DS2 is 3years and 8 months.
Last year he had a lot of upheaval in his life. DH moved away for a job, his full time nanny left and he had to go to nursery in September for the first time. At home he had no structure or routine and could pretty much do what he wanted, when he wanted. Going to nursery was a bit of a shock to him.
Unbeknownst to me, the nursery teacher tried to potty train him from day one. I only found out a week later when she told me that the nursery manager told her to stop and give him time to settle in first. Unfortunately the damage was done.
He cried everyday when I dropped him off from September through to March this year. (I know the nursery so didn't think they were doing something specifically wrong; apart from trying to potty train him on day one. DS1 went there and was very happy).
We moved cities, this year in March to join my husband and DS2 is very happy in his new nursery. However, he flat out refuses to potty train. In fact, he doesn't like not having a nappy on at all. If I happen to change him in his bedroom before bath time, he insists on having a nappy on between the bed and bath.
We've tried underpants over his nappy but he goes crazy when he just sees underpants. Wants nothing to do with them. All his friends at nursery goes to the bathroom, but he is happy and confident in his nappy. Not remotely bothered by peer pressure.
He is probably the most stubborn child I've come across (which makes me both proud and despair).
What do we do? Do I put my foot down and say, no more nappies or do we give him more time? Should I take him to the doctor?
sorry this is so long.