Thoughtless things that non-pregnant people/shops/services do that annoy you?

[PukeyMummy]

In Tesco earlier, wanted to buy a Mother & Baby magazine. Obviously the best place to put a Mum & Baby magazine is on the top shelf. Yes, the top shelf.

Obviously not done deliberately or maliciously, just very thoughtless .

I don't really want to get into MIL/DH-bashing, but another example would be DH cooking eggs/fish next to me in the kitchen after I've just told him I'm feeling sick with morning sickness. Or MIL spending the entire weekend banging on about food/new recipes when I've also told her the same.

What thoughtless things do non-pregnant people/shops/services do that annoy you now you're pregnant? The more trivial the better!

(I'm a bit bored today, can you tell?)

I dont appreciate being told "how big are you"!?

Also "are there twins in there"?
That was off a teacher at my DS school who does not say much. She asked how much longer do you have I said 10 weeks she said "no way it cant have much more room in there"!

I felt a but fed up after that to be honest. Think its the pregnancy hormones normally I would not give a crap!

I also hate with a passion getting the washing out of the washing machine for it to drop on the floor over and over and to have to keep bending down to pick it up im now 33 weeks its getting a challange. DP saw mr do this the other night after I picked it all up he then said "you should of asked me to do that" I was like WTF why did you just not do it? Im not working loads at the moment and dont mind doing the house work but come on? Am I being a wuss? I keep cleaning the floor as well its not nice. He said "just ask me to do it".

Has anyone else been doing all the house work and childcare even though you feel ready to fall a sleep on your feet?

Massive apologies - I admit to being guilty of asking my best mate "Are congratulations in order" when she announced her pregnancy.

In my defence, she had already clearly stated her desire to be an aunty but not a mum, so I knew the pg was unplanned

The worst, for me, is from my FIL who, as a former dog breeder, constantly compares my pregnancies to pregnancies of dogs. The first time he was so concerned that my husband is so much bigger than me, as apparently you wouldn't do that with dogs .

He also makes comments that women should have zippers installed.

I also really despise, right after giving birth, people deciding for me whether or not I should have another.

Oh man that is funny being compared to dog breeding!? What the hell! Hes a man he does not get it anyways. Sounds like a silly bloke to me!

Yep your right so when you having the next one? Would you do it again? Cant of been that bad then? From people who have NOT had children!

People who dont speak to you coming over and touching your bump!! Who the hell are you?!
(I asked a lady at work who I knew if she minded if I touched her bump first! I wanted to feel baby move I had not been pregnant at that point!)

Just got a text off my DP to say he has lost 4lb thats annoying as Im putting it on!!! Im pleased for him but hey come on. Add that to the annoying list of things...

My DP for;

1. Going on a health kick and getting a six pack while I am starting to grow

1. Cooking things like bacon, steak etc when he know it makes me vomit at the smell

1. For drinking my special bottle of wine last night which was a present before christmas (found out not long after)

And also for my own mother after telling her about my horrendous morning sickness her telling me 'I never had a problem with you or your brother'. AGHHHHHHHHH

Like many people, I'm sick of the 'Is it twins?'/ 'Are you sure there's only one in there?'/ 'Blimey, you're big' comments. Am only 20 weeks. Have taken to snapping, 'Yes, well, I've always been a fat lass so I wasn't going to be small, was I?' at them and walking off in a puff of poisonous pregnancy hormones.

Currently 17 wks with #4. Annoying things include:
'was it planned?'
'are you mad?'
'is it a good thing?'
'do you think it's wise?'
'how will you cope?'
'what are you hoping for this time?'

To which I reply:
'yes, probably but happy, yes, yes, about as well as I do now, anything healthy will do me'.
In that order.

I do remember a particularly lardy family refusing to allow me to sit at the Blue Planet Aquarium when I was on crutches with SPD last time. I cried. They looked away and tucked into their lardy snacks. A very nice man let me have his seat despite the fact that he was then not sitting next to his two small children. I didn't tell DH until we were on our way home for fear that he might hunt the lardy ones down and say or do something unwise...

On the whole though, people are lovely IME.

There's a monsoon in Birmingham that has children's stuff on the first floor with no lift and a huge flight of stairs. Nightmare for pregnant women and impossible for pushchairs.

My sister and I asked how we could get up there with the buggies, the woman said "just leave the babies down here" we left!

they breathe :)

armi nice answer, will have to remember that lol. MIL said I looked like a barrage balloon, I was only about 24 weeks at the time. Now I am 32 I just content myself with evil glares when she goggles at my stomach. I'm pregnant, it has to grow, its not unheard of

hubby annoys me, cos I am big anyway, but he is stick thin and CONSTANTLY stuffs his face with biscuits and cakes and doesn't put an ounce on then takes the mickey cos I am gasping and wheezing everywhere especially up the stairs. I am on beta blockers for bp, which has made my asthma play up (never has before) and my lungs don't have enough room to get air. He won't be laughing when I collapse half way up and he has to carry me back downstairs (evil snigger)

About people saying how big you are: I really do think they're just trying to express how well the baby seems to be growing. Clumsy, I know, but let's not be too precious.

What's really pissing me off, though, is the pissing Wii Fit, which keeps telling me that I'm putting on weight. I haven't found a 'pregnant' setting - major design flaw.

Also, DH, who isn't a big drinker and generally sticks to beer or spirits, suddenly developing a taste for wine, my tipple of choice.

People assuming we want a boy this time because we have two girls. Makes me really sad, as though they're saying that our girls aren't good enough .

That said, it took us ages to get pregnant with this one so I'm just enjoying every minute .

BigBabyBoots - I'm so with you on the smokers thing, I can't stand people breathing smoke all over me normally, let alone whilst pregnant. I make a very obvious cough & rub bump movement these days.

I've been avoiding my Wii Fit Prinpo, from the fear of what it may tell me about my weight! :( Definitely needs a pregnancy setting, some positive reinforcement like "Wow, you look fabulous, you're growing, being pregnant suits you!"

I'm with everyone on the lack of petite maternity wear. And baby clothes upstairs - PITA, although I've heard it's to prevent children running out of the shop?

OTOH, was in Do It All on the weekend and asked if they had a customer toilet - the assistant took one look at my bump and said 'no, but wait there and I'll get someone to show you to the staff toilets'. Thought that was lovely

the fact that the only shopping trolleys with child seats in are the really deep ones that i can't reach the bottom of without squashing the bump!

People with small children sometimes only want a little bit of shopping too!

my mother picking my sisters kids up from school for a week when she had a cold but not visiting me once to help with 2 yr old ds whilst i was laid up with flu for 7 weeks from 10 weeks pregnant with dc2

lovely dp did do a fab job of looking after me when not at work :)

Omg are you mad?
have you not heard of the population crisis?
Are you going to get rid if its another boy?
Husbands nan to husband your not a real man till you have a daughter
FECK OFF.

Im 15 weeks with dc no 5 and already have 4 ds's. I also look like a bag of shit have low bp and am likely to twat the next insensitive or downright vile comment maker right in the mouth.

Can't believe the comments you've had cjdamoo! That's awful! Hope you're feeling better soon & your bp picks up! :(

Here's another couple:
"Are you scared? My friend's friend had a baby two months ago & said it was the scariest, most painful thing she's ever done"

Mothercare

• their awful customer service
• their lack of customer toilets
• their (mainly) badly trained staff who clearly know nothing about pregnancy / babies / kids

I'd like to add a very specific one:
The absolute twat in the white van who went in the left lane at the roundabout the other day only to cut us up on the roundabout to double back on himself & almost made DP crash (would have been quite bad too if DP's reactions weren't so quick) with me in the car! :( People just don't think I swear...

bumble34 I am 100% with you on the shopping trolleys. So ridiculous!

That is something I had not considered about the shopping trolleys. Even when I not pregnant I am too short to easily reach the bottom of the big trolleys that have the child seats. I am pregnant with DC1 and have just realised I am going to spend the next several years struggling to reach to get my shopping out of the trolley!

Inlaws, don't need an excuse to be annoying, but fed up of hearing, in my day we didn't have things like epidural s, we had to do it without pain relief, they have it too easy now. This from the MIL who has to go to a specialist dentist to be put to sleep for a FILLING!

Today is not a good day hormone wise anyway, then they have the cheek to ring up and ask hubby if he wants to go out for his dinner, then each of the kids separately, including youngest ds who already thinks they don't want him (which they don't) who they never normally ask, so they must be desperate, but not desperate enough to ask their daughter in law if she would like to go. Its so nice being so obviously wanted, yet they will be all over baby when they find out its a girl.

Wonder if hormones would get me off if I snuck in and smothered them one night :D

I am with Trinaluce on the people parking too close to my car door so I can barely get out - obviously people who park next to me after I've left don't know I'm pregnant but it is still incredibly rude and inconsidereate and annoying!
I used to child mind and had 3 stage 1 car seats in the car and people would still park really close on both sides so it was almost impossible to get the 3 children (all under 2) back into the car and belted in - and that would happen in "child orientated" soft play places and woodland playground car park (where there was usually loads of room to park a bit further away) not just general town car parks.

Where we live 2 children is the norm (though there are 2 families in our tiny village with 5) and one mum I have known for ages said basically "Oh well, it can happen to anyone" when I told her I was pregnant, implying it must have been an accident, and a few people have asked directly if it was planned - but nothing nearly as rude as some on here has had!

A couple of people have asked me why I want another one when I already have "one of each" ... ?

I have had the twins comment lots of times, including from my dad (who is a doctor).

My 3 year old asks me each time I have an antenatal apt if the doctor will get the baby out this time.

My mother decided to tell me last time I saw her what a caesarian would be like, what problems I would have after, and what a caesarian baby would look like - this will be my 3rd caesarian birth (1st emergency, 2nd and 3rd planned) and though she is a doctor she has never had a caesarian herself. Also she came to stay "to help" after my last c-section and didn't lift a finger, didn't even clear her own plates away after the dinners I cooked, just wanted to sit on the sofa hold the baby "so you can get on" and to criticise my house work standards while she was about it, despite the fact I had only had the section a couple of weeks before - and was using a sling before she arrived so didn't need anyone to hold him - some understanding she showed then!

My next door neighbour offered to take my kids to Kindergarten along with hers as it must be getting a bit much for me now - very nice of her, but in the same breath she asked me to look after her 2 all afternoon after Kindergarten while she was at work as her mother had an apt - 10 minute run in the car too much for a 30 week pregnant lady, looking after an extra 5 and 3 year old alongside my own 2 for 4 hours no problem!

Another neighbour (who has 3) spent ages telling me her 3rd (who is 6 now) was a mistake and 3 is a rubbish number!

Enough rants? Up until I was 20 weeks or so DH kept forgetting I was pregnant and suggesting non pregnancy compatible things including booking a holiday almost exactly on my due date (despite early and large bump) but he has finally got his head around it now I am 30 weeks!

Most people have been lovely though!

My mum saying ' here these don't fit me-too big' and giving me big selection of pretty size 10 knickers. She knows I'm size 16 and 31 weeks pregnant?!?!? She must be getting old?!

Big queues in shops (esp mothercare) and no chairs for you to sit on while waiting.

Benefits people who say in the first weeks after birth ' try phoning first thing in the morning', and putting me on hold for 15 mins in a queue.

My mum said I will lose the baby if I don't rest and put my feet up. I have a two year old toddler and I haven't seen much support offered!

For every dickhead who asks me when I am due and what I am I going to call him/her?

What the hell has it got to do with them?!

My Partner eating mussels and buying himself nice food I can't eat and suggesting we go to sushi bar for his birthday.