Older Mums to Be - Anyone else out there?

[MuffinMouse]

I haven't found a recent thread for older mums. I am 39 and expecting DC3.

Are there any other 'older mums' out there?

How are you feeling?

39 and 10-ish weeks with surprise DC3.

Other DCs are 4.9 and 21 months, so oldest will be in school by the time the baby arrives. Like everyone else, knackered beyond belief, but happily the sickness has eased off in the last week.

Mamacorner- I'm 37, have a five week old baby and two older children age 10 & 12.
The negative comments about 'starting again' and it having a bad effect on the other two have been completely unfounded, having a newborn again has been enriching for all of us. Your last sentence is exactly what i do!

I found the pregnancy tiring but this newborn phase much much easier. I'm more patient, more confident and happier than I've ever been.

Love love love being an older Mummy!!!

43 & 18 wks with DC2. This weekend I cried watching Toy Story 3, and I cried when my best mate showed me a photo of his nearly completed renovated kitchen (it's been 4 months of hell for them), so yes I guess I'm emotional

Feeling quite good (sickness stopped about 13 weeks) though I do get tired. It's much harder than the first time - this time it's like life is the same but I happen to be pregnant too. First time (aged 40) it was all so glowy and lovely with lots of swimming & pregnancy yoga & I just indulged in whatever took my fancy - ahh the memories.

Last time the midwives etc never made mention of my age at all & dismissed me when I raised it - now 3 years on, I'm old don't I know and must see doctors not midwives, and they won't even discuss me going to the birth centre again at this stage - even though everything is fine & I feel largely good.

Dueling you're getting v close now - I'm excited for you :)

I am 44 and 24 wks with #6

I am mad, I know that, also feel very old and knackered, will be very glad when the whold pregnancy thing is over. :)

I'm 38 and expecting DD #2 on 18/12/2010 . DD #1 is 11 years old!!! I have spoken to people that are pregnant iin their 40s one woman was 47 so we are not really that old nowadays !!! :)

Finding, I cried at Toy Story 3 before I was pregnant .

The difference between your pregnancies sounds to me like the typical number one and number two thing. First pregnancies are lovely in that you have the chance to wallow in it all, read all the mags, that sort of thing. Alas, it seems not to work subsequent times.

Sarahlou, so glad to hear that it's been positive for your other children to have a baby in the family. That's part of what I'm most excited about. I know that our eldest (8) is desperate for a baby brother or sister (she doesn't know we've been trying and doesn't yet know about the pregnancy). I have worries about 'starting again' just as we've entered the easy stage with the other two but I'm hoping that, even though they won't be natural playmates, there will be advantages to the big age gap.

Good to find this,I am 41 and in very early stages of pregnancy.Have a 11 year old ds and a 3 and a half year old ds.Feel quite scared really.Good to have this thread.Hope you are all feeling well.

Well, I am 46 and currently doing IVF. I hope to join you all soon!

hi im 44 and due in 5 wks with 5th baby,very unexpected but welcome.Have been fine apart from extreme breathlessness which may have happened rehgardless od age,so far been really well tho am mildy fed up now.Have had to adapt in many ways but we are very excited.good luck.

Hi all! I am 38 and 8 wks pregnant with my first. I hadn't thought too much about age actually until I saw this thread. Maybe I am naive but age, for me, is a state of mind. It helps that my DH is 32, super healthy and very active.

I don't know if I have anything age-related to say at this point but I too am greatly suffering with extreme fatigue and all day sickness. Not fun at all and I can not wait for this period to pass!

45 and 18 weeks with my first pregnancy :) Absolutely knackered, sick of being too tired to do stuff and a bit stunned as it took nearly 6 years to get pregnant. Had given up, thought it was the menopause

was 41 when my only dc was born. very wonderful baby but horrid pregnancy. sadly lost next baby. good luck, but now at 52 I am always knackered and she cries when friends think we are her grandparents...

I am 38 (and feel about 58)and 15 weeks pregnan with number 3 - all planned, very thrilled but incredibly knackered (I lay down behind the sofa at the in-laws yesterday and had a nap without MIL realising) and very sick - still. Also feel terrible for occasional feelings of ambivalence - how will I cope/I am mucking up life for the other two DC's (6 and 2.5)/ - which makes me feel very selfish as I know we are very lucky. Crying a lot (even at work, which is very unusual for me) and Toy Story 3 has me in floods! Hoping I might find the newborn stage easier than the pregnancy......

Great to see so many on here
All the best waiting to test and hoping to conceive.
I feel fairly frightened.I too am worried about impact on my 2 children through my pregnancy and beyond.Exceedingly trepidatious.

39 and pg with dc2 who is due a month before my 40th. I was 36 when I had DD and I'm amazed how much older I feel this time and how much more worried I am about test results etc.

Would like dc3 but think time might be against me now.

Ohh I hope not Rockin your a relative bairn - Im all set to do this again with a bit of luck :o

hello - I am 39 and 23weeks pregnant with DC1. Very excited but nervous as I had a baby stillborn earlier this year (pls dont worry not related to age!) I have been getting excellent care this time and we will hopefully have our little one at 35-36 weeks. Good luck to you all x

Hello everyone!

I'm 43 in a few days and 23 wks pregnant with #5. Unexpected, but used to the idea now :) my eldest daughter is 21 and I really expected to be a granny soon instead of a mummy again!

I guess having 'em older keeps you young..yes?

I'm 39 and about 2 months pregnant with my second child. My first is 2 years and 3 months. For choice I would have had a slightly longer gap and hadn't seriously TTC and hadn't got my Clearblue monitor set up.

I've had Asherman's treated (took about 4 years for diagnosis and treatment both here and abroad) and luckily got pregnant very quickly with DD1.

I've had two miscarriages in my mid thirties but hoping this won't happen again. My ob/gyn said giving birth after Asherman's has 'cured' me, if you like.

It feels very different being in the UK and being under the NHS. Where I had my first I had a scan every week, saw the same ob/gyn all the time, he performed my Asherman's treatment and my section, there was even a pianist in the hospital lobby.

I am puking about twice a day and can barely walk up stairs. And I have an attractive 'pooch'. I hope the puking will subside, I threw up the whole way through my first pregnancy.

Good luck to you all.

Bfp four days ago with DC4 (DD15, DS1 13, DS2 9months!) and I'll be just shy of 38 when I deliver. Absolutely knackered before I even get going as DS2 still breastfeeding and latches on a good four or so times in the night still so... I'm a little worried about how I'll cope with another LO but presume by the time he/she arrives DS2 will be a little less dependant on me (even if I have to resort to a little sleep training )

The big gap between my first two and the third has been absolutely fine! The elder two dote on him.

Congratulations MandaHugNKiss great news. Brilliant to read that there are so many of us - and that the knackered beyond belief thing is common to all!

Hope you will all check in again and update us on how it's going. 24 weeks today, and feel like I did at 34 weeks last time. (And was my bottom really as big with the last two?

Surprised at how more relaxed I am about some things and a nervously freaking about others...

Congratulations Manda!

I am starting to wonder if the gap between morning sickness and horrendous heartburn will be a matter of hours in this third pregnancy...... I'm blaming the tiredness on age but I'm sure I would have been fairly knackered 10 years ago doing what I'm doing now. Have my first MW appointment on Friday (at 16 weeks!Maybe I'm a bit too relaxed about this one.....although also freaking out about the oddest things - like the fact that the PIL's have booked a holiday for the week of my due date - as they did last time) and will be interested to see how they rate me in terms of 'risk'. DD aged 2 has decided this week that she does not want another baby, having been very keen on one up until now. She doesn't officially know what's happening but has very flappy ears.

Hi all, I was 40 6 days ago and I found out I was pg with dc2 (unplanned) just before xmas. not really used to the idea of it yet - ds is 2.25 and I dont think he'll like not being number 1.
I dont feel any different this time around, maybe slightly more sick feelings but not actually sick and a bit tired but I'm used to being tired as ds has only just started sleeping through the night!
havent really accepted Im having another dc, have not thought about it at all. Suppose I need to see a mw or sometihng, but putting it off. Not thinking about tests etc, just burying my head in the sand.

Monapomona, I did the same thing as you are doing. Buried my head in the sand. My appointements and scans are a little out of kilter due to my dallying around (really couldn't get my head round it) but since my scan and feeling baby move I have got used to the idea a bit better :)

It was actually quite a shock to be offered the tests..I really don't feel THAT old!

May I join too? I am 43 and found out I was pg 8 days ago. Have ds 15, ds 13 and angel twin daughters still born 2 1/2 years ago (not age related). Have had a number of miscarriages and need some hand holding.

Anyone having their hcg levels checked?