My dd has development delay (only ~6mo delay) so we put off toilet training til she was 3. Went really well - hardly any accidents, dry within a week. BUT for the last month (maybe more) she has had an accident EVERY wee. She has control as she is dry at night (and can hold for a good hour once she's awake). BUT she does enough wee to wet her pants / trousers and doesn't mention it (normally I notice when I pick her up and get a wet side - nice!). The she'll go when I ask her to, do a big wee and then have to get changed. Tried to make no fuss (she's even sat on the loo and started to say "oh dear my pants are wet"). Tried a sticker chart but she has only had one non-accident in weeks so it's really hard to reward her. Tried not to keep saying "do you need a wee?". Tried different amounts of fluids - just reduces / increases the number of accidents. Now we've got through 12 pairs of trousers in 3 days I give in! I have 2 older ones who potty trained fine around 2-2.5yrs (so the total washing is more than I can cope with). She loves her Peppa Pig pants, but today I said "you want to wear pants like ... (lists friends / sister etc)" and she declared she wants to wear a nappy and she wants to wee in it. Just (foolishly) put one on her and about 30 mins later she said she needed a wee - I asked her to go to the toilet but she wandered around a bit, then did it in her nappy. I don't want to start threatening / punishing her for not going to the loo when she knows she needs to and make a big issue but I don't know what else to do?
I know there are phases - 2 steps forward and one back - but this has gone on for many weeks!
Any advice anyone? (Oh and don't ask me consult my HV for fear of totally pushing me over the edge :-)) Thanks!