Can't stop crying I feel so low

[dede124]

My baby is now 6 days old and I can't stop crying about everything. I love my baby so much and feel overwhelmed with wanting to protect her and I feel like I want her all to myself. I don't want visitors especially my partners family iv told him I don't feel ready plus they have already seen her at the hospital when she was a couple of days old, he doesn't understand and thinks it's unfair and i feel like our relationship has gone downhill over the last couple of days like we are so distant. Has anyone else felt like this ? How long does it last? I know the baby blues have hit but I hope it's nothing more than that

You probably have baby blues, it’s normal to feel down. I cried every day during my baby blues stage. I didn’t want visitors either; after a tear I found it hard moving about and didn’t want people to see me walking around like that, then - our baby had a significant weight loss, so I got very focussed on a feeding routine and wasn’t interested in people coming around to have a look at the baby. I asked people to stay away for a month so we could all settle down. The health visitor should discuss with your husband how terrible be feeling and how he needs to support you more. Both my midwife and the health visitor wanted my husband about baby blues etc.

This was me when I had my first son! It was so irrational but I couldn’t help it! It was baby blues of course but the anxiety didn’t go away and I spoke to my GP after a few weeks and got anti-anxiety medication which helped a lot! It’s good that you are recognising this yourself. Please keep an eye on it and if it continues speak to our health visitor and/or GP for support (doesn’t need to be medication). Having a baby is amazing but life changing and overwhelming. My husband and I bickered a lot with our first born and were both just so exhausted. It will get better but does take time. Please talk to someone and let them know how you’re feeling and ask them to keep an eye on you to and let you know if they feel you are either seeming better or maybe need some support. Hope you feel better soon :)

I felt just like this! My baby was born on the Monday and on the Friday my husband's parents brother wife and his 8 year old son visited (son staying over) I had felt great prior to this but on the Saturday morning i could not stop crying and knew that too many visitors had triggered this. My husband didn't really get it either but I've been very open about this since when talking to other people in my husband's presence. Please stick to your guns and maybe go and visit them so you can leave when you want? (My PILs don't take a hint when to leave...) it passes quickly but you'll still feel annoyed about it if you're inundated with visitors. Don't be afraid to take your baby upstairs. My baby ended up getting in such a state I went upstairs "to feed" and didn't come back down.

Ps it's likely to be nothing more than the baby blues. Give yourself a week and please please be assertive with regards to visitors!

Your body has been though so much Dede , the way you're feeling is completely understandable. Those feelings will pass but do give yourself time. Everyone goes though something like this , it'd be abnormal not to.

Congratulations by the way!

I cried and cried over the most ridiculous things constantly and I felt this awful low feeling and almost guilty. It seemed to last a bit longer for me, I would say probably around 5-6 weeks then it lifted. Please know that it's totally normal. I found it helpful to talk about it with friends and family. Hope it passes for you soon x