Being made to feel like a freak because I don't want to find out the sex!

[MrsBloomingTroll]

Is anyone else finding they are being made to feel like a freak because they don't want to know the sex of their baby?

DH and I didn't find out last time either, and we enjoyed the anticipation, discussing names, and the finding out. We actually have the best of both worlds already because our lovely DD is neither a girly-girl (although happy to wear a dress/tutu/fairy wings from time to time) nor a complete tomboy (but loves kicking a ball around).

I think it's also because we've had quite a long journey trying to conceive. When we first started out we had had discussions like "a born in would be perfect because ..." but as it became clear we wouldn't have that choice, we have just been grateful for any baby born in any month.

But we seem to be in the small minority amongst our friends in terms of not minding either way/not finding out. And I keep finding myself in conversations where I'm being made to feel like a complete weirdo for not wanting to find out before the birth.

The "nursery" is our spare room, painted cream, and the baby will be dressed in white for the first weeks, as was DC1. We don't like baby pink or baby blue anyway. So what difference does it make?

Please tell me it's not just me being made to feel like this?

I found out with my last two, have one of each flavour now, so not intending to find out with this one. So I am going to join the "freaks" and quite excited I love suprises.

MrsS your poor friend and her DS, that's awful.

Definitely 100% not finding out!

It never occured to me to find out with DD and no-one thought it strange but she is 8yo now. DS was born 18months later and we did find out with him simply because I wanted to figure out what clothes to keep etc. (Actually ended up keeping them all because I knew I didn't want to end my family there)

Fastforward nearly 7 years (yes I have really kept all the baby stuff for that long!!! and it's been overseas and back hee hee) - Now 22wks pg with DC3 and definitely do not want to know. I guess it helps having one of each but I feel very strongly that I want the surprise element.

I had a CVS and they asked me if I wanted to know the sex and I had a bit of a wobbly moment but managed to say no. Unfortunately they very helpfully told me that if I ever change my mind to give them a ring as it's on file. Had to sit on my hands for a few days after that.

MIL and I spent a day and a half going through all the baby stuff in the basement and she did put some pressure on me about finding out as it would be "so much easier" to know now and get rid of the pink/blue stuff we don't need. I resisted.

My sister lives in NZ and found out with both of hers - it's very common there and yes she does think I'm a backward freak.

What happened to your friend MrsS is nothing to do with finding out the gender. She sounds like she was depressed and had gender disappointment issues far above and beyond the small question of finding out in advance. Poor woman.

I'm pregnant and so is my sister - both with our first - she's going to find out but DP and I have decided to wait.

I like that he'll get to phone all our families with the news of it's a boy/ girl.

And selfishly after all the hard work of labour I want an exciting finale - I've always been a fan of suspense books and films!

(FYI my sister always reads the last pages of a book first so she's definitely suited to finding out!)