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Are you expecting a present from your DH?

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PixieCake · 26/07/2010 16:51

Everyone (well, about 5 people) keeps asking me what I think my DH will 'get me as my giving birth present'.

Does everyone else know about this? Is it a new tradition or something? I suppose they mean eternity rings etc. Are you all expecting something?

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notagrannyyet · 27/07/2010 08:48

There was never enough spare cash around in our household for diamonds. Flowers yes, but nothing expensive. He did promise me an eternity ring one day! I got it after DC number six! He has always been a great dad (and DH)......that's what matters.

I was never brought up to expect gifts. I've never minded missing out on Christmas and birthday presents either if money was tight. I find it quite childish to expect gifts at anytime if I'm perfectly honest.

ElusiveMoose · 27/07/2010 08:57

Oh yes, I wasn't counting alcohol and yummy forbidden-in-pregnancy food at the hospital bedside as a 'present'. Those are essentials .

SkaterGrrrrl · 27/07/2010 12:12

"An eternity ring on the birth of your first child (if not already given on first wedding anniversary)is something of a tradition"

I bet my left breast that this "tradition" was invited by the jewellery industry, the way De Beers marketing people invented the "tradition" of the diamond engagement ring in the 1930s. www.slate.com/id/2167870

Muser · 27/07/2010 12:20

There is something a bit creepy about birth presents. It's all a bit "well done dear, you have fulfilled your role as wife and borne me a child." If it is a genuine tradition I wouldn't be surprised if it's only if you produce a proper heir (i.e. a boy).

mamaloco · 27/07/2010 12:23

ha ha ha...
Really, In RL as opposed to american movies.
He will be as stressed as you probably even more and unless is mum pushes him or he is a good planner, I don't think it will happen. May be flowers?

mamaloco · 27/07/2010 12:25

His mum

TygerTyger · 27/07/2010 12:34

I mentioned this last night and really regret it, because I'll know he will do something lovely as usual and now it'll seem like I made him! Oooops.

I knew someone who asked for a giving birth present. I think it would be nicer not to have had to have asked.

Still, it's 5 months away, so there's every chance that mine will have completely forgotten I mentioned it by then! I do hope so.

EggsandBacon · 27/07/2010 13:40

My mate got a piece of jewellery after the birth of each of her DDs, but it wasn't really a "thanks for pushing" present, her bloke got her it to kind of commemorate the occasion, as she went back to work 6mths after each birth (so she had something to keep with her at work and as a nice reminder of their children). That jewellery means a lot to her, and I guess as it was unexpected it was a really nice thing to do.

I'm not expecting anything (apart from baby, natch) - although I'm hoping that when I get home there'll be a massive stilton and a nice bottle of red waiting for me. Sweeeeeet.

PJen · 27/07/2010 13:44

My dad gave my mom a new car and a ring for giving birth to me and each of my birthdays she got flowers as thank you. I have a romantic dad that makes it difficult for DH to compete my DH is not that rich but I do still expect a sort of something that stays with me for ever. I think I would love a ring (not that expensive), which has the date inside it or something that I can always wear and remember...

Mingg · 27/07/2010 13:49

I never thought of my charm as a "push/birth present" and would never have asked for one. I just thought it was very sweet of my husband to give me a little diamond A (our baby's initial)
to commemorate the occasion (we went through a lot to get there).

notagrannyyet · 27/07/2010 13:58

You will have something you will have forever... a child!

By the time it came to bringing DC3 home. I was more than happy if the house was tidy(ish), and he had managed to arrange a few days holiday.

Rocklover · 27/07/2010 14:08

No, we don't have much spare cash for that. The best thing that my dp can do is look after me a bit after baby is born, and I know he will.

He is great at cooking, a whizz at house work and is brilliant with my 5 yo dd (from my marriage to exh). He is also very good at making me feel special and loved. In fact, I think maybe I should buy him a lovely pressie as he has been fantastic so far (I'm 14 wks) and he has managed to be so lovely despite my dreadful mood swings.

He deserves a medal.

Rocklover · 27/07/2010 14:11

I'm 13+3, not 14wks. Bloody preg brain!

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whirleywoo72 · 27/07/2010 17:26

this sounds good, i will ask dh whats hes gonna get me for a present, but i know what the answer will be. lol

Doodleydoo · 27/07/2010 17:53

I suggest best present is a hamper of everything that wasn't allowed - would like some pate, champagne, rare steak, anything vaguely cheese orientated............the list goes on (or perhaps just a runny boiled egg?)

notnowbernard · 28/07/2010 07:55

Thinking about it, I think I should be buying DP a 'giving birth' present

To commemorate the fact that the pregnancy is over and I will no longer be a whingey old mare

My birth present to myself will be the contraceptive implant

Alicetheinvisible · 28/07/2010 08:09

I would be delighted to receive something from DH but seems unlikely. He is generally amazing though so will let him off

BaggedandTagged · 28/07/2010 08:57

"I bet my left breast that this "tradition" was invited by the jewellery industry, the way De Beers marketing people invented the "tradition" of the diamond engagement ring in the 1930s."

Skatergrrrl - you are 100% correct. Is in fact another great bit of De Beers marketing(although the concept of eternity rings has been around for ever).

In recent decades, De Beers also "guided" consumer behaviour with

"A months salary that lasts forever." i.e how much should one spend on a engagement ring.

"One diamond for every women you love" (when they wanted to sell more solitaires)

"Your past, present and future" for when they wanted people to buy cluster/trilogy rings.

baby2b · 28/07/2010 09:03

I have three friends who have received eternity rings on the birth of their first child. None of them are super wealthy, I think the guys just wanted to show their appreciation and were all traditional types.

I don't think I would mind?

Doodleydoo · 28/07/2010 10:49

Actually thinking back I did get a ring after dd was born, but it was my xmas present too and it was made up from a stone in a ring that my dad bought for me many years before but that made my finger go green (he said it was a cheap setting but a lovely Ameythyst and he was right!). DH and I combined some spondoolies and bought his birth stone to put either side of it. TBH it wasn't expensive as we already had the stone and dh's birthstones were semi-precious too. Don't think of it as a "push present" as I paid half and was something I had been talking about for several years but it is a nice commemoration as it was done post the xmas she was born. It is known as my "dd" ring and will eventually be passed onto her perhaps when I die or if she isn't a ratty teenager 18/21st or something similar. Even if current bump is another dd, it is still dd1's piece of jewellery.

BUT that was last time round and we both had a bit more money saved up and it was a bringing together of many sentimental moments both past present and future. Actually as I paid half am not going to justify myself anylonger.

Was thinking in the shower this morning though that I would possibly go shopping on the dh's account for some hospital essentials like perhaps a really nice shower gel? Bottle of champagne? Some Flip Flops? About what we can currently stretch to as would prefer to get a gift for dd from the baby - any recommendations?

wigglesrock · 28/07/2010 10:59

My dh has bought me small gifts for each of our 2 dd - one was born in the summer and he bought me new flip flops, couple of vest tops, summery bag, just the sort of surprise stuff he gets me for my birthday, for my second which was in the winter, he bought me a new hat, scarf and gloves. Sounds silly but really sweet. I'm not a flower person and my sister and friends usually get me smelly stuff. Mind you 3rd dc is due around Valentines Day which we usually don't do much for, so you never know!!!

AsiaMajor · 28/07/2010 11:26

I am considering getting my husband a ring to commemorate the birth of our first child. Big day for him, too!!!

Treat others as you want to be treated...

CupcakesHay · 28/07/2010 12:09

My husband is planning to buy me a pandora bracelet for Christmas (well - obviously I pushed him in the right direction) - and i'm giving birth end of Jan so I figured he can get me a bead for it - either blue or pink!

sarah1911 · 28/07/2010 12:20

I'm not expecting one but might demand a card promising X number of nappy changes per week and to make me a cup of tea before he goes to work in the morning - I think I'd appreciate that more than diamonds that will just get covered in baby sick!

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