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Vaginal tightening surgery?

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Peacefulmama · 29/01/2017 19:45

Hi all, I did post this on the general health board too but just realised it should probably be on this one instead, so I've just copied/ pasted this across. Will delete the other one asap.

Hi everyone

I have a 3 yr old and due to problems with her vaginal delivery, I have since had ...well, there's no polite way to say it really is there, so excuse my bluntness.... but I have nearly zero feeling down there and it feels like my vagina is now huge where it used to be a good fairly small size before. I mean its big. I can't feel my husband during sex at all and he's not a small guy. Specialist physio hasn't helped, nor have at-home pelvic exercisers. I have seen about 4 different female doctors and specialists who were empathic and confirmed stretching, loss of muscle tone especially around my lateral episiotomy scar, and minor uterine prolapse. They understood that I knew I didnt feel like I should.

My self confidence nose dived however, when I saw a male consultant who could have authorised corrective surgery on the nhs, and he bluntly said my vagina was normal (its not, not for me) and he was referring me to a psychiatrist "to talk through your feelings" ... talk about humiliating. I was horrified,and so offended. I went to one session just in case I WAS actually obsessed and batshit crazy.

But the psychiatrist was lovely and agreed that I know my own body, my voice should have been listened to, and I was clearly sane, fine, and not in the grip of some kind of irrational vagina obsession.

She did encourage me to complain to PALS but I found the appointment with the consultant so awful that I couldn't pursue it.

I now have finally, 3.5 years later, saved up £10,000 for private vaginal tightening surgery. Can anyone recommend a good clinic in the UK? Could anyone share their experiences of the surgery and the recovery with me? Things to be aware of? Any Clinics or surgeons I should avoid at all costs? If I'm allowed to ask that. Does this procedure actually increase sexual pleasure? Any testimonies welcome!

I'm trying to do some research before I choose a clinic and book time off work, so any stories, advice etc, would really help! Above all, I'm hoping it does actually increase my sensitivity during sex as my sexual confidence is at an all time low.

Thanks in advance to all the ladies who reply x

OP posts:
Manumission · 29/01/2017 19:47

Do you mean lack of feeling purely in terms of lack of grip as it were?

Or actual numbness?

Peacefulmama · 29/01/2017 20:30

Hi Manumission, its both grip (muscle) and some patchy numbness (nerve damage)

OP posts:
sushiforever · 01/11/2017 15:04

If you want a good site to check out surgeon's credentials look at RealSelf. Also check them out on the GMC website. Let me know what you decide to do and best of luck 😊

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