DS (3.10) is currently at preschool and some days will be fine, others 4-5 accidents (wee and poo). He's generally more reliable at preschool than at home (routine?), but even there sometimes gets distracted and forgets. I have to go everywhere with several changes of clothes just in case.
He's had a rocky road with it all. We started potty training at about 2, supported by his nursery who agreed he was ready, then moved house, childcare setting and had a new baby over the next year all of which, in turn, caused regressions. He can, when he remembers, do everything he needs to in a toilet, but I don't know if he actually forgets or there's something more to it.
Wee accidents vary from a little dribble to a full on cascade and often (most annoyingly) happen ten minutes or so after he's been asked if he needs to go. Poo accidents are usually just a "smudge" as it were - could this be not quite controlling when passing wind? I've had him checked by a GP for UTI and constipation.
Bribery hasn't worked and I don't like it anyway. He's a sensitive soul and I'm loath to set him up with a reward system that he's almost certainly going to fail at.
I keep telling myself its just a phase and he'll grow out of it but I'm worried because (sorry if TMI) DH has issues with this too and I don't want it to become an anxiety related thing. And the whole school thing too - especially as he'll be one of the youngest in the class. I know they're all different and it won't last for ever but I'm so fed up with it all!