hetookthecorkscrewtoo, until a few days ago, the baby you are carrying was a much anticipated and wanted eventuality, right? You were waiting for those lines on the test. That hasn't changed. You have had a massive shock, and found that your partner wasn't who you thought he was, but you are still the same.
Your family want all of this to go away. They are probably relieved that you are realising what this man is like, and think that you'd be better off without 'complications'. But you know that regardless of your decision, things will not be 'rewound'. If you terminate, you will have lost the child you dreamed of. If you don't, you will have the child you dreamed of, but lost the dream of that child having a resident father.
My sister was in a similar situation. She and her 'DP' weren't living together, but he said it was just due to his current accomodation being on contract, and that he very much wanted to have a 'family'. So, desparately wanting the same, having had a MC 7 years earlier with a man who had abused her, she agreed. She fell pregnant, and he moved in. But when she had to stop working due to pregancy related illness, and he had to start paying bills (seriously) rather than spending all his money on fags booze and weed, he threw a wobbly. He moved out. Then she had to start claiming IS. When he realised that she was getting everything 'free', he decided that perhaps he could do the 'family' thing afterall. He moved back in, but demanded that she didn't tell the council, because then they would lose the rent money, and he had fags, booze and weed to spend his hard earned cash on.
Eventually, at 31 weeks pregnant, he left her high and dry. Her baby was born at 33 weeks and was in SCBU. He was around sometimes, but very controlling, and would leave her at the hospital with no money and no transport, and no food.
Things were terrible for quite some time. Then they started 'seeing one another'. She would take their child to his residence, but she would have to provide all clothes, nappies, wipes, food, etc. Despite the fact that she was on IS and he was on a full-time wage.
When her child was around 16 months, she stopped using contraception. He was fully aware. I think she naively thought that if there were 2 children, he would 'have to come back to the family home'. He didn't move back in until she was 36 weeks pregnant, wouldn't let her tell the council 'til a few weeks later, then left again when the new baby was 8 weeks old.
I suppose what I am saying is, have a long hard, objective view of this relationship. What would you be saying to a friend? The baby and the relationship are two different things.
Money from his account? Tough luck, he should have thought of that.