Obsessed with Doc who delivered my baby!

[Yeuxbleu]

This might make me sound crazy, but I am so obsessed with the idea that I might bump into the doctor who cared for me during my labour and carried out my emergency c section, so he can see that my baby is well and that we were worthy of his care. I just have this strange fantasy that he could be part of her life and that he might be my doctor for my next delivery. I realise how strange and sad this sounds.....I just wondered if anyone else experienced similar feelings about their Obgyn docs??

Yes I 100% do...total people pleaser 😞

I has this! Had a horrible EMCS with my first and for a few days after I kept kind of going over it and thinking about the doctor who delivered DD. Almost like a crush or a hero worship type obsession like he saved my life or something…only lasted for a week or so and I put it down to hormones/the trauma

Thank you, I think I might do that!

I am amazed at the amount of responses here of people having similar experiences!

Sending a thank you card is lovely and not weird, as PPs suggest.
While they may not become a part of your family’s ‘tribe’, they will remember you and will feel appreciated.
i remember the very strong urge to thank the consultant who saw me through a very sad 5 month scan and all the subsequent care until the stillbirth, as I wanted to let him know how much I appreciated his candour and consideration. I bumped into him about a year later and he remembered. Our doctors are human, and most do it because they care enough to make a difference.

I had my son premature and had a wonderful older nurse helping me to establish breast feeding (he was in an incubator). Ended up breastfeeding him for just over a year.

I was thrilled to meet her walking through a park - she'd retired by then - so I could thank her for everything she did for me. She was lovely about it. Very modest - "that was my job" - but I'm glad I gave her that respect and gratitude at that moment.

@threestars

I'm so sorry you went through that.

You sound like a lovely caring person.

Yes - I totally relate - I have had this feeling several times in my life. always following a traumatic or highly emotional event. Each time it has passed over time but each time I have felt a huge emotional attachment/attraction to someone who was probably oblivious to my existence.

I agree with PP's that leaving a great review and sending a thank you card to the hospital would be lovely, because I imagine that healthcare professionals are very seldom thanked in this way.

As others have said, you're extremely grateful to this doctor for everything he's done for you and your baby, that's what these feelings are.

I confess that I had similar thoughts about the priest that married me and DH! It was a Catholic wedding (I am athiest) and I wanted him to see that we went on to have kids and were happily married to "prove" I was telling the truth when I said our relationship would follow the "rules" of the church!

I am a bit of a an obessive weirdo though 😂

My husband and I sometimes fondly remember my doctor who delivered our child and how well he stitched me up!

Good advice

Thank you for your response on here and I'm so glad for you that you had a good consultant who was able help you through a very sad time

I really fancy the just eat guy that delivers my take away omg one hot russian tall built like an out house deep voice huge hands.
Me at 4 foot looking like a oompa loompa that cant stop staring and smiling when he turns up.
The only words ive ever said is thank you.
Ive already planned our wedding in my head.
😆

I think it’s a perfectly normal response to a really big life event. You hear of lots of people naming their baby after a significant person at the birth.

I totally remember the midwives and doctor who delivered my children.

I had this with my midwife, she was incredible and I would love for it to be her if we are lucky enough to have more children.

I was lucky in that although I haven’t seen her again, my sister was actually looking after her in her own pregnancy so she updated her on how Me and DD are and showed her loads of pictures, she remembered us because it was months later and when she found out who she was seeing she said to my sisters matron “Oh I delivered her sisters baby!” Completely unprompted and they don’t work for the same trust. It was really lovely.

"Worthy of his care" is an odd concept. Myra Hindley, Ian Brady, Ian Huntley, Peter Sutcliffe, and many other murderers have received medical treatment. There's no expectation that a patient be "worthy" of care.

Interesting!! Did you feel the priest was welcoming of you when you got married?

Yeah bit weird sorry @Yeuxbleu Don't ever try to 'reach out' to him.

I think this is quite common OP. I was a bit obsessed with the consultant who carried out a tricky op on me many years ago. I think so many emotions come in to play in these situations and it is easy to confuse them.

Thank you card, nothing more. Just enjoy your baby.

Thank you, I suppose part of it is down to the fact I needed an emergency c section and I know that's a huge cost to the NHS. I can't help feeling like I disappointed people somehow.

It's lovely that she did that but this post makes me so sad and angry.... How could you have been left crying from hunger? What appalling treatment.
I'm assuming the midwife did this out of kindness and not part of her job as you should otherwise have been fed before it got to that point...

If it helps you're raising a future taxpayers who'll contribute to the country so absolutely nothing to feel guilty about.
If women didn't give birth the country would be doomed.

Sorry not answering your main thread question I'll go away now....

Obviously don't act on this.

But I do kind of know what you mean. DS birth was a bit of a shit show, forceps, shoulder dystopia, post partum haemorrhage etc etc. For a short while everything was a bit out of control and then this Dr just arrived, was super kind and calm, and just kind of 'fixed' everything. I was amazed, and in awe of how somebody could just come in and kindly fix a mess when I honestly thought that I might die.

The reality probably is that it was just a fairly standard slightly tricky first birth, and he was just doing a job he'd done hundreds of times before, but 13 years on, he does still occasionally cross my mind!