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Please help, I'm bleeding AGAIN and need advice!!

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quackers · 01/08/2003 08:38

Well, my worst fears have started to emerge. I had a very small amount of brown blood about the size of 2p pence. I have very mild twinges where it has implanted as this area was tender from my m/c 4/5 months ago. I am sseing the Doc at 9.40 but he is not very good. We have no EPU and I don't have a midwife. This is not the time my P was due either. I am so worried this will happen again. Any advice would be so appreciated. Mears, Leese etc.. are you around ?????

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bunny2 · 03/08/2003 21:02

Oh Quackers, I am so sorry. I have just read this thread (havent been here since Friday) and feel so terribly sad. My heart goes out to you. I can only imagine how sad you feel right now. But, all is not lost, there is still hope. I bled in both my pgs and yet the first proceeded normally after the bleeding and I now have my darling son. Other posters have also had bleeding and a happy ending so dont give up just yet. Love Bunnyxxx

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quackers · 04/08/2003 08:54

Hello all, I know you all are very kind, but I'm cramping now, so I think my body is trying to get rid. I'm actually ok as it is happening spontaneously this time and I couldn't see a thing on the scan and there has never been a heartbeat, so I don't feel half as bad as last time. It went on and on for weeks and weeks last time so I'm hopinh this will be more like a period. Staying off work to have a week of sitting in the arden and having some 'me' time to think about the future. xxxxx

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prufrock · 04/08/2003 09:49

quackers I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling, but it is good to see you are at least looking after yourslef properly. I hope the fact that there are so many people here to offer practical and emotional support is helping you.

dot1 · 04/08/2003 09:52

Quackers - I'm so sorry.... Nothing much more I can say except I'm thinking about you and still keeping fingers crossed just in case.

xxxx

LucieB · 04/08/2003 09:58

Quackers - take it easy this week. Remember we are all here for you.

bluestar · 04/08/2003 10:48

Quackers, so so sorry to hear what you are going through. There is little I can say to make you feel better right now but I believe you will know that I understand and have every sympathy with you. You were so supportive to me and I hope that these few words will let you know that I am thinking of you at this time. Big hugs.

Jemma7 · 04/08/2003 11:29

Quackers, Haven't been on this thread since Friday - kept checking to se what happened on your return from the doctors.
All i can say is that i am so so so sorry - i can't imagine what you are going through but it must be the most horrific time, especially as it is 2nd time round - it's so unfair.
I know what you mean about these people who don't deserve kids - you always see people who either don't deserve kids or who don't want kids who have the most gorgeous children & there are people who desperately wants kids and everything just seems to go wrong - think this makes things even worse when you see this.
Anyway, sorry for rambling, i'm not trying to make you feel worse it just infuriates me.
Take care and keep posting if it helps.
Thinking of you.
xJem x

katierocket · 04/08/2003 11:44

oh quackers - really big hugs to you {{{{}}}}
take lots of care of yourself and take it easy

grommit · 04/08/2003 11:53

Quackers - really sorry for what you are going through - take care and rest

bluecow · 04/08/2003 12:23

Thinking of you. Hugs.

Metrobaby · 04/08/2003 12:29

Quackers - am so so sad and sorry to hear. Life is so unfair at times.

Take care, take it easy - thinking of you ...

mears · 04/08/2003 14:52

Quackers - saw a lady last night who had a similar history to you. She bled at 5wks and 6 days. On scan there was a sac but no fetal pole. She was rescanned 3 days later after further bleeding and there was still no fetal pole. She came back at 7 weeks and 2 days and there was a heartbeat. She had her dd last night. I don't want to give you false hope but equally things might be OK. Hope you are managing to get some relaxation on your week off. Here's hoping, mears.

Jemma7 · 04/08/2003 15:25

Ahh mears - you are so sweet! I hope to god i get a m/w like you when my pg days arrive.

Tillysmummy · 04/08/2003 16:46

Quackers have posted on another thread. I hope you are alright I am sending you lots of cyber hugs. Mears, your words are very encouraging. Quackers, take it easy and take care. I really hope it all works out hunni x If you want to chat off line let me know....

Tillysmummy · 04/08/2003 18:11

Mears I have same problem but not as bad as Quackers. Light spotting type bleeding, very dark, seems like old blood. Yesterday had two small tissue type things come out but they were tiny, couldn't really see well as was in public toilet. I guess I just have to wait. I am being scanned on Thursday when I will be 7 weeks. I wonder if it's too early judging by what you said ?

mears · 04/08/2003 18:28

It always amazes me how some pregnancies continue to grow despite the most appalling symptoms. Only time will tell unfortunately. The down side of diagnosing pregnancies so early and having access to scans is that the reassurance is not always there because a pregnancy is being observed so closely at such an early time. This is a sad statistic of our Early Pregnancy Unit - women are being referred so early that they are often not able to say till a few scans down the line that the pregnancy is progressing. There are discussions around not scanning women before 7-8 weeks because of the uncertainty with early scans. Technology hasn't really helped this srea of concern to be honest. Much as you want an answer, nature has to be given a chance to get things on course. Hopefully you will have good news Tillysmummy, but there is always the chance you will need another rescan to be sure. Sorry I can't tell you anything more positive. Good luck for Thursday, mears.

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quackers · 04/08/2003 20:13

Oh YOU ARE ALL WONDERFUL _ THANKYOU!!! Whay lovely lovely words. Unfortunatley, I was right, miscarried today. Had the biggest bleed ever, v painful, lots of clots, hospital scanned ma - they were fab and I have a clear uterus. I feel fine and really appreciate ALL your comments and thoughts - and prayers. I am going to really try to chill out relax and get ready to try again in a bout 3 months. Had some very old stuff come out and Doc reckons its from previous m/c as I had all this cramping in the one spot - now it's gone after that good clear out. Feel normal again and praying for a lovely babay next time. I much more chilled as it has happened so quickly.
TM, despite everything I am encouraged by what Mears has said and everyone else. The chances of something going wrong are slight. The odds of this going with you are huge and against is so small in comparison. Hang in there for your scan on Thurs. The feeling of waiting I was facing was worse than not knowing either way. That limbo is terrible. At 7 weeks as Mears said, is better than, it's such a grey area. I will be thinking of you and REALLY hoping all goes well. You've had good signs so far, I had very few symptoms and didn't know if it was because of the previous m/c or because I really was m/carrying. I don't feel at all pg now. I came out of the hospital smiling - because I knew my chnaces were good this time and it was complete. I would never wish that last m/c on anyone. So TM, we won't be due at the same time but you were a lovely pg pal!! I'll miss our comparisons and gripes. Bluestar, you made me cry - hope you;re ok. Mears - as ever thankyou, you are one in a million. Lots of love to you all - my little support network!! xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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sibble · 04/08/2003 20:28

Quackers
So sorry to hear your news. Rest, pamper and look after yourself. Am thinking of you.
Sibble

hewlettsdaughter · 04/08/2003 20:30

Quackers, sorry to hear about the cramping. I don't know what else to say really, other than look after yourself. Enjoy the garden (don't get sunburned!). Hope dh is ok and is there for you. I really hope that everything will be all right. If it doesn't turn out that way then I'm really truly sorry.

hewlettsdaughter · 04/08/2003 20:44

Oh quackers, I should have refreshed the display before posting. So sorry to hear your news. I guess there is some comfort in no longer having the uncertainty. But a miscarriage is a difficult thing to have to go through. I hope you and your dh are ok and being supportive of each other. If you ever need to talk, you know where to come...

Marina · 04/08/2003 21:07

Quackers, I'm so sorry to hear your news, I really am. Glad to hear that you had a sympathetic time at the hospital and a doctor who was able to support your concerns that your previous m/c was a factor in all of this. Please take good care of yourself.
Mears' reminder of the downside in having access to all this technology very early on in our pregnancies is a very revealing one, thanks as ever for sharing your wise professional insights!

Ghosty · 04/08/2003 21:38

Quackers ... so sorry about this ... but so glad that you are being positive. Enjoy your week off ... thinking of you ... love g xxxxxxxx

bossykate · 04/08/2003 22:10

quackers, so sorry to hear this news, look after yourself, keep posting here if it helps. so sorry

Wills · 04/08/2003 22:10

Quackers - you sound amazingly strong at the moment I hope that it can continue throughout your 3 month break. I totally understand what you mean about knowing one way or another, the limbo of not knowing but wanting to hope is agony. This was what happened during my mc. Good luck and reall pamper yourself.

Oh and I shall be looking out for your announcements in 3+ mnths time. In someways I find pregnancy far scarier than dealing with the mc so I shall be looking and waiting to hear from you then as well as inbetween.

Take care

Hugs XXXX

Hilary · 04/08/2003 22:28

quackers, I'm so sorry.