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Not eating for two when pregnant - warning RANT

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berrycravings · 02/09/2010 18:53

So I'm now 22+4 weeks, and doing my best. My morning sickness ended at 20 weeks only to be replaced by heartburn, ezcema and an 'unpregnancy related' back problem. I am still at work plodding along. HOWEVER there is a women at work who has repeatedly told me how I shouldn't be eating for two in pregnancy (i'm surely not looking that big?!) and that in fact I shouldn't eat anything extra at all. At first I just brushed it off but it is now really winding me up. she likes to mention it as I tuck into a slice of cake (a fairly rare treat) or when i have more than one piece of fruit as a snack. Surely I deserve to be eating my 'extra' snacks in peace? I think the media are partly to blame for this too.

I am extra sensitive about my weight but have spent years putting this behind me and didn't really have an issue anymore however I hate being made to feel like I am doing something wrong by eating food...? Its not like she is slimmer than me usually. Why is everyone a pregnancy expert suddenly?

She is also telling me how her daughter is sailing through her pregnancy (well great for her)

Rant over, thank you I feel so much better now....(and breathe)

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Rockbird · 02/09/2010 18:55

Tell her to piss off and cut yourself another slice of cake. Everyone is an expert on everything, didn't you know?

SecretNutellaFix · 02/09/2010 18:59

Tell her to sod off or you'll stick your slice of cake up where the doesn't shine. Enjoy your food- eat what you are able to eat comfortably and don't overstuff yourself.

pozzled · 02/09/2010 18:59

Agree with Rockbird.

My appetite was huge when I was pregnant.If I hadn't eaten extra I would have been hungry all the time. I trust my own body more than I trust the media TBH. I didn't put loads on, and the weight came off afterwards without any particular effort on my part.

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 19:53

We have a woman at work like this, she feels like she can comments on everything that people eat, pregnant or not. It's fucking rude and I wish I could say something, but would be more trouble than it's worth.

We end up eating biscuits before she gets in, and lunch when she's out of the office just to avoid comments. Tis very annoying so I feel your pain.

Tell her to mind her own business.

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berrycravings · 02/09/2010 19:56

So nice to know I'm not alone out there, do feel better for getting it off my chest. I will continue to trust in my body and enjoy my dinner guilt free, thanks all.

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IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 19:57

Yeah, just don't eat Domino's 3 x a week or a dairy milk every single day and you should be fine

TheHeathenOfSuburbia · 02/09/2010 20:05

Bloody food police are everywhere. And almost always female.

"Ooh, are you sure you want to eat that? It's very high in calories!"

Yes. Fuck off.

mrsflux · 02/09/2010 20:19

Tell her if you don't eat regularly then you will spew everywhere etc go to town on gross details till she walks away.
Repeat every time she nags about food.
At least you could get some entertainment from finding new ways to gross her out

me23 · 02/09/2010 20:34

tell her you'll eat her if she's not careful

DomesticG0ddess · 02/09/2010 20:38

God, how annoying, particularly if you are eating FRUIT fgs. Does she eat at her desk at all? Next time she does it, maybe just ask her why she's so concerned as your mw says you are bang on weight and fundal height (is that right?) for your dates.

People always have an opinion when you are pg - saw one friend today who said "You are tiny for 33 weeks!!" (I'm not). After she left, took DS to friends house and the mother, another friend said "Oh my goodness you have grown!"

MarineIguana · 02/09/2010 20:42

If anyone had tried to come between me and my cake when I was pg they would have got (very heavily) trampled. Just roll your eyes and stuff the cake in your gob, remarking "yum yum I LOVE cake!" What's she going to do, call the police? Daft cow.

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 20:46

Is she really really skinny and constantly on a diet? The person I know HATES it when I eat as she's constantly starving herself. I did REALLY enjoy my brie and ham baguette

Habbibu · 02/09/2010 20:50

Tell her she's made her point, you have proper advice from your medical team, and so don't really need it from random punters, and are wondering why she needs to mention it with such frequency.

Then get a "lightbulb going on" face, look concerned, take her by the arm, and say "oh my dear, do you have food issues? Is that what this is all about? Here, have some cake and tell me all about it".

Biccy · 02/09/2010 21:08

Ugh.

Surely she is wrong as well as rude? You are eating in order to nourish 2 of you, so you are eating for 2.

Anyway, I thought you were 'allowed' 400 more calories a day when pregnant, which I think means you can have about quarter of a pound of extra cake a day.

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berrycravings · 02/09/2010 21:12

Thanks for all the ideas, I think I might try some, if I manage to pluck up enough courage to do so I will make sure i come back and update you all on her reaction.

JarethTheGoblinKind she is on a diet actually, drinking some weird concoction instead of eating food and occasionally having vegetable sticks and dip in a bid to loose weight so you might be right that she's starving!

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zazen · 02/09/2010 21:22

Berrycravings, congrats ion your pregnancy!

You'll find that everyone is an expert on everything about your pregnancy and wait till you actually have your baby!
Then the fun really starts with total strangers stepping up to the plate to tell you off for almost everything...

However you do need to watch what you eat when pregnant and make sure you are eating enough foods with iron and calcium and magnesium.

If you have heartburn try cutting down on tomatoes and bread.

And you really only need an extra 400 cals a day at the end of pregnancy as a small kidney bean sized baby doesn't need 400 calories a day.

DO be sensible about your sugar consumption as gestational diabetes has implications for your whole life.

You won't be pregnant forever (although it might feel like that at 37 weeks) and it is a lot harder to shift weight after the baby is born as you will have less time for exercising - and especially in the dark winter days.

Enjoy your pregnancy and eat cake if you feel like it - just not every day. Be sensible - you need a balanced diet and rest.

Try and ignore those who have an opinion about your eating habits - it's good practice for learning how to smile in the face of interfering biddies, for the rest of your life actually!!

MrsFC · 02/09/2010 21:26

Say 'oh, I'm so sorry am I making you jealous & tough for you to stick to your diet? So sorry. God this cake is yummy!!'

IMoveTheStars · 02/09/2010 21:27

berry - sounds like she's on cambridge or similar.

Do you work in my office?

Bumperlicious · 02/09/2010 21:28

Listen, the only upside of being pregnant is having license to eat what you want, and even that novelty wears off pretty soon.

Everyone has an opinion when you are pg. My boss said to me 'I heard it was a myth that you were supposed to eat for two when pg' I just said 'I'm eating so I don't vomit on you!'

Another colleague, who after seeing I had come into work pretty flustered (in fact I had stupidly cycled into work, with morning sickness, felt horrific and sat in the toilets and cried) went on to ell me how his wife had been playing badminton right up until she gave birth. That was great to hear.

Just practice this face

MammaDavies · 02/09/2010 21:47

Just tell her that's everyone's different and that you if your hungery you're going to eat!

I had a family member who would always say "What are you eating now?!?" Resisting the urge to smack her I would tell her everything that I had eaten that day and what cake I planned on eating later as well and offered to write it down if she was so concerned!!

If all else fails just say dont worry i havent had the last one theres plenty more for you to have if you get fed up of your lettuce! (warning, just check that you havent had the last one or the whole pack as I have done so many times )

LittleSilver · 03/09/2010 04:37

"I'm eating so I don't vomit on you."

lucy101 · 03/09/2010 04:41

My mother's classic line at 30 weeks was 'they must have the dates wrong, they've definitely got the dates wrong, you are far, far too big'.

When I insisted that after about 6 or 7 scans I was confident that the date was right she told me 'well don't get any bigger then'.

What was I supposed to do with that!!!!

I wasn't even that big either... had put on about 2 stone by that stage...

ClimberChick · 03/09/2010 04:50

hmmmm I struggle not to eat for two, and I'm not even pregnant so go for it

PipPipPip · 03/09/2010 08:32

Everyone should be able to enjoy a yummy slice of cake occasionally - whether they are pregnant or not!

Perhaps you could say "oh no, this piece isn't for the baby. This piece is for me."

AnyFuleKno · 03/09/2010 08:36

she is hyper conscious of other people's eating because of her own obsession with it. She'll be doing this to other people too, mark my words.

I'd have fun annoying her with it. Perhaps boasting 'this cake is fucking gorgeous! through a mouthful of crumbs.

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