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3yo refusing to use potty or toilet

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DonkeyMcFluff · 13/12/2020 13:56

If I ask my 3yo whether he needs a wee he always says no. When I put him on the potty or toilet he sits there happily but won’t do anything. If I tell him to do a wee on the toilet he yells no no no! So I put his trousers back on and he wees five minutes later. Occasionally he tells me there’s water on the floor but other times he just carries on playing in his wet clothes.

I’ve tried offering him sweets to do a wee. I’ve tried miming a toy doing a wee. I’ve done a wee myself and explained to him what I’m doing. I’ve tried getting him to blow raspberries or laugh to relax his bladder. I’ve tried distracting him with my phone. I’ve made psss noises, run the tap, put his hand in water, poured water on his crotch - nothing.

How do I make him do something on the toilet?! I can’t potty train him if he point blank refuses to go.

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Mrsmummy90 · 14/01/2021 14:41

DD just did a wee on the toilet! 😁
I gave her a big cup of milk and then I sat and played on her tablet (new and she's only played on it twice so still very exciting and new) and told her she couldn’t play with it until she’d weed on the toilet. Sure enough she went and had a wee 😂

Fatas · 14/01/2021 14:58

@Mrsmummy90 bribery, ahem- encouragement is the best. And when they get it you just take the rewards away slowly. Glad you found one that works- now you’ll have to find something even better for Poohs 🤣

Mrsmummy90 · 20/01/2021 11:24

Nothing since that wee.
She was so happy when she did it but now claims that she's scared of weeing in the toilet. She's 3 in a couple of weeks and I feel like we're not getting anywhere.

Tikker80 · 21/01/2021 12:36

@Mrsmummy90 You have got further than us! My son turned 3 Tuesday just gone and still absolutely refuses to even sit on his potty even for a second! Nursery he will but only for a matter of seconds. I have tried everything and I mean everything but nothing works 🤦‍♀️

raindrops44 · 23/01/2021 22:28

Read the Gina Ford potty training book. There's a small simplistic one that you'll get on eBay really cheap, very quick but useful read. I know allot of folk that disagree with her parenting methods but found her potty training advice great. Myself included. 😊 I had a similar experience with my eldest and put him back into nappies for a few months. When I started again he was dry day & night within a couple of days. Best of luck to you whatever you decide to do. xx

Mrsmummy90 · 24/01/2021 00:03

@raindrops44

Read the Gina Ford potty training book. There's a small simplistic one that you'll get on eBay really cheap, very quick but useful read. I know allot of folk that disagree with her parenting methods but found her potty training advice great. Myself included. 😊 I had a similar experience with my eldest and put him back into nappies for a few months. When I started again he was dry day & night within a couple of days. Best of luck to you whatever you decide to do. xx
Thanks for the recommendation. I've just ordered it. Dd is now refusing to sit on the toilet and solely wants a nappy again so keeping my fingers crossed for a miracle!
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Magnificentmug12 · 01/03/2021 11:41

Screw that! Your son being comfortable in his own home and your relationship is more important than what people are thinking! Screw them!!

It’s a big ask going from nappies to toilet training- they have always done it a certain way and now that habit needs to change by going on the toilet- it feels different and takes time. If he is verbal ask if he could try it, see if he would give it a go having a wee in the toilet like a game?

Don’t force it though, he will get there when he gets there.

Magnificentmug12 · 01/03/2021 11:43

Also highly recommend a little toilet! Tried for months and months and nothing a little toilet that is more comfortable and she got it within 3 days!!

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Houseofvelour · 02/03/2021 00:10

Dd has weed in the potty 3 times over the past days 😁 baby steps but I'm so happy!

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