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Are you expecting a present from your DH?

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PixieCake · 26/07/2010 16:51

Everyone (well, about 5 people) keeps asking me what I think my DH will 'get me as my giving birth present'.

Does everyone else know about this? Is it a new tradition or something? I suppose they mean eternity rings etc. Are you all expecting something?

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Doodleydoo · 26/07/2010 20:00

Well after going on mat leave today and the whole thing being ignored by my office I am now in the demanding mode of wanting a bloody present, or at least a card! A friend recieved a lovely silver necklace she wears all the time, but doubtful we shall get anything as we are in the process of putting in a new kitchen and our one luxury item was a mini wine fridge so I think that might have been my present - although I paid for it .

That being said, won't be getting him bday present as will be giving him dc2 - due his bday!

Prinnie · 26/07/2010 20:09

He he he - a 'giving birth present' the shopkeepers will be rubbing their hands together! Surely the present is your lovely newborn?!

anonMum2 · 26/07/2010 20:39

I wasn't expecting anything but got a ring. Guess it's best not to expect anything and if you do get something then it's great!

DuelingFanjo · 26/07/2010 20:41

I am not expecting anything but a baby. Do people seriously get diamonds?

EmmaKateWH · 26/07/2010 20:48

My DH has always said he will buy me an eternity ring when we have our first baby (am 29+5). I haven't asked - he has always offered. We will have to wait for my fingers to deflate first though! Can't get my wedding or engagement ring on at the moment never mind anything bigger. I thought tradition was to get eternity ring on birth of first baby? Or for some people birth of first son?

minipie · 26/07/2010 21:00

No presents expected here either (other than being looked after, cossetted and generally treated like a mother goddess).

To me the idea that you get expensive jewellery when you given birth rather suggests that you are doing your OH a favour by giving birth IYSWIM. Rather than it being something you wanted to do yourself anyway.

DuelingFanjo · 26/07/2010 21:01

do the dads get anything?

Rinnyx · 26/07/2010 21:46

Not heard of that before but wouldnt mind DP popping the question, we have done everything else, I will wear him down

SirBoobAlot · 26/07/2010 21:56

I didn't expect anything, but it just so happened that the first time we went out as a family, I saw a beautiful ring in a jewellers window, and DP bought it for me Its lovely, as a ring, and as a memory of that day.

moragbellingham · 26/07/2010 21:58

I bought my own!

Got flowers and a card though.

ElusiveMoose · 26/07/2010 22:05

I hope I don't offend anyone who has received a 'push present', but I've always found the idea a little odd. It seems to imply that having a baby is something you do as a favour to your DH, and to me it's more reminiscent of the days when husbands used to wait outside the hospital room with a cigar. I mean yes, I'm the one who actually has to carry the baby and push it out, but labour for me was very much a joint experience, and it was certainly no picnic for my DH (who is extremely squeamish, loathes hospitals and found the whole experience pretty traumatic). So the idea of him giving me a present at the end of it would just have struck a false note. And if I needed any sort of 'present' at all, then the fact that he was so incredibly helpful and supportive through the hideous first 3 months with a difficult newborn were the best thing I could possibly have wished for.

No.2 due in 10 days - and if DH is as great as he was first time around, then that's good enough for me.

nomoremagnolia · 26/07/2010 22:11

DH bought me a necklace when we found out I was pg - though I also got one as a commissertion (sp?) present when the first IVF failed too - so make what you want of that! I still wear them both (alternately, not together) and they both mean a lot to me in different ways. I don't expect a push present - our baby will be all the present we need.

nomoremagnolia · 26/07/2010 22:14

I meant commisseration (still not sure it's spelt right but I didn't mean to miss out the 'a'!)

jjkm · 26/07/2010 22:15

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Giddyup · 26/07/2010 22:16

A bunch of flowers and some wine would go down well,but I wouldn't expect anything else

jjkm · 26/07/2010 22:26

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Doodleydoo · 26/07/2010 22:37

I actually might insist on a bottle of champagne at the bedside in hospital - that can be my present! Besides could be essential!

BaggedandTagged · 27/07/2010 02:54

An eternity ring on the birth of your first child (if not already given on first wedding anniversary)is something of a tradition although this has been expanded to "push presents" in recent years- other bits of jewellery mainly.

I dont really want an eternity ring as means not wearing my engagement ring, so I am getting a triathlon bike instead.

DH is getting nothing apart from the hospital bill, logic being that his participation in process thus far has been far more enjoyable than mine.

eidsvold · 27/07/2010 04:18

I had some lovely flowers when the each of the dds were born.

I did get an eternity ring between the births of dd1 and dd2.

cinnamongreyhound · 27/07/2010 08:24

Totally agree ElusiveMoose, my DH found labour much harder than I did! Although he was treated well, he slept on the floor, had to watch me in pain and although he helped me tremendously he felt he couldn't do anything. Actually said he didn't want another one because he didn't want to go through labour again! I saw labour as a much more positive experience than he did, keeps joking that this time he has DS to look after so he'll stay at home!

Any gifts should be for the baby or both of us, although he doesn't get quite as excited about little baby clothes as I do

DuelingFanjo · 27/07/2010 08:26

My MIL just told me she got jewelry every time she gave birth! I honestly wouldn't expect it from my DH.

CardiCorgi · 27/07/2010 08:27

Have told mine to bring champagne. Flowers would be nice but are not essential; the champagne is.

I'm with ElusiveMoose on this - the baby isn't my present to him, it's both of ours. And the name "push present" really makes me cringe (do you not get it if you have a c-section?).

On the other hand, what bike are you getting BaggedandTagged? That sounds like a cool present.

daisystone · 27/07/2010 08:28

I have already told my DH to buy a very expensive bottle of Champagne to have at the ready

notnowbernard · 27/07/2010 08:30

Birth present?!

You're having a laugh

I'd think it a bit wanky anyway, tbh

DP does a grand job running around doing everything after I've given birth and that's good enough for me

LeggyBlondeNE · 27/07/2010 08:41

Does remind me of the 'tradition' for a groom to give the bride a gift the morning after the wedding. You know, in exchange for her virginity the night before...

Beloved was asked by his parents what he was getting me as a wedding present and I told him not to be so silly, that we were getting each other. Have the same attitude to pending baby!

Champagne IS essential, but as we still have some wedding pressie champagne left and I'll be at home, that's going in the fridge as soon as contractions start!

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