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Are you expecting a present from your DH?

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PixieCake · 26/07/2010 16:51

Everyone (well, about 5 people) keeps asking me what I think my DH will 'get me as my giving birth present'.

Does everyone else know about this? Is it a new tradition or something? I suppose they mean eternity rings etc. Are you all expecting something?

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japhrimel · 26/07/2010 16:52

Only if I give birth on my birthday! EDD is 9 days before so might happen

emmyloo2 · 26/07/2010 16:54

Hee hee! Yep I am! But I am kind of only joking. I have suggested some nice items of jewellery that he might like to buy me but only in a joking way. I think, knowing him, he will get me something anyway, but not the lovely diamond ring I suggested from Tiffanys

I think a small gift would be nice but I don't expect an eternity ring or anything like that. The baby itself will be present enough for me.

sarahscot · 26/07/2010 17:09

I wasn't, but I am now! Maybe I'll leave this thread for him to see.

TheArmadillo · 26/07/2010 17:12

no I don't expect him to get one.

I find all this talk of presents
a) reserved for rich people and
b) you get a baby ffs it's a bit grabby to need a present as well.

LadySanders · 26/07/2010 17:12

hmmm, so called 'push presents'. exh bought me pretty spectacular diamond earrings when ds1 born. dh didn't get me anything for ds2 and dd, but is far lovelier than exh so i forgive him...

Threelittleducks · 26/07/2010 17:15

ha ha ha ha ha ha ha haaa haaaa

nope.

I should be so lucky.

I will however be told for eternity how much he appreciates what I have done in carrying two huge monster children and giving up my life for what will be 6 years in order to care for them, which is much much nicer.

5DollarShake · 26/07/2010 17:17

He didn't get me anything for DS and I'm not expecting anything for DC2, but he does loads of other lovely things, and I'm not really a present type of person, so it's all good.

cinnamongreyhound · 26/07/2010 17:18

I have never heard of that before and I wouldn't expect anything.

Would rather spend the money on something for the baby to be honest, a bunch of flowers would be nice but my mum will buy me some as she enjoys flowers as much as I do.

I do love all the teddies the baby gets though

catherinewho · 26/07/2010 17:19

Japhrimel I'm due the day before my birthday and when I asked my DH if he has got me a birthday present he said "You've already got it" and pointed to my bump.....if he's not joking then you should all look out for a thread along the lines of "AIBU to accidently leave my DH's prize record collection next to the radiator because he thinks giving me a baby for my birthday is an appropriate present"

But a present just for having a baby is a bit imo.

daisystone · 26/07/2010 17:19

my sister always said that she expected diamonds of some sort if she had a baby - she has now decided against having one so no more diamonds!

A few of her friends were given diamond rings on the birth of their babies.

I think it is a bit of a spoilt bitch attitude to say you expect a big present. I doubt most men think of this themselves and I am sure it is mostly women telling their husband's what they want.

Not that I would knock a diamond ring if my DH wanted to give me one! Or a Chanel bag. Or a holiday to the Maldives.....

I can dream.

Mingg · 26/07/2010 17:22

I got a diamond A for my charm bracelet. Wasn't expecting anything so it was a nice surprise

japhrimel · 26/07/2010 17:29

I'm definitely making sure that DH realises that the baby does NOT count as my birthday present from him - especially when I have to do all the hard work to get it!

And given that I'll be buying Christmas presents for the whole family extra early this year and then posting them (my birthday is Christmas Day, EDD is 16th December), the least DH can do is remember to get me something.

pushmepullyou · 26/07/2010 17:31

My DH bought me a necklace not as a present for having a baby as such, but really to commemorate her before she was born. I wear it all the time now that I am back at work and am away from her during the day. We bought it together on a day out to Whitby when I was heavily pregnant and it is lovely to remember back to before she was born and how exciting it was waiting for her to arrive.

kittens · 26/07/2010 17:34

I told my DH about baby birth presents 5 years before we started trying!!! So after DD1 was born he took me to Hatton Gardens to choose the ring and did the same 1 week after DD2 was born - got earings and a necklace that time. I think it was lovely and really nice that he'd arranged for my mum and sisters to come over and babysit while we drove there on both occasions, so I didn't have to think of anyone but myself for a few hours.

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DomesticG0ddess · 26/07/2010 17:54

No I would not expect a present, and did not get one last time. I would rather just milk the fact that I had to go through labour, til the end of time.

Raahh · 26/07/2010 17:55

I have (half) jokingly told Dh the best gift he could give me, is to go for the snip.

He knows I would be cross if he wasted money on something for me (after having to replace everything for unexpected DC3). Flowers would be nice, but they die off so quickly in over heated hospital wards.

when dd was born, the biggest present was having him there through the whole (not very pleasant) experience, and his absolute pride at telling people he had a daughter (mushy emoticon).

hmmSleep · 26/07/2010 18:07

I didn't get a present for dc1 and dc2, currently expecting dc3 and not expecting anything this time either. I do have friends who were given jewellery though.

Allegrogirl · 26/07/2010 18:46

I earn more than my DH so it seems a bit daft. We need the money for the children and to fund my maternity leave. It would be nice but if we had any spare cash I'd rather spend it on a holiday.

skidoodly · 26/07/2010 18:50

Pmsl @ catherine's dh

Totallyfloaty35 · 26/07/2010 18:52

After having my wedding ring cut off due to swollen fingers when pregnant with dd2,Dh bought me a lovely platinum one as replacement after i had her.So not really a birth pressie but i loved it.

DetectivePotato · 26/07/2010 19:45

There is a sort of tradition that you get an eternity ring on the birth of your first child.

I hinted to DH, actually I told him I would like one. I didn't even get a card.

I would like a present tbh. I don't think it is grabby to want a present. We spend our whole lives being 'cheap' etc and just for once I wanted a nice piece of jewelry, not ott expensive or anything though.

GirlWithTheMouseyHair · 26/07/2010 19:50

I was hoping for some flowers and a card - didn't get either.

Then 3months later on my first Mother's Day he gave me a white gold and diamond bracelet (wee tiny diamonds but gorgeous), mega trump points to him! (oh, and a card which played DS's gurgle recorded when you opened it and had his footprints inside)

DetectivePotato · 26/07/2010 19:52

That sounds lovely GWTMH!!!!!!

Love that card idea.

SkaterGrrrrl · 26/07/2010 19:58

No. Firstly Im not a big jewellery person. For example I chose my own (unconventional) engagement ring because I didnt wanta blood diamond.

Secondly we dont really give each other "things". For birthdays and anniversaries we book weekends away / a restaurant / time together. We'll always remember our holidays and special meals, and we dont need any more stuff.

I do hope DH makes a big fuss of me though, and brings me cake for days on end.

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