Potty Training During Lockdown!

[LunaHardy]

So now seems like a better time than any and I've decided to potty train my 2yo dd during quarantine! I haven't potty trained for about 10 years and that was with my ds. I've bought her a potty a few weeks ago just to get her used to it but she's still not keen on sitting on it. Any tips please?

@Indecisivelurcher I'm also having this problem with my DD (2yrs 8 months). She can happily go on the potty or proper toilet for a wee or poo but has decided she now doesn't want to and wants to wear a nappy. It coincides with the arrival of her new baby brother so I am going to allow her a bit of time to 'be a baby' again but it is so frustrating to know she needs a poo, have her refuse, then 2min later she's walking around with a smelly turd in her nappy!

@twisty in not being weird but have you tried singing together while she's on the potty?

@TwistyHair does she come in the loo with you when you go? Help to normalise it? I know I’ve always got company 🤣
I really don’t know how to help her stop being scared, it’ll take time bless her!

I don’t want to speak too soon but I think our big regression two week ago was actually a big step in the right direction. We haven't had many accidents at all (touchwood!) since and he is even wearing joggers and remembering to ask for them pulled down.

Pants are not yet possible as they must still feel like a nappy but once lockdowns over I’ll go on search for some little boxer short things as he’s fine in shorts. I’ve looked online but can’t find any in 2-3 years anywhere?

@Indecisivelurcher singing is actually what got her to stay on the toilet yesterday. My husband sang a song about ‘the poo comes out your bum’ or something. I’ll try that again. So hope she gets less scared soon because I can’t have my whole days overtaken by trips to the toilet.

@caz1412 she’s in the toilet with me a lot. We have such a small bathroom too.

@TwistyHair hopefully the singing continues to work then! 🤞

I’m trying to do this too. I sit DC on the potty and explain what I want to happen but he doesn’t do anything. Then five minutes later he does it in his pants, and keeps running around with seemingly no understanding of what he’s done. I don’t know how to actually make him go?

Thank you girls. I will try the app today. Also got some tips from health visitor who told me to make her squeeze something in her left hand and also play blowing games. Apparently they cant blow and hold poo at the same time. So balloons with someone to watch them, bubbles and pretend candles. Will definitely have a try today.

This is getting old now, he knows what to do but is so resistant. Removing his nappy pants after a nap or in the morning is a melt down, I need it mammy. But it's dry after his nap so he's not choosing to wee in it it's just security I think.
Weeing has become a negotiation fest, he'll wee for a treat or to be allowed an activity but rarely of his own accord.
I'm just sticking to it, he can't think this is an optional thing or we'll never get there.

And he's just weed all over the floor, I got annoyed with him and took TV and his dummy off him. Bad move but I was up all night with the baby and he knows better

Yesterday ended a little better with a couple of pees on the potty and a poo as well but she's been holding her pee all morning today and crying everytime we try to convince her to sit on the potty.

We're only on day 4 and I'm so ready to throw in the towel but the stubborn part of me doesn't want to.

Hello! First post on this thread but I’ve been potty training my twins who are 2.3 for almost 3 weeks now and was hoping someone might be able to give me some advice. So one twin, DT2 has taken to potty training really well and does nearly all wees and poos in the potty. BUT he will only stand, so I don’t know how to get him to sit, plus I’m having to keep him bare bottom as otherwise he just works himself up trying to get his trousers off every 5 minutes. Is it bad to keep them bare for so long? It’s stressing me out that I should be moving him into trousers now. Has anyone else had the same issue with only wanting to stand? Or kept them bare for a long time?
Second, DT1 is not interested in the potty at all e.g will sit on the potty then go wee on the floor. He’s done maybe a couple
of wees and one poo successfully. I’m thinking maybe I should give up with him for the moment? Has anyone else potty trained twins separately, I’m just worried that DT2 who is doing well will want want nappy on if his brother does. Or should I persevere, but 3 weeks and no real improvement feels a long time.
Any advice or reassurance welcome, im having a bad potty training day today!

@Rocksandstones must be sooo hard doing it with two! My sympathies.

My boy only stands, I couldn’t get him to sit on the potty. He’s developed a very good aim now 🤣 he kept trying to stand for poos and it was only when one missed the potty and landed on the floor it seems to click with him, now he sits to poo.

We have been bare bummed for 6 weeks, I thought it was too long and have tried and tried to get him into trousers but was having accidents in trousers but not bare bummed because he refused to ask me to pull his trousers down.

He’s only consistently worn trousers in the house for a week, I gess it takes some longer to get it but he’s doing alright now 👍🏻

Hopefully be the same for you 🤞

I have a stander too, aims improving so I'm leaving him to it. When he sits to poo he forgets to put his willy in the potty and it goes everywhere.
As for the trousers I started him on shorts which went way better than trousers. He'd give up trying to get the trousers down pretty quick but with the shorts he could grab the bottom of them and get them down himself. We've moved on to trousers from there.

@AnitaTip my daughter can definitely hold poo and blow bubbles. I tried the bubble thing but it didn’t work. Hopefully works with yours though.

@RonSwansonsMustacheComb hope today has been ok for you. Just to reassure you, I gave up with my first child and tried later. It worked really well and he got the hang of it in a day. So not saying you should give up, but don’t despair if you have to.

@Rocksandstones I’d do them separately. It sounds like one is ready and one isn’t. And might make it easier for you.

We tried today and nothing worked. She was holding for hours. I was watching her constantly to catch the moment when she needs to go and nothing. I left for a minute to go toilet myself and she did it in her panties. I need to reduce movicol. Her poo is very soft. She gets often UTI and has e.coli in her urine so I am desperate to keep her clean. From Saturday when we r both at home we will watch her constantly. I used the pooland app and she likes it and understand but still won't do it. Nothing left than just keep trying.

@TwistyHair we gave up! She's only 2 and 3 months so there's plenty time.

She spent the whole day holding it in, dancing, howling if we suggested potty/toilet. Her behaviour and sleep both got worse and DH and I didn't really like how frustrated we were getting so we'll just have to try again. Thanks for the reassurance.

I’m glad there are some fellow standers out there!

@Caz1412 haha my boys aim isn’t too bad either at least! That’s good to know you moved to trousers after 6 weeks. I don’t really know why I was worrying about it, I think part of me was thinking what if he never wears trousers..but of course he will one day 😂. I’ve also realized he straddles the potty which is why he need his trousers off, so i guess I need him to stand back a bit then encourage sitting for poo.

@SuddenArborealStop thanks for the tip about shorts, I’m going to give that a go tomorrow!

@TwistyHair yes I think you are right, I had it in my head i’d do them both together but actually it probably is best to do one at a time

@RonSwansonsMustacheComb it’s worth stopping if it becomes too stressful. This is the second time I’ve tried with this child. My other child took 3 times and he was over 3 yo when he finally got it. I probably would have stopped this time too but she point blank refused to have a nappy back on (apart from yesterday for a few minutes to do a poo) So it ended up not being my decision.

Also, @Rocksandstones , DT1 who isn’t training might be encouraged to train more easily later because he wants to copy DT2.

@AnitaTip we’re in same position with poos. She’s already asked to go to the toilet three times this morning after her morning wee. I know it’s coz she needs a poo. Asked if she wanted a nappy on but no. Keep going! That’s all we can do. It’s so frustrating though

Good morning all. @TwistyHair I told her off few times before and now she wont even tell me she did it. So now I am trying to make stress free environment and if she does make a poo and ask me if I am sad than I will say, I am ok. Next time please try in the toilet. As HV suggested, dont make big fuss about it. Make huge fuss when she uses toilet. I wouldn't mind if she asked for nappy just to make a poo but she doesn't. And if I put nappy on her than she won't even use toilet for wee 😭 it is very frustrating. My son potty train himself two weeks before his second birthday. I didnt do anything. He just took off his nappy and never put It back on. After 2 months he was dry at night too. I have no idea how it happened and here i am trying for over a year. And seems like we just started.
Keep trying! Joy of parenting 😂

Oh no @AnitaTip a year sounds exhausting!

@TwistyHair Same here with poos. Three months in and wees we've cracked but we have a lot of failed toilet trips for poos (only the odd rate success) - which usually results in her going in a nappy at night and having to wake to change her before I go to bed!

We're a long way off dry at night though

DS has to have a change of trousers if a splash of wee gets on them, which it does frequently because of the standing I realised leaving him trouserless if I've none to hand immediately is a terrible idea. It doesn't bother him to just wee if he's naked but is very upset if he wets his trousers so we need them on for him to try.

I’m so glad I’m not the only one with poo issues. Sorry for you all though. We’ve had another whole day of up and down to the toilet. Even tried putting nappies on again but she won’t go in it. It got to the point where it was coming out and she was actually trying to hold it in with her hand. Ffs. Did it in the end but only because I held her hands and kind of held her on the toilet so she couldn’t get off. It’s been a whole day for what is really a 10 second event.

Im just hoping that the more she does them the more she’ll realise it’s nothing to be scared of. But it doesn’t seem to be happening yet.