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What's the most unsupportive thing your partner's done when you are/were pregnant?

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Rubineski · 10/10/2005 19:13

just curious!

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stitch · 10/10/2005 19:20

ds1 made he live with his mother.

ds2 was his usual annoying self.nothing particularly bad stands out.

dd refused to acknowledge i had a problem with spd. carried on working 24/7 leaving me alone with the boys, ds2 was 19 months when dd was born. refused to ask his mother to help me take care of them

when dd was 9 days old, went to work. told me i had to realise i was the mother of three kids andi had to take care of them. he actually only took two days off as mom was here till day 8.

manicmama · 10/10/2005 19:22

Went to the pub most nights even when I was due - not very helpful because I wanted him to drive me to the hospital! He then went to sleep when I told him I was in labour and asked me to wake him up when it was time to go!!

MiladyMarsLady · 10/10/2005 19:34

hog the bathroom when I was throwing up continually with the DTs. He kept complaining that I wouldn't leave him in peace... like I had a choice. G'ah!!!!!

twirlaround · 10/10/2005 19:35

come home pissed late at night continually

spagblog · 10/10/2005 19:36

Refused to touch the bump - acted like it was contagious or might bite...Told me that he didn't find pregnant women attractive...

twirlaround · 10/10/2005 19:39

most supportive thing dp did was to put on weight himself

LilacBump · 10/10/2005 19:43

not want to tell his family until 18 weeks and we had to visit a lot with me looking green and wanting to throw up, but i had to smile and seem like nothing was up.

ixel · 10/10/2005 19:46

Keeps saying 'dont worry, you'll get back into shape one day'. I think he genuinely thinks he's making me feel better, but its really noe helping!!

trefusis · 10/10/2005 19:58

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ladymooofspooksville · 10/10/2005 20:14

When I dashed in from work one evening, past him (on the phone to his mother) so I could upchuck into the toilet, which was something I did morning, noon and night for the first 4 months of being pregnant with ds1...he followed me up, stood in the doorway observing, and said "hey, my Mum wasn't sick with any of us three...not once."

mancmum · 10/10/2005 20:16

call me Jabba The Hut as a term of affection -- as I did not know anything about Star Wars at the time, thought it was quite cute... but boy did he suffer when I got a Star Wars manual...

fisil · 10/10/2005 20:17

so mine wasn't the only one drinking in the evenings when the beany was cooked. I was very careful to go into labour during the day both times, lol!

ThomBat · 10/10/2005 20:19

You mean from generally seeming to think being pregnant is exactly the same as not being pregnant. You mean apart from taking it upon himself to keep having little daytime sleeps at weekends. You mean apart from on his turn giving Lottie breakfast he left her in the kitchen with the cereal bowl on the floor, calling out daddy while he lay on the sofa with all the throw cushions on his head!!!!! Nothing, he's been great!!!!!!!!!

kama · 10/10/2005 20:21

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serahscarer · 10/10/2005 20:30

Glad my DP's not the only w*nker around here then!

vicimelly · 10/10/2005 20:34

Leave me and move to Australia!!! b***d!!

vicimelly · 10/10/2005 20:34

(he's now exp for obvious reasons!) lol

Donbean · 10/10/2005 20:38

When midwife made me phone him at work to come and take me to the hospital because pre eclampsia was evident and BP was through the roof, he came, dropped me off at the hospital then went on a bowling night out with work.
I was 34 weeks pregnant and miserable....id have wanted to go bowling to get away from me at that time too to be fair!

Rhubarb · 10/10/2005 20:38

I was very depressed when I was pregnant, both times. But this didn't stop dh going out almost every weekend and coming back bladdered. He'd also drink a bottle of wine in front of me, knowing I was dying for a drink! He scolded me for having 2 large glasses of red wine when I was pregnant on my birthday, then he finished the bottle. He wanted to go to a wedding in London when I was 8 months pregnant, with our dd in tow, stay at HIS friend's house so that he could go out with his friend, smoke dope and get pissed, leaving me in this strange house, alone with dd. He didn't get his way on that one. He would also smoke in front of me and generally doing all the things that men do that earn them the nickname 'bastards'!

Rhubarb · 10/10/2005 20:39

Oooh, yeah, mine used to moan like hell for the couple of times I had to go into hospital with scares. He thought it was a waste of time and he'd rather be in the pub!

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Rubineski · 10/10/2005 22:06

Thank you, ladies, for those insights. Sorry if it brought back a few bad memories.

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meggymoo · 10/10/2005 22:09

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Rubineski · 10/10/2005 22:13

Shall we just move on to annoying things they do the rest of the time, not just when you're pregnant?

Like asking you where everything is, as if you're the bloody keeper of all knowledge and, like, omnipitent or something.

What's the saying - I wanted to have a kid, not marry one?!

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blueteddy · 10/10/2005 22:19

My H was not the most supportive during my whole pregnancy with ds2.
He avoided all, but 1 of the scans & just made it clear that he was not happy about having another child.
The worst he was, was at the actual birth, when he stayed in a waiting room throughout the entire labour, not even popping in to check I was ok.
After the birth, I told him how painful it was & he said something along the lines of "Serves you right."