Pregnancy post mc: Totally's grads continued part 4...

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Our shiny new thread - all welcome!

Battery I am so sorry. How devastating to get this far and everything go wrong. I hope you can get answers after this.

Louise ((hugs)) I cannot imagine what you are going through right now.

I am not well, if I am honest. I have worked myself up completely into thinking about genetic counselling and chromosomal translocation. I feel unwell, I can't sleep, I have no appetite and on the verge of tears constantly. All I dream about is fertility doctors and pregnancy tests, and to top it all off I have an infection from the ERPC so have been given 2 heavy duty antibiotics and am in a bit of pain :(

battery so very sorry to read your news. Hope your dh can be with you soon. So utterly unfair.

louise thinking of you. Am sure Georgie's funeral will be a beautiful tribute to her.

banana have you thought about counselling? It might help to have someone to talk through your worries while you're waiting to get some answers.

Trying to stay positive here. Still no symptoms apart from the occasional cramping overnight. Anyone else have an almost symptom-free first trimester?

Battery I'm so sorry to hear your sad news. It's horrible luck to happen again.

Thanks all AGAIN,,,,,you re all soo sweet XX

banana it's no surprise you're feeling the way you do- what you're going through is so upsetting. Please try not to worry about things that might be wrong or could happen just try to take each day as it comes, step away from google. Can you be referred for tests? For now just look after yourself and take all the time you need x

digi I was just tired in my first trimester with no sickness or nausea this time and didn't go off any foods. Also had those crampy feelings- they are so comforting

Oh Battery, what awful news :(, I'm so sorry, i don't know what to say except please keep posting on here if you feel it helps to get all of your thoughts and sadness down in writing. Banana, you too.

And Louise, I'm astounded by your bravery. Big hugs to you all.

Digital - I have had no symptoms - no sickness, sore boobs, nothing. It's terrifying me - if I hadn't taken the tests and been for early scans, I'd have no idea I was pg. I'm sick of people saying I'm lucky for not having symptoms.

I was telling a friend (who is also pg - exactly the same number of weeks as me) about the sad experiences recently on this thread - and of the lovely amazing experiences like little Ruby - and she suggested that I take a break from MN until I have the 12 week scan next week, as she thinks I'm working myself up into an emotional frenzy and focusing on the things that could go wrong Instead of thinking positively. Maybe she's right, but being on this thread makes me realise that we ladies are amazing - all of you are incredible. And no matter what happens, we will get through it, and to have the support of others in similar situations is just amazing.

Gosh, sorry to sound like a line from a film, just don't know how else fo explain it :)

So very sorry Battery

Louise I am completely in awe of your strength - you're a brilliant mum

Battery really sorry to hear your sad news.

Banana hugs to you too.

Thinking of you today Louise and wishing you strength and courage.

Thanks again all XX don t feel particularly strong or a good mummy just want Georgie here.Soo tired grieving is soo draining,scared as my DH will have to return to work in 2 weeks time.My mum will come back up to be with me but at some time i will have to be alone .Need to take 1 day at a time i guess.

I m going to refer myself back to counselling i need it.

Bananalike others have mentioned maybe you should consider counselling .I found it to be very good for me last year after my MCS .Its not for everyone but if it helps why not.I m just about to refer myself back for more via my occ health dept at work.Take care XX

Hi to all xx

Louise you are being very very strong and definitely a good Mummy for Georgie.. you have done so much for her already with your fundraising etc. She will be super proud of you. You are going through so much, I really hope counselling can help. Feel for you so so much.

Banana so so sorry to hear your news. V v v sad esp after your early scan. Thinking of you too.

No news here with me, just ticking along hoping for the best. My best friend also gave birth to her daughter asleep last year, now she since has given birth to a lovely healthy boy but what's happened to Louise has brought it all home again and it just makes you realise how precious it all is. Any niggles etc now are just irrelevant.

Hope you all have a nice afternoon xx

Battery - so sorry to hear your news. So unfair after your scan. Really feeling for you at the moment.

Louise and Banana - you're both still in my thoughts. Hang in there. You are strong, courageous women and will get through this.

Not taking anything for granted at this end. Just 11 weeks to go and although I'm enjoying it, can't wait for it to be over and for the worrying to end.

I have been for another scan today and no change. I am booked in for surgery tomorrow but have started to bleed so I wonder if I will still have the op or not. I am a bit better today - thank you for all your kind thoughts.

Dp has managed to wangle sometime off so is coming back from germany tomorrow.His boss has made him take leave - despite his boss leaving every day at about 3. I hate him, and really want to complain to his bosses. He is in the army so you would think they would have some compassion, but no.

louise still thinking about you hun - my friend had a little girl who was born asleep last year at 8 months. She fell pregnant really soon after and now has a little boy, so there is hope xx stay strongxx

banana - love to you, and wave to everyone xx

battery I'm really sorry to hear your news. I hope tomorrow goes as smoothly as it can and you can get some rl support and rest. Look after yourself.

louise No words, you're being very strong, you are an inspiraton, Georgie would be very proud to call you her mummy. x

Hi to everyone else, thread is a bit sad at the moment, Mother nature can ve very cruel sometimes, this circle of life thing really stinks from time to time don't you think? :(

Good luck Battery if you do have an ERPC [don t know if you ve had 1 before] i didn t find this too bad i have to say.My Dh had trouble with his work as well, he was having 2 weeks AL when Georgie came but obviously with what happened he rung his work and they told him yes you can have compassionate leave but its unpaid!!!!So we made him go to the gp and he got a sick note for 3 weeks [he only gets 4 weeks full sick pay a year!!!].Luckily, hes looking for another job.

They ve not rung him,e mailed him or even sent a card.I ve had loads of cards from work.I m still on mat leave but changing to sick leave next week before my mat pay drops to half.[I m still entitled to full mat leave and smp, but obviously no child benefit or child tax credit, we were only entitled to 40 pounds per month and that would have stopped in April]

Its crap you have to think about finances at a time like this. Thanks for all the nice stories about babies after stillborn its all ive got at the moment.

Just checking in now and so devastated to hear your sad news louise. I'm amazed at your strength and hoping that you find comfort in those close to you. Will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Sleep sweetly little angel Georgie!

Sorry also to hear your sad news battery and banana, it all seems so unfair. Take extra gentle care of yourselves!

Friday?s List:

Effilump - Baby#5, 40+6 wks, due 16th Oct
Sarahlou8 - baby#3 (DD 11, DS 9) 39+6 wks, EDD 23rd October
Unbuffy - baby#2 (1 DD) - 34+6 wks EDD 27th November, scan 1st Nov
HappyGirl - baby#1, 33+2 weeks, EDD 8th December
Zayja - baby#1, 32+3 wks, EDD 11th December
Goodluckbear - baby#1, 31+6 wks, EDD 18th December
Malteser1981 - baby#1, 31+6 wks, EDD 18th December
Gilda - baby#1 - 30+6 wks, due 25th December
BunnyBaby - baby#3 - 30+6 wks, due 25th December
sparklyrainbow - baby#1 30+1 wks EDD 30th December
AlbaDeTamble - baby#2 (1DS, 3yrs) 29+4 wks EDD 3rd January
toomuchteaching - baby#1 29+2 wks EDD 5th January
Redheadgal - baby#1 29 wks EDD 6th January
diggingforvictory - baby#4 (DS 1) 27+6 wks EDD 15th January
WestYorkshireGirl - baby#1, 27+4 weeks EDD January 18th
Dorcas111 - baby#1, 26 weeks, EDD 28th January
Ba8y1 - baby#1, 25 weeks, EDD 4th February. Next scan 24th October
Clareanna - baby#2, one DS, 24 weeks ADD 3rd Feb 2011
Muser - baby#1, 21+5 weeks, EDD 27th Feb
Northerngoldilocks - baby#1 19 weeks EDD 18 March - next scan 12 November
Magic8ballhastheanswers - babies#3&4 18+3 weeks EDD 20th March - next Scan 26th October
Liahgen - baby#6 18+1 weeks EDD 23rd March
Hopefully - baby#2 16+6 weeks EDD 2nd April
stuffedmk - baby#2 16+4 weeks EDD 4th April
Ivysedai - baby#2 14+1 weeks EDD 21st April
PenguinsMummy - baby#3 14+1 weeks EDD 21st April
VivClicquot - baby#1 12+2 weeks EDD of 4th May
Loopymumsy - baby#? 12+1 weeks EDD?
Tigerbear - baby #1 10+4 weeks EDD 14th May

The babies are arriving! Huge congratulations to:
Totally with daughter Faith Juliet, 9lb5oz born Tuesday 16th February 2010
Amyboo with son Matthew James, 4.714kg (10lb3oz) born Tuesday 30th March 2010
Hoops with son Benjamin Scott, 7lb4oz born Friday 2nd April 2010
Memorylapse with daughter Olivia, born Friday 16th April 2010
Jacanne with daughter Lotta Eliza, 8lbs 5oz born 20th April 2010
Becky78 with son Thomas Christopher born 22nd May - 9lb 1oz
Meita with son Ianto born 23 August - 7lbs 4
Boodleboot with daughter Alice Elizabeth born 10 Sep - 8lbs 2oz
LeeWT with son Andrew Anthony born 28th Sept 7lbs 14oz
TFLS with son Charlie born on 30th September, 6lbs 8oz
SamB with daughter Ruby Mae born 19th October

In our thoughts and prayers:
Louise with daughter Georgie born asleep on 10th October

We share the pain and mourn the loss with:
Jollster, Cheepz, Freezing, BarrenBrook, MsJL, LadyBee, Moofold, Banana87 and BatteryHen

Morning all. Hope I've done that ok. I have a stinking horrid cold and feel like my brain has been replaced by damp wool. Urgh.

Wishing all a good day, or as good a day as can be.

PS Tigerbear totally agree with you view on the thread and ladies. You are all wonderful.

Zayja good to see you, hope all is well.

Thoughts to Louise, Banana and Battery x

ahem, your view

Damnable snot

Good morning everyone,

Sorry to hear that there has been futher bad news on the thread. It is important to remember that the vast majority of us having miscarried, do go on to have happy, healthy babies without complication. I know that there have been a few really sad stories recently but there are many, many more success stories.

I have been reading, which I can do easily while feeding, but it's more difficult to post one handed on an iphone. Louise I particularly wanted to reply to a comment that you made about being jealous. I didn't take any offence at all and absolutly understood why you would write and feel that way. DH and I had talked about what had happened to Georgie and soon after Ruby was born we both thought of you and the unthinkable situation that you found yourself in. You are often in my thoughts and, although it is very easy to say from here, over time you will heal, you won't ever forget, but you will feel less raw.

I am aware that there of lots of ladies with forthcoming scans, I hope that they all go well and bring good news.

We are doing well here. Ruby is just lovely and we are amazed by her every minute. She is beautiful and easy going and very easy to love and look after. She is an enthusiastic feeder although I think that we are having some latching issues. She just doesn't open her mouth wide enough to get enough areola in - she can because when she yawns there is a gaping chasm, but I can't persuade her to do it for me on demand! As a result I am a bit sore but not cracked or broken. Midwife is coming today so I should be able to get some support. My tummy bug did return after labour and I was a bit worried about milk production as I had to cut out all dairy products for 48 hours, so we will see today how much weight has been lost. At least there weren't problems going to the loo post birth... I am amazed at how well I seem to be recovering. No stitches = no pain as far as I can see. I even did the school run yesterday afternoon - and it was a good excuse to show Ruby off.

Anyway, please continue to post prolifically, it's great to here all your news while feeding even if I can't always reply!

Oh no battery so sorry to hear your sad news.

samantha great to hear you are doing so well.

Thanks SAMb rUBY SOUNDS LOVELY xx

oh, don t know what happened there!!!