Trained for 7 months, still poos in pants

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I'm at my wits end and desperately in need of help. My 3.6 year old DS has been going to the toilet since October. He's even dry at night. But poos his pants EVERY day. I've had help/advice from friends, parents, health visitor, even continence nurse but we are no further on.

We have ruled out constipation. He goes every day but just never goes to the toilet. He is not afraid of the toilet, it splashing etc as sometimes he has poo'd there by chance when doing a pee and he's been so delighted and couldn't wait to tell everyone.

I have tried rewards, blowing bubbles on toilet, going on toilet 20 mins after meals, stories about poo, but nothing works. I know it's wrong but on occasion I have shouted at him out of sheer frustration but nothing makes any difference.

I am at my wits end. I'm sat now at the bottom of the stairs in tears while he plays blissfully in his room after I've cleaned him up yet again, pants had to go to the bin. This has been going on 6 months now and I just don't know what to do. My HV says she's given me all the advice she can and now it's up to me. I feel so alone with this and it's really getting me down. He starts nursery in September and I know they won't tolerate this day after day.

Can anyone please give me any advice or hope cos right at the minute I feel like such a crap mother. I just want my boy to poo in the toilet and to be able to go to nursery happy and for me not to be worrying about a call to go clean him up. Please

Hope this thread has made you feel a little better. I love the wrapped presents/party idea. How hilarious explaining to all the other guests :)

My 6 year old is still having poo problems, unfortunatly there doesn't seem to be a solution to this, other than waiting.

Hi all, just wanted to pick your brains yet again! I think we've had a slight bit of progress but I'm not sure how to move on from here. Twice now after I've bathed my DS and he's been running around in his dressing gown (bare bottomed!), he's ran in and told me he needs a poo and has done a poo in the toilet. But all the times in between he has poo'd in his pants as usual. I just don't know how to proceed from here. I can't let him run around with no pants on all the time, but how do I get him to tell me when he needs a poo when he's wearing pants. He obviously recognises the feeling. Sorry if I'm rambling! Would appreciate any advice! Thanks in advance!

try no underwear just trousers / shorts?

I agree with Pirate - try going without pants.

I have just had a breakthrough with my only-in-a-nappy boy. I have been very gradually working my through the stages in the Eric sheet and today was good first go at having to stay in the bathroom to poo. I gave him my phone with the Cbeebies app. He was fine, did his poo, and told me that he thought he could poo in the loo if he had the app, so well try that next time.

He's going to be one of those people who needs to read something in order to be able to poo, isn't he?

Thank you! See I've been so caught up in it all I never thought of doing that! Will try him with no pants and just trousers tomorrow! I knew I could rely on you guys!

That's great Runner! Long may it continue!