Potty training 2 year old. Not sure what to do.

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Hi all.

I have a little girl who will turn 3 in February.

I've tried a few times over the last year to get her trained but she seems so resistant to going on the potty/toilet seat, it's almost like she's become frightened of it. We've got to a point where she won't wear a nappy during the day, but as soon as she needs to go she screams that she wants her nappy on to go in. If I don't put one on her and place her on the potty she just cries and refuses to go and then when she gets off she wets/soils herself. I'm finding it very frustrating as we are living in a pokey flat with no tumble drier and finding it very difficult to keep up with the washing at this rate!

Her speech is very good and she's a bright girl in all other aspects and no SEN concerns at all. She's due to start nursery in April so want to get this sorted before she starts.

Need some advice on what to do next.

I also have a 13 year old girl and had absolutely no issues potty training her from what I remember.

Thankyou

There's some really good positives in there - she can hold on for a while, she knows when she needs to go and she is communicating that with you.

No direct experience but I've hard of people sitting their DC on the potty/toilet wearing a nappy, then over time they cut a bigger and bigger hole in the nappy until the child is basically using the toilet. Maybe see if she will wee/poo in the nappy but while sat on the toilet?

Beyond that, the ERIC website has loads of useful info:
Home - ERIC

Hopefully someone with more direct experience will be along soon!

Sounds like she is ready and just need to get used to it. I’m sure it’s controversial but I trained both of mine (boy and girl) at just after 2 and they both took to pees straight away but needed encouragement for poos. I ended up using something on my phone to get them to sit and distract them then also used an instant reward system of chocolate stars and also a sticker chart for a bigger reward. They were done needing to watch something/get rewards after about 4-6 weeks

Can you stay home for a week and do potty bootcamp?

I'd get rid of the nappies entirely don't even have them as an option. Have her naked from the waist down. Give her loads to drink.
Watch her like a hawk and as soon as she starts to wee get her on the potty and reward with high value rewards - whether that's chocolate buttons, stickers etc.

Make sure you actually talk to her about potty training lots of mums I know ( I used to be a nanny) start potty training get all the gear and wonder why it’s going wrong and most of the time it’s because they’ve not actually spoken to the child about what’s happening!

Thank you! Some really helpful advice. I'll definitely try some bribery with chocolate buttons.

We've spoken lots about going to the toilet/potty and she comes in with me to watch and I'm showing her what Im doing. I also bought a toddler book called no more nappies which funnily enough she loves reading with me. It's just when it comes to the act of her doing it herself she freaks out. We haven't had any success of her doing anything in the potty so far 😭