Right, am I pregnant?

[ChallengingCitrusHalibut]

And yes I have POAS!

Had an mc in May resulting in ERPC on 11th May. Then I had what I think was a period on 12th June. Today I was about to start a course of unrelated meds and thought hmmm just in case, and got out the eBay cheapies.

Cue two BFPs. Not sure what to think. Is it even a distinct possibility that it is still the old pregnancy? I have had lower back pain all week and felt a bit dodgy this morning. Bit of a shock as have had two mcs and took ages to get pg last time.

But I don't want to get all excited/terrified if it's just the remaining hormones from the last one.

How pg were you when you had the mc?

I'm so sorry. It's a traumatic thing. I'd tentatively suggest that it's unlikely to be leftover hormones 2 months later.

I had a mc at 8 weeks and tested negative within 2 weeks. Had a period 4wks post mc and then conceived that month (resulting in 3yr old dd).

To be clear, had a mc in the July, period in August, bfp in September.

Sorry to hear about your mc Ogre but congratulations on your DD.

My dates sound pretty similar to yours so am thinking it's a new pregnancy. My last mc was discovered at 14 weeks but baby had died at nine weeks.

Hmm, I'd have to agree that it's unlikely it's still the hormones from last time.
Do another couple of tests tomorrow and Monday, and see if the line looks darker. The only way you'll know without having a scan.

Hiya, did you do another test...?

In case anyone happens across this in a similar situation here's an update...

Line got stronger all week then had an early scan last week and saw a 6.5 week bean with heartbeat! So I guess that settles it. Fingers crossed.

Sorry vmcd didn't see there had been another post.

The whole SAHM/working mother debate is a white elephant, not least because women have worked forever.

From looking at all my friends with small children and their different decisions/combinations of working FT/working PT/SAHM with childcare/SAHM without childcare/husbands who share childcare/husbands who barely see their children it seems that the happiest, most well balanced children are the ones who have the most sensible and caring and boundaried parents. The children who are most unhappy and with behavioural problems are those who mothers (and it is generallly mothers) are too enmeshed with them or are clearly neglectful. These things have nothing to do with whether the mother is working or not.

A good mother or father is a good mother or father full stop and will use his or her time with her children in a positive way that makes the children feel confident and secure and will make sure they have good childcare for when they aren't there.

My personal experience of my mother as a SAHM was not a good one sadly. There is no doubt that she lived her life through me, still does, and tries to send me on endless guilt trips about how much she gave up for me, how much she has supported me, how much I owe her. I am dealing with this everyday and it is a nightmare and has caused me serious problems. I wish that she had worked and I had had other relationships with other adults where I could have maybe had more autonomy. I guess though that she was just not a good mother ultimately and probably wouldn't have been in any circumstance.

I do find it interesting though that from the outside she looked like (and still does to some extent) the perfect SAHM mother and wife....

Oh dear... had two threads open and accidentally posted on this one so please ignore the post below...!

and massive congratulations to ChallengingCitrusHalibut

Thank you