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Just found out that I am having a third boy

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TallulahDoesTheHula · 04/03/2011 14:28

Had scan this morning and its a boy.
This pregnancy has been so different to the other two that if I had had to guess I would have said it was a girl.
Every single person I know has said that they are positive I am having a girl this time.
DH very much wanted a girl. he loves our boys to bits but he would also love to have a daughter and this will be our last child.
SO many people have said to me things like 'well fingers crossed its a girl this time' even though I have always said that I will be happy with either sex.

Now I know its a boy I feel really flat. I know DH is disappointed. He barely said a word after the scan and has gone to work now.
I have not told anyone yet and I'm not excited to at all as I feel that no one will be happpy about it or excited and that it will seem like disappointing news to them.
I know that people will say things like 'oh nevermind' etc (especially people like my Nan who always says silly things) and I am not looking forward to it at all.

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thisisyesterday · 04/03/2011 14:29

well I am happy for you! congratulations!!!

I have 3 boys, and it rocks

ShavingGodfreysPrivates · 04/03/2011 14:29

How sad that your DH feel this way.

Boys are best anyway

< runs and hides before the fallout >

justabouthappy · 04/03/2011 14:30

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charitygirl · 04/03/2011 14:34

Think the best thing to do with Nan and similar will be to cut them off fast so say 'it's a hat trick, boy 3!' and when they start muttering about girls say 'oh that would have been lovely, bug I'm chuffed to bit about three brothers/I know what I'm doing with boys/I just don't think of my kids like a pick n mix'! Get it in fast and shut it down so they don't say hurtful things.

Don't fell like you have to make your DH feel better - he has his own reaction, he'll get over it, but it's not your job to get him there!

And congratulations!

BCBG · 04/03/2011 14:34

Oh bless! I am sure it is natural to feel a little fat right now, but that will soon wear off. I have several friends ( honestly) with 3 boys, and I would say that they are all really close knit and fun families. I totally understand that you think no one will be excited, but they will be, just the same, and the obvious thing to say is that if you were told that there might be a problem with the baby all that you would wish for would be a healthy baby and you wouldn't care about it's sex at all, then.

I think it's easy to get caught up in everyone else's expectations and forget that YOU are carrying this wonderful thing, another son and you should be so proud of yourself for that miracle x

BCBG · 04/03/2011 14:35

Flat not fat

LeroyJethroGibbs · 04/03/2011 14:37

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thisisyesterday · 04/03/2011 14:37

to be fair she probably is feeling a bit fat now too! lol

ShowOfHands · 04/03/2011 14:40

Oh congratulations. Brilliant news.

It's strange when you only know the gender of your child and nothing else. But your little boy will be unique and wonderful by virtue of being your child, not because of what's between his legs.

Celebrate. Please do. I'm happy for you, you're going to have a wonderful little family unit.

And be a bit kind to your dh. It's okay to be a bit sad about what you won't be having. The possibility of a girl is now closed, that's a big thing and his reaction is fine. He'll be just fine but don't berate him for an honest reaction to something. I'm sure you wouldn't anyway.

JimBobSquintPants · 04/03/2011 14:43

Oh, one of our best friends is one of three boys. His mum loves it, she just looks so proud in photos of her and her boys. Even more so with her three boys, their three wives and her six grandchildren! Honestly, give yourself time to get used to the idea, ignore the idiotic comments (be prepared for a few you're creating a whole football team ones) and all will be fine

Oh and be prepared to get through about a million of when they are teenagers

CONGRATULATIONS!

olgafromthevolga · 04/03/2011 14:44

I do understand how you feel, but I am a single mother of three boys and it absolutely rocks! I was shocked too when I found out that my littlest was another boy but now I can't imagine having my family any other way. They just all fit together, have similar interests and are each others best buddies (even if its a bit squabblesome sometimes)...and the best of it is when they smother me in hugs and tell me how gorgeous I am! Give yourself a bit of time to get over the disappointment and then get ready for a really fun ride!

ShowOfHands · 04/03/2011 14:47

Oh gawd yes. DH is the eldest of three boys (and then a surprise girl) and the food bill when they were teens.

nancy10 · 04/03/2011 15:03

I'm expecting my 4th. I have 3 boys already and have been told this baby is a girl. Personally, I didn't care what the sex was as long as the baby was healthy but on the day of the scan I really prayed for a girl. Not because I would have been disappointed with a boy but I couldn't face telling people and listening to their negative comments. As it happens I have decided not to tell anyone the sex anyway. It's funny listening to the comments already such as, 'What are you going to do if it's another boy?' and ' I really hope it's a girl this time.' Also my sister has 4 girls and she receives just as much negativity as I do, you just can't win. Congratulations!

midori1999 · 04/03/2011 16:10

Congratulations!

I've got three boys and it's absolutely fab! They do have their 'moments' but generally get on really, really well.

I have since had twin girls that we lost and am now expecting a girl again. Tbh, I almost wish this baby was a boy as the stupid comments people make are getting right on my wick! I have informed DH that we will need at least one more baby after this so people don't assume we were trying for a girl and stopped when we got one.

bluerodeo · 04/03/2011 16:15

it's lovely to have 3 of the same! congratulations!

I have 3 girls

Icoulddoitbetter · 04/03/2011 16:16

My DH is one of four boys and his mother says that's exactly the way she wanted it. All the DGC's so far are boys too, and I'm now (very early on) pg with no 2 and I'm convinced it's a boy.

Boys are fab!

shmoz · 04/03/2011 16:16

3 boys sounds fab to me. I have 1 DS at the moment, if/when we have next baby I will be hoping for another boy.
Congrats!!!!!!!

porcupine11 · 04/03/2011 16:22

I have two boys and have always been quite vocal about wanting a girl eventually, so am expecting the same reactions when I go for no.3. Weirdly I kind of feel a boy is inevitable... I won't do a gender scan as I know I'll feel disappointed if it's a boy, whereas directly after birth it's much easier to genuinely not care. I don't have anything helpful to say other than you're not alone in feeling that way! And when I really stop to think about it, I wouldn't actually much fancy bringing up/spending lots of time with any of the little girls I know - I think I'm v tuned into boys after 2.5 yrs.

Northernlurker · 04/03/2011 16:25

Whenever you have two of one sex people assume the only reason to have a third is to get the other sex. Happened to us - and people asked if we were disappointed in our beautiful dd3.

Feeling flat about this is fine - a girl would have been lovely I'm sure but your baby boy will bring you much joy too and you and dh will settle down with the idea.

KirstyJC · 04/03/2011 16:25

Congratulations! I have 2 boys and am 37weeks with DC3 - we don't know what it is, but I really would love either - 2 boys are fab, so imagine how much more fun 3 would be......!

Also, it means you never have to open birthday presents and say 'Oh, a Bratz doll and lots of princess-style tat, how thoughtful....' like my poor sis (mother of 2 DDs) .

grumpypants · 04/03/2011 16:30

I think it's a totally okay reaction. It's not true or helpful to say that gender doesn't make a difference. It is a different game bringing up boys - and much as you may have a 'tomboy' or a ballet dancing son, that doesn't really help. In my head I have a little daughter, who won't be. (Sopunding like a loon here...) But, I have three boys and they are great. Not sure about the healthy baby bit either, that's not a great help to be told you should be grateful.

Chandon · 04/03/2011 16:31

congratulations!

I have 2 boys and would dearly LOVE another one.

I am always slightly jealous of people with 3 or 4 boys.

I always think, the only thing better than two boys would be three boys.

(not that i do not liek girls, but i just don't "know" about girls IYSWIM).

Boys are so loving to their mums.

I think you'll love it.

Wish I was about to have another baby boy...feeling a bit teary now actually, oh well, silly...

anyway,

exoticfruits · 04/03/2011 16:37

Congratulations-3 boys are lovely!

frida75 · 04/03/2011 16:38

Congratulations!!!

I'm 27 weeks with boy 3 and although there was a moment at my scan of "Really?? Another one??" I am so pleased as we'd had 4 miscarriages before this pregnancy and feel blessed to be pregnant at all.

BUT I totally understand how you feel. Everyone is expecting me to have a girl and I couldn't handle their unwarranted disappointment on my behalf, so I haven't told anyone that we found out the sex - I figured they'll love it as much as I will once its born. Practically everyday I get the "Are you hoping for a girl this time"/"wouldn't a girl be lovely" comments and it makes me feel really defensive!

I look at my two gorgeous, boisterous, bonkers, loving and caring boys who are completely different and feel so excited that they'll soon have another member in their gang.

sahara13 · 04/03/2011 16:39

Congrats! Thats really great news. I would say that though-im a mum of 3 boys too! Its great honestly-mine all get on so well despite ranging in age between 10 and 20mths. Pairing socks is a pain esp with DHs as well but they are great for hugs!!

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