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Feierabend · 15/02/2010 12:20

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bronze · 30/03/2010 14:27

Any ideas how I can help DH. Hes so down. Its the hunter provider thing. Hes started smoking again grr
He has a 2nd interview on thurs and I need to get him happier so he'll do better

ZuluWarrior · 30/03/2010 14:41

Bronze, sorry you're having it so tough. It's hard for the boys I think. IM (not vast) E their self-esteem is very much linked to providing for their family. We have had issues in the past because I'm the main earner (by quite a long way).

I'm not an expert but I guess lots of moral support and making him feel valued in other ways than money-earning is the short term answer. But I'm guessing only a job will fix him entirely. Sending you positive vibes for Thurs.

BabyBolat · 30/03/2010 14:46

Hello all, need to escape what can only be the boss from hell today so am hiding in MN!

Bronze re locations, I think you need to look within a certain radius of bath if that is where DH is working. There are lots of lovely villages round near me (hampshire) but they are a good 3 hours from bath on a good day. re cheering him up, DH was the same when he first came to the UK and wasn't allowed to work for 6 months, I filled his day with useful things (my garden was completely transformed) and reminded him to enjoy the time as he would soon be working all hours xxx

Zulu, my nanny is my sister (who is a fully qualifies nanny and childcarer) so it works out great for us. so much so, I am away for 2 nights and I am not worried at all... I am INCREDIBLY fortunate but it is still hard work. I am very very snappy with DH at the moment and then feel bad about it but I don't have a job (or more likely I am not the kind of person) that is able to switch off.

I don't know re DH being away, part of me with be fine as I only have one other person to thing of, rather than trying to organise K, Dh and me in terms of locations, dinners etc, but I will miss him. x

BabyBolat · 30/03/2010 14:47

qualified!

Bicnod · 30/03/2010 15:06

Afternoon ladies.

Boff! HOw are you? I wondered where you'd got to.

Schulte - at your DH. You need to have words with him young lady. ARe you thinking of going down the nanny route? It would make your life so much less stressful...

Bronze - got fingers crossed for your DH. Sorry he's so down at the mo

Auld - bleurgh to D&V. Glad you're coming up for air now.

Ginger - it's an emotional time... I can't believe my wee one (well, not so wee) is going to be one in less than a month. He looks more like a mini rugby player than a baby these days.

Zulu - yep, dropping morning nap is working well. Yesterday O slept for 2 hours after lunch and then from 7pm to 7am . He woke briefly at 9.20pm but that was it. Sadly I am struggling to sleep at the moment - it is immensely frustrating lying there awake at 4 or 5am and not really getting back to sleep again when O is sleeping.

BoffinMum · 30/03/2010 22:51

I am fine if a bit tired. DH slept in the other room last night because he had to get up early and didn't want to wake me. Only I was cold all night and then he came in early anyway 'because he thought I was up' and 'did I want a cup of tea?' I mean, you can't even be cross, can you?? [cross]

What I didn't tell him is that I had a very fruity dream about a former colleague, which will teach him to sleep in another room!

Felix is continuing to mutter the odd word or phrase, but he says them and then seems to put them away and not use them any more, as though saying it once uses them up. His other skill is pottering around holding onto the toddle truck my sister gave him, with a big grin on his face. Felix is like a dog that thinks he is human, in the way that he thinks he is actually a big boy like his brothers, but in a confusingly small body, yet always trying to do big boy things. It is very funny. He is also trying to walk by letting go of the furniture for a moment before grabbing onto a different support, but he ends up swaying gently and looking like he is doing Tai Chi.

His mobility is probably better than mine, as I have been struggling a bit, although I am being very brave and giving my wheelchair back, as I haven't used it for a little while, and DH promised to buy me a better one if I should need it.

DH crashed the Boffmobile a couple of weeks ago but apparently it was not his fault, as a farmer's gate blew onto the car and impaled itself in the bumper. These are the dangers of living in the countryside! Anyway, the Boffmobile is all fixed now and ready for its top secret surprise trip to Cadbury World during the Easter Hols!!

Anyway, enough news for now. I think I ought to go to bed. Hope everyone else is OK (have not had energy to read whole thread and actually a bit daunted).

PuzzleRocks · 31/03/2010 08:35

Take me to Cadbury World. Take me!!!

[stamps foot a la Verruca Salt]

dawntigga · 31/03/2010 08:56

Waves to everyone.

DisappearsInAPuffOfSparklyPurpleSmokeTiggax

Puff!

BoffinMum · 31/03/2010 10:18

OK Puzzle, but you will have to promise not to stampede over the children to get at the chocolate!!

Schulte · 31/03/2010 20:50

Evening...

Now if you went to Lindt World, if such a thing exists...

Boff I love your description of Felix thinking he's a big boy really.

Nanny option is more expensive than nursery, I spoke to an agency the other day, so am afraid it's a no go for us. I do leave a mess for DH to clear up though and he cooks most evenings, so I am wondering if maybe he's right and I am just a big old wuss and should pull myself together and just get on with things.

Had a lovely day with the girls today, took them sock shopping (I know, I know) but we ended up buying some toys and other bits and bobs as well not that we can afford it.

Must go post a thread in DIY and house stuff now because I am getting a big worried about having sold our house and not having found anywhere to buy.

Puff

WhatFreshHellIsThis · 02/04/2010 08:02

Morning

Where is everyone? Scoffing Easter chocolate? Tut Tut.

We are having all of DPs family over for lunch on Sunday. This means cleaning. And DP only informed me yesterday that he is working today

Apart from that DS1 is having the week from hell and tantruming every second minute, and more presents keep being delivered for Orbit, which doesn't help DS1's mood! I keep reminding him it's his birthday in three weeks, but he's still not very happy.

Except when this wondrous thing arrived yesterday......oh my god.....

kazkiss · 02/04/2010 11:21

Thanks for all the messages, We are still a little poorly in the twinnie household. O is still not himself and is still suffering the occaisional bout of d and V ;(
I am gonna take him back to docs if no better tomorrow as that will be 6 days then! (he is only throwing up once a day? and diarhoea once / twice daily but he is losing weight which is not good.) I have put him on wysoy temporarly cos i think his bug has made him a touch lactose intolorant (like me).
WFH. We have one of those!!! it is the only thing that is cheering ollie up at the moment. (he also likes the air blowing in his face. Warning though you will have to go hunting for the balls every 5 mins.....)

Guimoeuf · 02/04/2010 12:21

Happy Birthday Eleanor Oddeyes

PuzzleRocks · 02/04/2010 14:18

Happy Birthday Eleanor

AuldAlliance · 02/04/2010 20:49

Hello to all, and happy birthday to Eleanor.

HAPPY EASTER!!! I don't see where it tells you how to do bunny emoticons, so will settle for this

Am off to Edinburgh tomorrow, just having a break from packing. Am a bit apprehensive about flight with a lively 11-mth-old, but hopefully he'll agree at the key moments to remain seated with his seatbelt fastened, his seat back and tray table in the upright position and his mobile phone switched off.

Having a bad news day, as the CM who looked after DS1 from 6mths to 3.6yrs died this afternoon. She was 45 and had cancer which they never managed to localise.
Not sure whether/how/when to tell him.

And DH's nephew, who is 3mths younger than DS1, has been in hospital for a week now, and they suspect dermatomyositis but are waiting for biopsy results.
Extensive googling has left me unsure as to how bad this really is, but it really doesn't look very good.

Guimoeuf · 03/04/2010 07:51

A very happy birthday to Megan and Jacob

WhatFreshHellIsThis · 03/04/2010 07:52

Oh Auld, that is a double helping of bad news Poor you.

I think children are quite resilient when it comes to telling them about people dying - I would just tell DS1 very simply and honestly, and then tell him to ask you if he's got any questions at all. It's quite a big concept for children to grasp, really, so he might not react much at all, but obviously you know him best.

BoffinMum · 03/04/2010 09:20

Sorry to hear that, Auld. I agree that children can be pretty resilient, though.

It's more trivial, but one of the hamsters died last week (the white one). This is what the initial conversation went like between DH and me:

"It's been very quiet in there for a couple of days. Could you have a look if the thing is still alive?"

"Is now a good time? I mean, we're both on leave next week and if we told the boys then it would be easier".

"FFS what are you going to do? Leave the dead hamster in my kitchen until it's a convenient moment? Or get rid of the blardy thing and then have the children suddenly realise it's vanished and start asking questions?"

"Um yes, I suppose that might be a problem".

"So when you pop your clogs I should look at my diary and if I've got leave coming up, bung you in the deep freeze until it's a convenient moment to deal with you?"

"I don't suppose we could put the hamster in the freezer?"

"No we blardy well can't!!"

We had a little funeral later, and all said something about the hamster. DS2 said:

"Dear God, we have known Nibbles since he was one week old and I hope that in his next life he was as happy as he was in this life".

Felix then started panicking as we put Nibbles into the earth (with DS1 solemnly saying "Ashes to Ashes, Dust to Dust") as he thought the hamster shouldn't be treated like that.

We then came inside and DS2 did some homework. We had to log onto an online reading scheme where he was supposed to choose a story to practise. Of course he chose the one about hamsters, despite my exhortations, and after every screen cried out, "Oh, Nibbles!" and cried a bit, but then carried on reading in a somewhat sad voice, By the end he was fine.

He's over it now. But had this happened before his GCSEs they would have given him a 5% concession!

PuzzleRocks · 03/04/2010 10:00

Auld - You know googling is a bad idea. I do hope it's a positive outcome for your nephew.
And sorry to hear about DS1's childminder. 45 is no age at all.

PuzzleRocks · 03/04/2010 10:01

Happy Birthday Jacob

PuzzleRocks · 03/04/2010 10:01

Happy Birthday Moo

mrsgboring · 03/04/2010 19:49

Auld how very sad and worrying for you. Have a good trip to Edinburgh though.

WFH we have a different Playskool ball thing and it's fab too.

Kaz hope O picks up soon. It's so horrid when they're ill isn't it?

Looking forward to Easter tomorrow - I have gone a bundle on Easter this year, much more so than normal. Carrot cake cooking in the oven, but it's risen too much for balancing Easter chick decorations on it. And the mini-eggs I bought won't really go either.

Filthy house beckons I suppose. But an advance happy Easter to everyone

BoffinMum · 04/04/2010 08:48

Mrs G, slice off sponge mountain from top of cake and then flip it over, put onto plate, add frosting and then decorations.

Guimoeuf · 04/04/2010 09:29

Happy Birthday Kara and Iris, and Happy Easter one and all!

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Guimoeuf · 04/04/2010 09:29

(Who is Esmie???)

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