Anyone due in April 2004?!

[dot1]

Hello!

I found out last week I was pregnant, and although I've not been to my GP yet, various websites and Miriam Stoppard have told me I'm due on March 31st/April 1st! (poor little april fools baby - let's hope it's late...).

I know it's early days, but wanted to start this thread as I've already got lots of questions - like, is anyone else having quite bad pains? I've been getting bad period-type pains, which have been worrying me, but I understand people do get (this is my first pregnancy by the way!).

Right, that's it - hope I get some company soon..!

Hi Metrobaby - so glad it went OK for you at work - let's hope you get more money out of them aswell..!

I'm feeling quite down at the moment - was thinking about starting another thread. I don't think I'm 'depressed', just completely fed up of being pregnant (and feeling guilty about feeling like this). I feel nauseaus, heavy and just not myself all the time... Dp says she can't remember me not being like this - I'm usually much much more bright and breezy and happy. There's also a lot going on for us at the moment - still settling in in Manchester, new job, in the middle of buying a house.... It all feels like it's too much to be honest, and I want my familiar comfortable pre-pregnancy body back...

Ho hum. Sorry to bring the tone down, but is anyone else feeling like they've had enough at this stage - still feels like there's so long to go and I don't know how I'm going to make it without going completely bonkers....

Dot, sorry to hear you're still feeling down. I'm not surprised though, pregnancy alone is too much let alone new job and house etc. Where are you buying a house? are you still vomiting too?

Off now to dye my hair having been inspired by this thread - but I did check the instructions and it doesn't say not for pregnant women.

Hi Fennel - thanks... No, fortunately I'm not being sick now, but just have a feeling of constant nausea - not wanting to eat but having to because if I don't I feel worse.

Really shouldn't grumble - it could be much worse (as my Mum keeps reminding me...). I'm still worried feeling like this will affect me bonding with baby - but hopefully I'll be so glad to get it out I'll fall in love with it instantly!

We're buying in Heaton Chapel - just down the road from my Mum and a 5 min drive from dp's parents, so there's lots of grandparents around to help (phew!).

Anyone else having a glucose tolerance test by the way? I've got one the week after next - because of having PCOS (and being overweight..!).

dot1 - sorry for being slow on the uptake, but I've only just noticed that you're pregnant!! Just wanted to say I'm really pleased for you. Don't worry about feeling c* about it sometimes - it can be a weird time! Best of luck.

Dot1 - please don't be down! I know feeling sick is wretched and I sympathise because my first pregnancy with my son was like that. I felt sick till week 26 and the only thing I could do was stick to the things I fancied (yoghurt, fruit, toast etc) and go to bed as early as I could. I know you have a child so that's easier said than done. Getting bigger with pregnancy is odd but that's all it is - just enjoy the fact it means your baby is getting stronger. I know you like me have had weight issues and I also have PCOS so it's not entirely our fault....!

I know sometimes it feels like an eternity being pregnant but once the sickness starts to wear off a little (and I am sure it will) I'm sure you'll feel better about it all.

I've never had a glucose tolerance test with my pregnancies or PCOS but it's quite normal for pregnant women without PCOS to be offered the test, I understand.

PS - Dot. I am sure every pregnancy symptom you've suffered will mean nothing once you and dp meet your new baby. I fell in love with my son the moment I saw him despite a lousy pregnancy and particularly painful (posterior presentation) birth.

thanks - and sorry I'm being a grumbly old cow - feeling a bit better today - I wonder if last week was old PMT time?!

D'you know, Dot I've often wondered if I still get PMT moments every so often during pregnancy. I think you might be right.
See my consultant on Wednesday and 20 week scan on Thursday. Hope to find out what flavour it is!
V. excited.

Fab! Hope it gives you a good look!! I've decided to add a bit of blue into the blanket I'm knitting (have been doing pink squares!) - hedging my bets...!

Dotty - arf! Like I think I've said before I am sure it's a girl but I'm prepared to be surprised if it's going to let on what it is.

I will never ever mind though because friends of ours lost their baby son at 10 days old a week ago and talk of a preferred sex is irrelevant in such awful circumstances.

I've never liked all this daft talk of 'balancing families' anyway, whatever that means.

oh that's awful - I'm so sorry - did they know their baby was poorly? Sorry - you don't have to talk about it but it must be a dreadful time for your friends and yourselves.

I agree - the gender of our babies doesn't matter at all - 2 boys would be lovely for us - I can see them tumbling about already! A friend of ours has got 2 boys, and I'm still amazed at how different they are from each other - and especially with dp and me, I'm itching to see how this baby turns out - we'll be able to spot genetic bits of personality from our donor. Ds looks so much like dp that it only just occured to me the other day that this baby may come out looking like our donor (who's a friend of ours) and not like me! (and certainly not like dp..!). Weird - can't wait to meet him/her!

Bluecow - sorry to hear about your poor friends baby.

I can honestly say I don't care whether this baby is a boy or girl either. I don't think its the sex or even age gap that is important more that I hope that the baby's personality is compatiable with my DD. I'd like them to be able to get along in later life as well as during their childhood. Unfortunately I don't have a particulary close relationship with my sister so I am always envious of those who have a very close one with their siblings.

Hey - today I reckon I must look officially pg as I was actually offered a seat on the train this morning !

Am still feeling tired in the evenings and am trying to will myself into doing some exercises. I am also finding it very hard to eat my 5 portions of fruit of veg - reckon I must only achieve 2 or 3. I feel very guilty as in my first pg I was very good that way.

Metrobaby - I'm also feeling guilty about my lack of exercise, although I walked up 1 flight of stairs at work this morning for the first time...!! I hardly have to walk at all to get to work and then I sit for most of the day - very bad... It just feels too cold aswell to go out at lunchtime, although it's warmer today so I might try and get out for a stroll. Tricky when all I want to do is sleep though..!

I've had to stand up on the train for the past 2 mornings, and was wondering when I can start being bolshy and asking for seats - probably another month...! I look really pregnant but have this huge black coat that hides everything - just makes me look enormous overall - so I'll have to start unbuttoning my coat and sticking bump out!

Getting quite worried about maternity clothes for work now - I bought this v. roomy stretchy white blouse a few weeks ago which I thought would last me right through - I put it on today and it's straining already!! I think I'll be OK up until about February, but then I may have to come in in my dressing gown - possibly not appropriate for a business manager?!

Hi - sorry to butt in to this thread but was just wondering if Dot1 had heard about the Manchester Reloaded meet up in January? I know you are up here somewhere and it would be nice to meet you!

Our friend's baby seemed perfectly healthy and the cause of death was Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. He was feeding when his breathing started going funny. He was a good weight when born and seemed perfectly healthy. We just don't have the knowledge yet to know why these things happened but our friends were told they did nothing wrong and there was nothing more they could have done.

I don;t know about five portions of fruit and veg but I'm managing at least five of sweets and biscuits a day!

hi. I'm another one feeling too tired to exercise much or eat sensibly. Having cravings for meat this last week which is embarrassing as I'm officially a vegetarian! (not this week I'm not but usually...) Today's the first day in maternity clothes for me and I feel very barrel-shaped. Have rather pessimistically bought extra large sizes of maternity wear even though they say get your normal size as I just imagine getting huge.

Sorry to hear about your friend's baby Bluecow.
I've got my 20 week scan too on Thursday, but having had 5 scans already this pregnancy am not as excited as I would be usually.

wow Fennel - can't believe you've only just moved into maternity clothes - I feel like I've been in them forever...!

Actually I'm feeling OK about being huge today - am at work and wearing a kind of clingy black top and for the first time my tummy definitely looks pregnant - not might/might not be fat! And the weirdest thing is it's almost dwarfing my chest - which is a feat in itself!!

Luchar - I've seen the Manchester thread but have been feeling a bit shy...! Will consult with dp (Juno) and see if we can get a babysitter and come out to play!

Have found an interesting website re: maternity clothes - room42maternity.co.uk. Haven't tried it out yet, but it looks like they do big sizes and made to measure and the prices don't look too bad. I really fancy getting a maternity dress (bizarre for me, but I'm blaming it on the hormones) so am going to measure myself (eek!) and order one next week.

Bluecow - SIDS really is every new parents' worst nightmare - I remember constantly worrying about ds - so scary - I'm really sorry for your friends and it must be hard for you aswell.

My computer's going a bit weird so hope this posting comes out - will give it a go now!

Dot - it's not that I am skinny or anything not at all - but my bump is a bit odd, the baby seems lodged high up with lots of limbs (maybe about 8 from the feel of it) stuck in my chest! so I could do trousers up til this week as it's all above that.

Hi dot1, remember me from ancient ttc threads? I haven't really been following mumsnet much until a week or so ago (and have just begun maternity leave so now am frittering it all away on the computer). I knew you were pregnant but did not really know how it was going. Sorry to hear you've been having a a tough time, just wanted to wish you luck really. Moving back to Manchester sounds good though--hope the house buying goes well.

And good luck to all the others due in April as well.

dot1 - the only reason I think I got a seat on the train that time is because I delibrately opened my coat (just before boarding), and stuck out my belly. To add effect, I also started stroking it. In fact had I of had a copy of Mother and Baby magazine or any other Pregnancy mag I would have got that out too However, I am not confident enough to ask for a seat outright.

Got my 20 wk scan on Monday

Well had my 20 week scan today. We think we're having a girl (which I have thought all along) so that's lovely news. The sonographer said it's harder to tell than with boys but that there were no obvious bits!

He/she was a little so and so - had to go and waddle around twice so he could get to see baby in profile as it just wasn't co-operating. Boy, was my bladder fit to explode as we were there an hour and a half. In the end I just had to go the loo and then buy a bottle of water and start again! Finally got the pic and he had another look at the lack of bits and said he still thought it was a girl.

Went and bought a gorgeous little pink top I'd seen in Debenhams for baby. Was a bit of a novelty looking at girls' clothes! Couldn't help myself - when I knew I was having my ds I bought him a lovely outfit I'd had my eye on in Next.

Have extremely sore ribs all of a sudden - anyone else suffering with that?

My friends who lost the baby have gone away for a very long break together. which I think is the best thing they can do

Bluecow -that's lovely news! I'm trying to not buy stuff until I'm 30 weeks - don't know why but it seems like a good number of weeks in terms of starting to get stuff..! We ordered a special coming home outfit for our ds from Blooming Marvellous last time, so I think we'll do the same this time - can't wait..! No sore ribs yet - just heartburn and sore hips when I'm lying down! But at least the sickness has gone away - hurrah!!

Hi Ruth - of course I remember you - can't believe you're on your maternity leave already - the time's really flown by! When's your baby due? Hope all's well and these last few weeks go by quickly.

I'm at work officially wearing my first set of maternity clothes - quite exciting. They drown me a little but I thought I should get something to grow into. Got sick of wearing sweatpants or my other one pair of trousers that fitted.
Just got back from what was supposed to be 3 days in New York but ended up being a little more time there as I started having contractions 9 hours before the plane was due to leave and after having them almost constantly for 4 hours took myself and dh off to hospital. All OK - baby fine etc but it was very scary thinking about the consequences of miscarriage or birth at 23 weeks.
2 important lessons learnt.
1: never go to USA without travel insurance. (luckily I did).
2: apparently if you get dehydrated it can make you have contractions and irritable uterine walls. In all my reading it was something I had no idea about.

blimey - I didn't know that either. I'm so glad you're OK - must have been very scary. Are they going to keep a close eye on you now over here? How did they know dehydration caused it?

They said it is a common reaction to dehydration. I didn't even know I was dehydrated. They pumped 2 litres of IV fluid in and they have only been kicking in rarely since so I suppose it could have been that. I mean people say to drink lots of water but what they don't say is that you could get dehydration and then this could happen. Didn't start to dilate or anything though which is good.
When I went to see the doctor this morning they seemed very relaxed about it all, 'these things happen' scenario. Won't be getting dehydrated again in a hurry that's for sure.