IJust Want A Bath!!! What Do You Miss During Pregnancy?

[midori1999]

My back is achey and I haven't been sleeping properly for ages. I would really, really, really, really love a soak in a nice warm bath, but I am not allowed because of my waters breaking early in my last pregnancy (14+5) and infection risks. It is so tempting to just have one, chances are things would be fine, but it's obviously just not worth the risk, if something happened after I'd never forgive myself. I am 13+4 today, so only 25 weeks or so to go... (hopefully!)

What do you miss whilst pregnant?

what's wrong with wire? I wore underwired Anita feeding bras for more than 2 year's of b/feeding.

I've heard/read that you're not advised to wear underwired bras when preggers as, if they are ill fitting, they can damage milk ducts or somesuch. I think fitted ones are fine but the wire shouldn't dig in and I am changing shape constantly so have gone for non-wired sausage boobs.

I've been eating runny eggs (white cooked, yolk not) and having hot baths... I miss eating Comte vieux cheese. I miss having a glass of wine or two every weekend evening. I miss having sex (initial high risk pregnancy put us off, now that's not an issue the constant wriggling of little miss puts DP off). I miss not being able to turn over in bed in one quiet, stealthy, quick movement. I miss not being aware of the existence of my ribs and belly button, which are now both so tender. Most of all I think I miss not worrying about everything, about anything in fact; now I worry about the baby's health and happiness, the birth, the fallout on my body, my ability to be a good mum, the fact I don't know what I need to buy, the list is almost endless.

11 weeks to go.

I miss going out clubbing and dancing and drinking the night away! im desparate for a good night out!
I also miss being able to stand to do the ironing and not being in pain!

Ooh Loudlass I do the same with pate (drooling, staring) - it was hell over Christmas. 37 weeks and in my hospital bag I have already packed crispbread and 2 jars of pate (the stuff that doesn't go off). I CAN'T WAIT.

AllBellyandBoobs I can totally relate to missing not having to worry about everything. I am not normally that much of a worrier, usually being quite practical, i.e. here is the issue, here are our options for resolving it. But since being pregnant I have been constantly worried about something, is baby OK right now, will baby be OK through labour and birth, will I be, will baby be healthy when it is born, will it stay healthy, will we be, will we be good parents, will we be able to manage on little sleep, little money etc.? I miss being carefree!

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Sleeping on my front is a big one for me - and turning over in the night without feeling like a beached whale!

And food - mostly yummy carbohydratey bad food like chocolate and crisps and white bread and pizza (I have GD). I can't wait to be able to go into a cafe and choose whatever tasty thing I feel like eating. I am also looking forward to not having to inspect food labels in minute detail for the amount of carbohyrate. (Am deeply impressed by people who cope with diabetes as a lifetime condition now)

I will also not miss the worrying - it feels endless at the moment.

Steamroom! Champaigne!

Btw, I have been eating prawns and sushi. My doctor said it's ok...

Midori, JBrand does maternity jeans with buttons in USA. You can get them online and have friends bring these over from the USA... These are not sold in the UK.

What's wrong with underwire?

High heels are okay occasionally if you feel balanced, no?

lilly I'm sure high heels are fine if you feel fine, it's just that from quite early on in my pregnancy, I had a lot of ankle, knee and hip pain from wearing heels, I assume because of the relaxin playing havoc with my ligaments etc.

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I'm eating cold prawns, sushi & rare steak (occasionally).

Missing pate & smelly cheese - plan a small feast once baby comes.

Missing a full nights sleep in any position my body desires & waking refreshed.

Hating having heartburn - erratically & seemingly not related to particular foods etc.

Deliaskis I think days of being carefree (in the 'without worry' sense) are a thing of the past. I now carry around a big mental softball bat to deal with all the parental worries that would otherwise drive me mad.

I miss wine and having a proper poo!

Oh heck yes steamroom!

I'm still wearing underwired bras but then I'm a tad obsessive about fitting bras and have been known to tell shop assistants that it is wrong and they must get me x,y,z when they're supposedly the trained fitters.

Fags (I know!!!! I know!!!! But at least have stopped as soon as I found out! I have promised myself that if I want to, then when it's 16 I can smoke again... can't wait for uborn childs 16 birthday, is that wierd?). Booze. Ski-ing. Kayaking (can't twist stomach enough, is really unpleasant to try). Blue cheese. Runny eggs.
People not feeling like they have to ask me "how are you feeling" or "can you manage that" and the like. The concern is very kind, but I would like to go back to being normal again.

Oh, and I miss being able to wear affordable clothes that convey at least a little bit of fashion sense and come in colours other than grey, blue, brown or black. Or patterns!

I eat everything except raw eggs and blue cheese. If travelling, or eating in dodgier places, I'd probably be more careful but here, where standards are high and I'm mostly eating food from reputable supermarkets and restaurants, I feel relaxed. I am more cautious of eggs when eating out on basis that some restaurants are so organic and posh they may not be pasterizing etc! So interested to hear that all eggs in the UK are protected from Salmonella.

I miss just feeling like me. The constant low level feeling like the world is happening to someone else annoys me. I simply don't feel like going out, or throwing myself into a new project at work, or calling a friend for a catch up. I'm only 20 weeks so think my friends will disown me for turning into someone boring and pathetic before this baby is born.

My appetite! I used to really enjoy eating and now almost everything is dull - my tastebuds are on strike. :) Cannot wait until this baby is here and (please god) I can face the question "what would you like for supper" without groaning at the sheer monotony of it all.

And spontaneity. From turning over in bed, to cuddling up to DH, to nipping to the shops, to deciding to walk to the park because it's a beautiful day...

On the plus side, I LOVE being warm all the time. I love how my DH is getting excited about our baby. I love the fact that I really can just sit on my backside and no one thinks I'm lazy.

Ha ha. Yes JBrd my entire wardrobe is now black or grey. Though I have got a purple dress on today, which I quite liked till it struck me that I look a bit like a Ribena berry.

Yes, I am sure heels are fine if you feel ok. I am a short-arse and LIVE in heels but my back has been really sore, so I have bought some sensible flat boots for every day. They depress me and people say 'gosh, aren't you short?' a lot, which makes it even worse!

My old underwired bras are so uncomfortable that I simply can't wear them but I invested in non-wired thinking that they would be more practical for all the growing. I hate them though.

I am totally ignoring the eggs thing. Listeria can cause birth defects in foetuses (so am avoiding pate etc as I figure I have a responsibility beyond myself. On the other hand, salmonella is ONLY bad for the mother. No evidence of harm to foetuses in any cases, from what I've read. So there's a very slight increase in an already tiny risk that I'll get salmonella because my immune system is compromised, but I am fine with that - on my own head be it etc. So all you people who are pining over runny eggs - get eating them!

Ecuse - me too I am ignoring the no runny eggs - loved poached eggs on toast!

I miss liver pate though!

ohh pate in the birthing bag! like it

whats the consensus on bathing in pg? Ok just not too hot or too long?!

I bathed in first pg (all fine), didnt bath in second, stressed beyond belief and mc, so have decided to bath this time, for relaxation just not too hot... but what are the guidelines if any?!

Yes, I love my baths too, so what does a HOT bath actually count as? I couldnt stand a luke warm one!

I am eating most things I shouldn't. No blue cheeses, but apparently as long as Brie etc are pasteurised they are ok, as the mould ripening process won't be provided with anything dodgy to grow. Prawns, CBS if cooked properly, smoked meats not ok, but love love love Parma ham so ignoring that. Went to a spa the other day, and although I avoided steam room and sauna, I did go in the jacuzzi pool. Just didn't stay in too long. Probably drinking too much diet coke, but caffeine is meant to contribute to low birth weights, and with my GD that's really not an issue! Really missing sweets and chocs now that's been diagnosed though. :-( ah well. 3 more weeks...