Potty Training During Lockdown!

[LunaHardy]

So now seems like a better time than any and I've decided to potty train my 2yo dd during quarantine! I haven't potty trained for about 10 years and that was with my ds. I've bought her a potty a few weeks ago just to get her used to it but she's still not keen on sitting on it. Any tips please?

Not a pro, but my son would literally go back and forth (including trousers down etc) ten times in a row before finally doing the poo, at the start.... He just needed time to learn the sensation, tbh. Maybe just give her more time? I tried really hard not to get fed up, although it was pretty annoying at the time...!

I’m despairing now

Omg the poo dance as I call it (running back and forward to the potty). It’s been over 2 hours so far with some decent stretches of not going but others every couple of mins. I can see how desperately he needs to poo but also see him clenching to keep it in. It just ruins any activity coz you keep having to stop, and it’s so frustrating since I know he will feel so much better after he’s been. And I mean seriously - hours?! I know it’s good that he knows the poo is coming and that he should be going to the potty, but I’m not sure how much longer I can cope with spending half my day going back and forth to the potty. I am really struggling not to lose my temper and I know my DH is finding it hard too. My DS keeps saying potty but then only sitting for a split second, and even if we manage to keep him sat down he just doesn’t do anything. He keeps going in and out of the bath atm. I don’t even care where he poos now, I just need this to end...

At least you’re getting a poo dance! We just had a massive shit all over the garden.

Drink more water/juice diluted to speed on the poos.

Mostly we get to the toilet now for a wee. But he can be a bit resistant if we're doing something else. I have been setting time limits e.g. you need to go before you go in the Tula or an alarm on my phone which has worked. One out and out didn't even try to tell me until too late today

First day in quite a few he hasn't pooed (nearly always toilet for that now, bar the one when he was very definitely ready the other day but DH was in the loo where his booster seat was which was in the potty, and he'd made it upstairs too)

@TwistyHair oh no... I remember potty training my ds (he's 12 now) and he did a poo in the garden and hid it with a book, I had no idea for ages!
Dd did another poo last night, again secretly did it on the potty and then put it straight in the toilet before we could see it in the potty. This is fast becoming her new party trick!

Ugh, bet you had to throw the book away! No accidents this morning. But she’s only gone when prompted. I think she’s better when she’s out. She holds it more and waits til she gets home. Whereas at home she just wees if she’s sat on the floor. She weed her pants yesterday after her nap and got a bit upset. She said she was sad. But good news, she came to tell me that she was weeing and stopped it half way through and did the rest on the toilet. So that was positive. Hoping that’s a kind of progress.

That’s great @LunaHardy that she’s doing poos like that.

Twisty - that is progress. We had same pattern. She stopped halfway, tried to get to there and had been sad about an accident. Great!

Luna - apparently sometimes they crave privacy?

Lol re book!

@fascinated definitely! Even before she started potty training she would take herself to a quiet corner to poo in her nappy. And if you interrupted her she would say "go way!!!" 😅

Urgh, the poo dance here carried on until this morning and ended up with a poo in his trousers. This potty training malarkey is very much 2 steps forward and one back! He did 2 poos on the potty on weds...

@fascinated he’s drinking loads of water, and eating lots of fruit (including prune pouches), but it’s like he’s afraid to poo until he sorely can’t hold it in any longer.

@LunaHardy sounds like your DD is doing great! It’s pretty cool that she puts it straight in the toilet!

Kle, that’s odd. Hope it gets better soon...

Hi guys. We have started potty training out 2 year old as well. This is my first child so I have no idea what I'm doing.
My daughter has picked it up quite well as she does all number 1s and 2s in the potty however, she does not tell me when she wants to go. We started off with her having nothing on her bottom half which allowed her to be the miss independant that she is and just go by herself which after about 2 days is fantastic!
The problem arises that whenever we put pants or trousers on her she just pees in them. I'm guessing she thinks they are like nappies, we have tried showing her how to pull them down and always tell her to tell us when she needs to go so we can help but she does not.
The other problem we have is that she is weeing ever 20 or 30 so mins, is that normal?
Would really appreciate some help or tips.

Many thanks xx

My daughter does this too! So funny x

@Mum3085 could you try leggings or better still a dress with no pants? The book 'oh crap potty training' explains that it takes them a while to develop muscle memory and suggests doing this for a few weeks if possible. My LO has had to get used to pants as she's still in nursery 3 x a week where they don't allow commando but I'd say it does really help. Good luck xx

@Jannt86 I've tried both trousers and a dress. do you think just carry on as we are without pants? Or do you think best to get them on and get her used to them?
Thank you x

@Mum3085 if she's really not managing with them on then yeh I'd just go bare bum for a bit and keep trying to introduce undergarments gradually every few days. Presumably there's not a whole lot of need for clothes right now if you're not going out anywhere so I'd save your washing machine a job and not rush

FYI my son, who I’d say got it pretty quickly, was bare bummed for 3 full days and then commando for another week or so. Still had a few accidents but it was okay overall as he had quite a lot of time at each stage for the message to sink in.

@Jannt86 @Goostacean thank you both for your advice.
In your experience how often did or does your little ones wee? Is it normal that she is gping as often as she does?

Ibelieve if they are younger and used to nappies they might wee often, but once they get used to potty training they tend to consolidate into fewer wees. As they get used to holding it, the novelty wears off, and at some point they probably feel it’s too much loss of playing time to go to the toilet too often!

@MsChatterbox my daughter is doing exactly whatcyour son did. How did you jntroduce oants and trousers? Really struggling withbthis at the moment. Also my daughter is peeing every 30mins or so which makes it even harder. Would appreciate any advice you have x

@MsChatterbox sorry loads of typos haha

@fascinated thank you for the advice i will keep going! Xxx