08:27

Hope the CVS goes ok this morning.

Sending you all love x

Am36butfeel66 · 07/04/2011 08:33

Just to let you know that someone else is thinking of you this morning.

lilymolly · 07/04/2011 08:57

me also thinking about you x

PoppysMom · 07/04/2011 08:59

Thinking of you! xx

howy123 · 07/04/2011 09:02

This happened to me too, I was told qt 20 week scan that my son had a one in two chance of downs and he is perfectly normal I had an amnio to get a dfinitive answer and waiting for the results was torture. It had never occurres to me that there could be summat wrong. I feel for you but it may be that your unborn child is perfectly healthy

IslaValargeone · 07/04/2011 09:03

Everything crossed here for you Misty. xxxxxx

catinboots · 07/04/2011 09:04

Another one thinking of you!! xx

FeralGirlCambs · 07/04/2011 09:14

Good morning Misty. Got everything crossed for you today. Good luck. x

CakeandRoses · 07/04/2011 09:20

Thinking of you this morning. X

VivClicquot · 07/04/2011 09:27

Good luck this morning Misty.

This happened to DH and I in our last pregnancy, but in our case, we chose not to have the amnio because they could tell from the scan that the baby's abnormality was so severe that there was a less than 1% chance the baby would survive to term, so we chose to terminate.

I truly hope you won't need to, but if things don't go as well as you'd hoped today, there are lots of amazing women on the AnteNatal Tests and Choices threads who can help provide support and advice. The earlier recommendation for Arc too is a good one - they have all sorts of info / literature and people at the end of the phone to talk to, so please don't ever feel you're alone. And as I say, fingers crossed it won't come to that anyway. x

hsmom · 07/04/2011 09:31

Thinking of you, misty. I have had a CVS in last pg and amnio in this one. No one can imagine the fear you feel or the pain of the waiting. Both mine came back fine (just got full karyotype results on the amnio yesterday).
Good luck xxxxx

justmee · 07/04/2011 09:38

sending lots of love this morning to you

i myself am going through something simular i have had a nuchal fold reading which was showing 4.8 on the 1st scan went to another doctor who saw 3.8 after about 40 minutes of looking iv had 3 mc and am on clexane injections this time after 3 months of worrying about miscarrying you can imagine my reastion when one the scan the baby was moving around playing nicely and then to be told the nuchal was reading high my whole world crashed down ..bloods were taken leaving me a 1-57 chance of having a baby with d-s i was devostated and spoke to our doctor who told me about the risk of mc and advised me with my condition not to have a cvs but an amnio if i wanted altho to have this done i would need to stop my injections which already puts my risk shooting high car journey was a blur and i tried to keep myself buusy help from sites has really helped me i dont think we will go through with the amnio due to my risks but im waiting my 16 week scan next week and fingers crossed eveything will be ok for both of us

i just want to let you know if you ever need anyone to talk to im here and you only have to email me ill get back to you

please try stay strong your baby wouldnt want you being upset just try stay strong for both of you :) xxx all the best today let us know how you get on hun

Millymolliemandy · 07/04/2011 09:49

Sending you lots of love today Misty, will be thinking about you, and keeping everything crossed.

sb6699 · 07/04/2011 09:57

Sending you lots of love and hoping everything goes well for you today xx

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