Started potty training today - anyone else want to give / get a bit of moral support?

[Biscuitsandtea]

Hi, DS is 3 and we've started potty training him today. We were hoping to wait until he woke up one morning and said 'I'm done with nappies thanks very much Mummy - let's go wild with the pants', but this hasn't happened so we thought we'd just try him with nothing on at first and then pants and see how it goes.

Just wondered if anyone else was starting too and wanted to go through it together?

We've done various bits of nappy free time for months with varying amounts of success, but only ever an hour or two here and there with no consistency to see how he was doing and whether we thought he knew when he was weeing or pooing. It's only recently that I've thought that he actually does know hence deciding to give it a go today.

We had a quiet weekend so thought 'no time like the present!'

Now a couple of times in the week we'd had no nappy on and a fair bit of success in the potty. Wednesday = lots of mopping up wees but a few 'hits' at the end of the afternoon. Thursday was better with no accidents. but this was still doing everything bare bum!

Today we were doing pretty well this morning. Everything going in the potty and no accidents, so after lunch we thought we'd try adding pants into the equation. previously pants = accidents (I wonder if he would forget it wasn't a nappy?) so we never persevered with them, but we have this afternoon. Certainly more accidents this afternoon, which is I think a mixture of being tired and the 'pant effect' and we had a very rough few hours between say 3 and 5. Then we've had a few more wees on the potty and going a bit better this evening.

We're planning more of the same tomorrow but we have a birthday party to go to in the afternoon and I'm in a bit of a predicament about that in as much as I don't want to go back to nappies and confuse / demoralise him, but equally don't want loads of accidents at my friend's DDs party so as yet we're undecided. I think at the moment we'll be erring on the side of a nappy as it's just not fair if he has an accident in the middle of the party?

Anyway, anyone who wants to join me for the ride, please come aboard :-)

I'll have , and to help the journey go along!

Well what a day after his nap we had a few more accidents than my dh decided to leave pants of & no accidents after that than he went to bed a cane out to do a poo & than went back to bed so all in all a good day I think tomorrow will b half & half as dh wants to take him out to play football so we will see what he goes in & if we had any accidents.
I am glad everyone is doing well just remember to stick with it & give plenty of praise & stay cool if there are any accidents

Right - am about to give up. She has weed three times all in her pants this morning - not one wee in the potty herself (one when she was climbing in her buggy which obv meant a wet buggy seat). She just doesn't get it at all and I don't know why I am doing it to myself?! There is no point yet!

U have 2 b patient go back to square 1 if need be sit her down first in morning than after breakfast than after lunch than after dinner & before bath

I know - am so not patient

But when I left the pants off just now she took herself to the potty and weed. She clearly "gets it" but just with pants on she thinks she is wearing a nappy. I don't really want to give up as we have got this far and she def gets the whole wee/poo in potty thing. The pants just confuse her. She's happy to go to the potty and do whatever she needs to without pants on - that seems to be cracked!

I guess like Biscuits said, it will just be hard for the first day or so wearing pants. Sometimes she doesn't even want pants on even though I have shown her mine and what I do when I need a wee and tried to get her to practice pulling them down etc. Feel like I can't really leave the house much at the moment though as a result!

Is today day 3 Kings?

See how she goes, but if you do decide to hold off or a bit don't feel bad - she is still young and might well just decide in the next few months. If not give her another go to see how she's doing. I seem to recall GF says something similar if you start and think they're not ready?

It is really hard for them, an the physical removing of the pants is still quite hard for them isn't it. Again, because DS is bit older he's a bit better with the undressing / dressing part (if a bit lazy - I know he can do it!)

DS has woken up in a weird mood today - kind of tired which makes him hard work . No poos yet but I think he doesn't want a poo accident as he's tried a few times on the potty....

3 or 4 wee's in the potty so far, but then keeps wanting to go bare bum - I'm trying to get him to keep pants and trousers on. I think he doesn't like the wet clothes when he has an accident but we need to get past that.

Going to try the supermarket later to look for a Halloween costume for him.

Yup day 3. It's just that she seems to have really cracked it with no pants it just seems a shame not to keep trying and I do imagine it will take a while to get used to wearing pants and realising she can't wee in them. But obv I will need to be patient and I am one of the most impatient people I know...

It's not fair of me to expect her to just get used to wearing pants and not be allowed to wee in them immediately! I'll see how she goes today and tomorrow and if the pants thing isn't working maybe back in nappies (Although I bet she won't want to wear them in the house)

That sounds good re wees Biscuits! And hopefully a poo! Yes exactly - bare bottom is the problem...I don't know whether to just brave going out this afternoon and if she wees she wees. Take her to the park and just see what happens. (Which no doubt, will be wee after wee after wee in her pants).

Sorry he is tired and a bit grumpy - they are such hard work when like that...

Hi. Just wanted to add that we had a travel potty for both our DCs. Would never have been without it. Just finished training DD2 so sympathise greatly, although she got the hang of it pretty quickly. Actually, wanted to say that I never bought the 'official' liners etc for the travel pot (far too expensive) but found that the nappy bags with really cheap sanitary towels did the job just as well.

Ah - that's interesting thanks . I bought a potentate plus yesterday (and I did buy a bag of the liners - I'm hoping we won't need more than one bag's worth.

Was quite pleased though that DS managed to get to the toilets yesterday at the soft play pace. Am hoping that the travel potty will just mean we can go places where there isn't necessarily an easy toilet, or for long car journeys etc.

A potentate? Autocorrect... Meant potette!

I have actually ordered one which should be arriving today (now in fact). But the problem is I think she will just wee in her pants - even if I ask her! And isn't keen on getting her bottom out outside if cold/noisy etc. She's fairly quiet and not keen on loud noise etc at the moment.

Ps Biscuits - am feeling your pain - we have colds here and she is being a bit of a nightmare too - clingy, crying, asking for one song to be played then crying and asking for another, I put it on and she wants the previous one! And so it goes on, and being stuck inside isn't helping!

Ah yes, we're getting the same thing - 'do you want to help with the washing?' 'No' 'Sure?' 'No' 'Fine'. Wait for the washing to be out and me back in then lots of tears for not being able to help - Gah!

DS has no such qualms about getting his bum out - must be the difference in boys and girls! . Saturday saw him running around the garden in just a pj top and wellies - very odd look!!

Ah see she doesn't mind one bit if at home - even if outside. But in the street with noisy cars and bike etc she hates. (From our one experience of trying to get her to use the potty outside on Monday)

Ooh they are trying when they are like this aren't they!?

King have u tried only putting her in pants for half the day & than gradually increase it I know hoe u feel my ds was doing well & than when I had my ds2 he went back to square one again but we are getting there again, u can even try her bare bum for a few more days it takes a while but she is getting there or u could just take a chance & take her out today & see how she goes my ds will ask for toilet when we r out but not at home, she could surprise u.
Today we have had 2 wees in the potty but he has gone to sleep now so we will see how it goes later

Thanks Shaz - this is the first day I have properly tried to get her to wear pants and currently she has had three accidents, all in pants, one wee in potty (when she wasn't wearing pants) and is now refusing to wear pants... Not quite sure what to do. We have to go out after her nap this afternoon briefly to collect the car from the garage anyway so will see how that goes - if like yesterday she will have an accident!

Hi guys - everyone sounds like they're getting on well! Biscuits I know what you mean about fitting in the potty, the reason my DS was so averse to pottys was because when he first sat on one at around 14 months and hurt his willy - so that was a struggle! We're using the lindham all in one potty which converts to a toilet seat/step and then we've got an ikea cheapo one for in the car and one of those at my mum n dads

Well yesterday was a step backwards - he didn't wee alllllll day at all in nursery until 5 o clock, at which point he flooded the room - little pudding was scared of going I think, but they have an open bathroom with little toilets so I think that didn't help - sent him in with a bag full of about 8 x sock, undies and pants and about 4 tops and vests! Felt foolish but the nursery nurse said some don't send anything in at all so they prefer to be prepared!

Just called them today and they said no accidents but no wees either - they will give it till the end of the week before maybe discussing other options - has anyone had that? What are the other options?

We've got the dentist tomorrow so I'm hoping he'll be ok - but if he's still shaken I might put a nappy on, but would that confuse him? Argh this is very difficult!

Kings - just read your post about 3 wet pants - I hear you! I have been wondering and wondering is he ready maybe not maybe so - I personally would have been happy to wait a little whole longer but stupidly let my Mum pressure me into doing it now and I feel like we've started and got quite far but on the bad days I know I'll feel like giving up, just remember - there aren't any 10 year olds still in pampers (unless medically of course) so I think the trick is not to worry if it hasn't worked this time around - wait a few weeks maybe? Its very hard! [Whinge whinge whinge emoticon] ha ha ha they'll get there! We'll all get there!

King I would leave her bare bum for a little longer cos if she is saying she don't want to wear pants than there is no point in pressuring her as it might set get back what I do every morning with ds is give him a choice on what he wants to wear pants pull up or bare but when we have to go out I again let him choose as it's what makes him feel comfortable I hope this helps it might take longer than what u expected but she is doing really well for her age

Chunkymonkeymother: I am fraid I ant help u out on the other options bit when u find please let me know as my ds is starting nursery next week, the reason why he might not go at nursery is maybe cos he is scared see if they have a potty it might make him feel more at home if they had a potty and it wasn't next to the big loos just an idea

Today is going well had 2 wee in potty this morning he fell asleep with pull up on than woke up with it wet took it off & went poo in potty all of this as bare bum but might b going out later just in the garden so I am going to put him in pants & take potty & c how he goes how r u all doing?

So far (!) no accidents, several wee's in the potty or Asda toilet, still no poo. Just at Morrisons - it's like we're doing a supermarket tour or something!

Chunky not sure what the 'other' options might be . As Shaz says, perhaps the nursery have a potty, or could you even send your own?

And don't worry about sending loads of pants etc - I sent 10 pairs of trousers and 20 pairs of pants! I have a 'pant and yrouser' bag that I've packed up and at that, and then it comes in the car etc. better over prepared than under prepared!

It's always good to see people doing the same crazy things as yourself!!
We started potty training DS (2yrs) on Sunday DH spend the morning mopping up pee (only fair as I am going it alone the rest of the week - good to have them involved :) ) Sunday was a bit of a riot, but, Monday was good (on'y 1 accident) and so far today (touching all wood things) no accidents. I'm still putting him on the potty when I think he needs (after lunch etc) and asking him if he needs regularly (to which I get the rather exhastperated response... "NO mum I do NOT need a PEEEEEEE!") After 2 days of being in the house I'm venturing out to Asda with him this afternoon nappyless.... eek!
Hope everyone else is getting on ok!
x

Good luck hope all goes well, I have not had any wee on floor yet so far so good if carries on than I will Try him in pants tomorrow all day

Ooooh! Well done Monkey + Biscuit! That's great progress! Shazz I'm not sure how we'll get around some of the stuff in nursery to be honest, I'm hoping he'll just get into the swing of it! Everytime I ask him "do you need a wee-wee" I just get a "noooooo" as in - stop asking me Mum!

He did make me laugh with the sticker thing - not sure if anyone else has tried a reward chart? I got some special animal stikers for when he sat on the potty or even had a wee, worked great the first time - second time he got up, walked over to his toy box and pulled out a sheet of Thomas the Tank stickers and stuck them all on his chart! I nearly wet MYSELF never mind him ha ha

Gah! Just had another poo in the pants incident. That means we have had no poo success but no wee accidents

He says he just doesn't know when the poo is coming so I don't know quite how to get around it.....

It was before we got home too so feel a bit bad that I hadn't got him home quicker - maybe that would have made a difference?