Day 5 of bare bum and DD still not making the potty

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DD is 2 years 4 months. We're following the 'oh crap' method and we're still bare bummed 5 days in. This is our third attempt at potty training. She showed all the signs of readiness but just wasn't getting it before and she was getting overwhelmed so we threw in the towel

We've tried her with pants and she doesn't seem to be aware she's peeing and just pees right in them. We've tried her in trousers, similar deal, she doesn't know she needs the toilet until she's already peed. In fact when she's in trousers/pants she makes no attempt to pull them down or get to the potty AT ALL

When should I expect her to be able to tell she has to pee?

At the moment she starts to pee, feels it on her legs, says "toilet" and then we have to put her on the potty so she will go, there's no recognition that she needs to go

I might add that this time around it's not stressful for her so I am sure she is ready

Any tips or advice would be greatly appreciated

Thank you

I would be tempted to put her back in nappies and try again in a few weeks. You would expect to be seeing some success five days in if she was ready.
I've just potty trained a similar two year old, we tried three or four times (I lost count!), she seemed ready but just wasn't getting it. We put her back in nappies and about three weeks later she told me she wanted to try her pants on, I took her lead and it took a few days for her to be trained.

Thanks so much for your reply. I'm definitely inclined to agree with you

I worry that stopping and starting will delay her even more or have her thinking that if she doesn't want to use the potty she can stay in nappies forever so really wanted to stick at it this time

Are you hovering too much? I hovered too much and it was only when I stopped hovering that mine sat on the potty. I think it just takes longer for some.

I'd put her back in nappies - she doesn't sound ready. I wouldn't worry too much about stopping and starting - better that than her feeling stressed. Bare bottom is definitely the way forward, just try again in a couple of months or so.

You say she shows the signs of readiness but in my experience the main sign of the readiness is a child knowing that they need to wee/poo and she doesn’t have that. She os very young, I would go back to nappies and then try again once she is ready.

DS is 2 years 2 months and I've only just bought a potty. I encourage him to try for a wee every time I change his nappy to get him used to the idea but he's only just started telling me when he's done a poo. There's absolutely no pressure on him to use it but I praise him every time he does

In no way is this meant as a criticism but she's so young, put her back in nappies and wait til she's really ready

My twins are three. My daughter has shown signs of being ready for a year but would rather hold it in! My son got the hang of it two months ago and was taking himself to the potty by day three... whereas with my daughter she just didn’t seem to be able to get there in time or would hold it in for seven hours 😱 I would give her a bit longer from what you have said

Thank you all for your replies, it's greatly appreciated and all been taken on board.

It just feels like it's never going to click

Bare bum does not give the feedback to a child of their actions. your daughter needs pull-ups / cloth training pants, but training pants I have found to be shocking to the child, not a situation that is easy to work with if the child is not ready to make the transition.

With your daughter, as others have said, I would place her back into nappies and give it a few days before trying again - and this time with a potty and pull-ups etc. See my post How To Successfully Potty Train and take a break yourself. The more stressed / worried you are, the more stressed / worried your daughter will get - and children usually can't cope with stress as it causes them to regress, something you do not need.

I feel like you should keep going . My LO 20 months is doing pretty well. She wasn’t initially but I just felt it was a good time of year to keep at it because we’re outside in the garden and she can just wear a t shirt and it’s not too cold for her.

You do whatever’s right for you guys, I’m just pointing out toilet training is way easier when they pee all over the garden than in your house .

She isn't particularly young. Sit her on every half hour to start with, as pp said, it's easier this time of year.