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Older Mums to Be - Anyone else out there?

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MuffinMouse · 26/11/2010 22:24

I haven't found a recent thread for older mums. I am 39 and expecting DC3.

Are there any other 'older mums' out there?

How are you feeling?

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Deciduousblonde · 06/01/2011 16:14

Hi minmooch ~ how are you?

Congratulations :) I don't think I have ever had an hcg level check, is it something they do when you have had recurring miscarriages? sorry to hear you have been through the mill, I have had 3 miscarriages myself so I know how hard it is. But the still birth isn't something I have experienced..big hugs to you x

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MuffinMouse · 06/01/2011 21:28

Hi minmooch - I got my rising HcG levels checked and also got an early dating scan at 8 weeks. Last pg I also got a reassurance scan at 5 weeks, following a mc. I know how wobbly the early months can feel when you've had previous mcs.

Have you been offered any support from your local early pg assessment unit (EPAU)? Alternatively private clinics will offer early scans....HcG starts dropping off at 12 weeks so I found scans reassuring. Hugs.

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LeviStubbsTears · 07/01/2011 04:26

Great post, Stangirl - it's times like these (4.20am and pregnancy insomnia yet again) that such posts are just what we need! I'm 38, and 38 weeks with no. 1 via IVF (Hi Dueling, nice to see you on the Pregnancy thread!). I know how very lucky I am, and have had a good pregnancy in general, but have struggled to sleep throughout and do feel a bit daunted, occasionally, at the thought of a new level of sleeplessness in a couple of weeks, and coping with everything else on top of it. But I think and hope I'm as ready as I'll ever be to appreciate the amazing thing that is about to happen. Good luck everyone (and especially brokeoven - know how that feels...).

comixminx · 07/01/2011 09:28

Hi all, I'm 40 with my first baby who is now four months old and bf'ing as I type! I think we're very likely to try for DC2 but not yet sure of the timing. If we TTC'd when DD was a year old then it would be a bit smaller of a gap than I might ideally prefer, but then it's not something we should leave too long of course.

DD was conceived relatively easily (about 7 or 8 months trying - felt like a long time at the time!) and I've been fit and well throughout pregnancy and her earliest months (apart from my knees are feeling very creaky just at present...). If we can't have a second we won't take it too hard - or so I tell myself at the moment - as nothing's guaranteed at this age (DP is 43).

If we do manage to have a second then dealing with two babies at the same time sounds massively challenging! I can barely get out of the house in time for a morning appointment at the moment...

anabelish · 07/01/2011 11:44

oh bloody hell.......is 39 old? i thought you meant like those 50 yr old post menopausal women! am 39 and my 3rd is due in 3 wks (i had #1 at 18. #2 at 29!) i still feel like a 25yr old.

harassedinherpants · 07/01/2011 13:38

Hi, can I join you too?

I'm 40 and 9wks prg with #4! I have big/weird age gaps lol. Ds1 is 21, ds2 is 19 and dd is 4.5. I've loved doing the whole mum thing second time round with dd, although finding her, work, flu and being prg exhausting this week.

I have to say I don't feel 40 though lol.

mslucy · 07/01/2011 13:45

yeah, I'm slightly freaked by 37 year olds describing themselves as OLD.

I'm 40, expecting DS3 and certainly wouldn't have considered myself as old 3 years ago.

I know loads of women who became mums for the first time in their late 30s/40s - in fact where I live (North London) this is the norm.

Women have always had kids in their 40s; get over it!

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MuffinMouse · 07/01/2011 15:34

WOW - why the hostility? This is a supportive thread - gathering mums who are a bit 'older'. There's been no mention of 'OLD'.

It's a bit strange that the last two posts have been so negative about pg women of a similar age chatting. Issues we face can be a bit different. Particularly around tests, and TTC - though not always. If someone younger wants to join in, for their own reasons, that's ok by me.

I like this thread - my ante natal group is fine, the average age is late twenties, I'm a few weeks away from 40. It's positive to be able to chat here to similar age mums too though.

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MuffinMouse · 07/01/2011 15:38

Sorry harrassedinherpants - Welcome! Last post not related to you.

Have you had flu while pg? How are you?

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sleb1 · 07/01/2011 16:01

Hi I'm 43 expecting baby No1 after IVF now at 26 weeks. Having suffered from M.E. the last 4 years I feel brilliant. Just love being pregnant and watching my bump grow. Feel very very blessed

Deciduousblonde · 07/01/2011 16:30

I think it's great that there is a thread for us 'oldies' outside my daughters school gates the pregnant ladies are all in their 20's/early 30's and I feel a bit removed from them to be honest..nobody's fault as such, it's just that I am a whole generation older than some of them..lol...a couple are not much older than my eldest daughter!

Welcome to all ~ pleased to meet you x

mslucy · 07/01/2011 16:36

negative? moi?
apologies if I appeared a little "off" as I think being an older mum is actually great.
The tests are scary but other than that, I can wholeheartedly recommend it.

ledkr · 07/01/2011 16:40

Im 43 and booked for c section in 2.5 weeks.5th and very unexpected pg which dh who has none of his own so really welcome.
I also did the opposite and had one at 17 who is now 25 have 3 more 23,20 and 8!I have been pregnat my whole flippin life.Am so looking forward to being amore laid back mum than when i was older.Pg has gone really well mild spd but have had horrible breathlessness since 26wks but apart form that no probs at all.Am trying to enjoy the last few weeks as it will def be the last.Good luck.

Bideyin · 07/01/2011 16:42

Are you allowed to join this thread if you're not pregnant? I'm 46 and had my second son when was 41 (first at 29). I love been an older mum (dp is an even older Dad at 52) but feel totally ancient compared to the othe mums at school.

Bideyin · 07/01/2011 16:43

Sorry, just read the op again, it is older mums TO BE after all.

hellymelly · 07/01/2011 16:43

I'm 47 (just) and no,not up the duff,but I am still breastfeeding my three year old.At this rate I'll be both menopausal and lactating!

Deciduousblonde · 07/01/2011 16:48

Bideyin, I am sure you are most welcome! I had my last baby when I was 33 so I wasn't really an 'older' mum as such..your experiences would be helpful, and it's always good to chat :)

Oh ledkr tell me about it..lol! I have been pregnant at 21, 24, 30 & 33..and now, 43! just as my youngest becomes independent life throws me a bit of a curve ball!

ledkr · 07/01/2011 16:54

Yes deciduous-I struggled with that at first,dd is 8 and geting easier and i was enjoyinmg my job and having abit of free time relaxing on holiday tou know what i mean.Dh will just have to be a good Dad.I also find it hard to be pg and Mum to little one and older ds's as they have different needs,one splitting with gf at the mo other one in army and other skint and health issues.Talk about stretching yourself.haha

Deciduousblonde · 07/01/2011 16:59

Indeed! my youngest is almost 10 and is thrilled she won't be the youngest anymore. Let's see how she copes with the night crying, then at 13 she will get the rampaging toddler rooting through her bedroom..I know, I was 10 when my little sister was born..heh heh.

I did expect a kind of 'ewwwww' element from my teen children. Eldest thinks it's great, the 18 year old shook his head and went on about my lectures regarding contraception and the 13 year old is already asking for babysitting money.

Should be interesting!

ledkr · 07/01/2011 20:06

yes i was a bit mortified that theyd know i was stil "at it" dd8 said "hoorah,you did it for me"i didnt dare ask what "it" was.She will be good help,very practical,she changes nappies and everything,i often worry about her interest in babies.

Darlingdamsel · 07/01/2011 20:55

39 and will be 40 when I give bith ...

Its my first and I thought I was infertile.

What a wonderful shock.

Smile.

And well tired initially, but moody and I have a really horrible time concentrating.

BPrincess · 07/01/2011 21:22

Hello all

I'm 41 and 20 wks with my first - a total surprise as we'd both thought we didn't really want kids! But extremely happy and excited now.

Had a little nausea in 1st trimester but now feeling fine really, though usually in bed by half ten, and the indigestion and heartburn are beginning to kick in. Nothing a Rennie doesn't solve though.

I agree, the scans are the scary part. Was so relieved all ok after scan No1, but now building up to the second, which is at the end of the month.

Good luck everyone with their scans!
x

dipsymumsie · 07/01/2011 22:51

Hi I'm 39 and pregnant (only just - tested positive today)with my 3rd DC. I have two girls age 4 and 3. We were trying but nothing had happened so had accepted it just wasn't going to happen so bit of a surprise! So early on just feel tired at the moment but am definitely feeling more anxious this time round due to being a bit older so lovely to hear from other 'older' mums!

MandaHugNKiss · 08/01/2011 01:06

Just to clarify I certainly don't feel (or look!) old... but gotta face stats - after 35 we're kinda of 'advanced materal age' and certain risks begin to increase (not to mention fertility is supposed to start tailing off...)

Older mums are very much the norm where I live. Most of them are shocked when they realise DS2 isn't my first and I have two teens at home!

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MuffinMouse · 09/01/2011 20:10

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