Ive had enough

[butterfly92]

I have had enough of my life and had enough of my family ive literally had enough!!! Since day 1 my son does not stop fucking crying. I have tried everything to find out what it is, the doctor said its not reflux, ive tried infacol, gripe water, colief, dentonax whatever its called and none of them are working. He burps and farts cos of the infacol but then he is sick. He never sleeps and always wants to be held!! He doesnt like the swing, the bouncer, the moses, the caboo that i got (waste of money). And he only sleeps on my chest or arms. Ive had to leave him to cry for half an hour cos i had to wash and sterilise the bottles as i had none left to give when its his next feed. He would sleep for 10 - 20 mins then wake up screaming and wanting to be held. I dont want to do this shit anymore.

Oh my love, that sounds really shit. Newborns are so hard but I promise it won't last forever.
Do you have anyone you can call to pop over while you get your head together? If not, can you go out for a walk? The outside might soothe him and if not, you won't be able to hear the crying as much while tire out.

This bit is just about survival. As long as your DC is clean, warm and fed then you can leave them to cry for a little while, while you sort yourself out. Better that than you snap and do something you will later regret.

Hang in there honey, it will get better

You alright love?

DefinitelyNotRuth sorry for late reply I was run ragged all day :( I just had to rant as I felt really low and just generally so depressed. He did manage to settle down but I think he does have reflux... he seems like he is in pain every time he drinks his bottle & then screams for an hour afterwards. He projectile vomited all over me and the smell was very strong burning acid it has burnt my nostrils and throat! I am going back to docs Monday to see another GP and get a proper diagnosis and treatment. Thank you so much for your kind words and support xx

Rant away! If you need to do it again, feel free to PM me. I've got a newborn and a toddler and there are days when I feel like slamming the door and letting them get on with it!
Sounds like a good plan to go back to the GP. Be firm with them, you know your baby and something isn't right. If you think it's necessary, there is nothing wrong in asking for help for you too. It's not a weakness, it's sometimes a necessity!
Good luck, here if you need me x

I feel for you. I hope you get it sorted asap! Gaviscon helped us loads wit reflux. Good luck!

Does he have a dummy?

Have you tried an oesto or chiro?

Are you bedsharing?

Just curious butterfly92 how's your son now? Mine was born A week after yours and I could of written that post! He's been given gavison which has helped but he still cries a lot xx

Aww, bless you. I am a new mum also and know exactly how you're feeling. It can be such a struggle, thus me replying in the early hours with ds attached to my boob.
Have you tried any baby massage to help the pain, the HV might be able to show you some. It sounds hippy dippy but is really good. You might be able to find the colic/wind strokes online.
I'm not advising it but I have literally done the opposite of what was recommended to get ds to settle, I got to the I'll try anything stage. We bed share atm although he has been good and gone in the bedside crib tonight. Make sure you read the guidelines if you are going to try. You could try wring a muslin and putting green that in the crib, ba I have also swaddled which I know is a nono but it is amazing. You can buy safe swaddle wraps on amazon. The baby feels secure and it was the only way mine would go down for the first few weeks.

Sorry there's a bit in the middle that's gobble de gook. I didn't fall asleep just hit post with another finger. I was saying the muslin with your smell might settle baby x

Sorry to hear this it sounds like you are struggling. It could be a dairy allergy or silent reflux. I would go back to the GP and push for some more help, ranitidine might be worth a try. I hope it passes soon

Just browsing and found this - how are you now? Hope things have improved. Definitely see if you can give ranitidine a go if you haven't already the acid smell and crying at / after feeds is classic reflux or silent reflux.

I could have written this post a few months ago!! It sounds like reflux and maybe milk allergy. My son has both but silent reflux. Would only sleep on me, hardly slept In the day. Would vomit so much after a bottle and extremely windy. He is now on a formula called nutramigen from the docs and 2 reflux meds. Gaviscon didn't work for us. Look up milk allergy it will come up with the symptoms. I know how you feel I was so helpless and hopeless. I cried loads! He's now 6 months and the combination on meds he's on works. It has been a tough 6 months but I promise it gets better