October 2007 - these little piggies are growing up fast!

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Ok so a pretty boring thread title but thought we needed some distance from the last one!

Hello everyone

Dal-Poor Dylan, hope he improves soon, I'd just let him eat what he wants.

Herjazz-Lol, I did the same thing last night after being up a couple of times, I told Shannon to just wee in her nappy.

Damn, back later, trying to sort insurance out.

Quick hello, finally starting to have moments where I don't feel sick! Finding it hard to do anything though as Dareh wants my attention 100% of the time which is hard work.

Need to catch up properly but can't do it while he is awake.

Dal sorry to see you are having probs again, I know that pain. It was three months before I was pain free. I did a lot of hand expressing in the beginning, if you get the technique right you can get a lot of milk that way, my freezer was stuffed full!

Also battleing with potty training here, seems ok sometimes but not if we go out.

Babyblue - also starting to get the tantrums. It was quite a shock! He's always been such a happy boy.

Ahh want to reply to everyone else but Dareh is yelling for me again. Try to get on once he is in bed if I still feel human!

Inzi - I think you're doing remarkably well to sound so up-beat. Can't believe that Murphy's costs aren't covered under insurance - how daft when it was the most humane decision for him? How is your nana now? Did she go into hospital? Try and concentrate on yourself now as much as you can - have you spoken to the hospital about the labour pains?

LLL - well if I was in any doubt about whether to try potty training with Anya yet, you have definitely made my decision easier! Have been following your progress on fb - poor you - it does sound like maybe he's not ready. I bet if you leave it a couple of months and try again he'll pick it up really quickly.

BB4 - sorry things aren't getting better. Yes, maybe the idea of a toddler bed is a good one - give her a space that she wants to be in. It's tough though, deciding between standing your ground and giving in for the sake of peace.

Dal - sorry Dylan's been poorly - glad he's feeling better now. How's he been this afternoon?

Choc - hello, not seen you for so long. Glad you're starting to feel a bit better now, the sickness stage is just awful isn't it?

We're having minor tantrums at the moment at bathtime - it's stemming from her having a sore wrist which sometimes stings a bit if she gets it wet. She's got a tiny bit of ezcema (sp?) and she's scratched it raw - we've got some steroid cream from the doctors today so hopefully should heal soon.

Just popping in, Dylan now better but Miles seems to have embarked on a feedathon, as some of you may have seen from
My fb status. He woke 3x to feed last night and 2 x more with farts hoping it's just a growth spurt...

Choc - glad the sickness is starting to pass, how many weeks are you now?

Inzi - so sorry to hear about your nan, how issue now? Sorry about the vet bills too, it's daylight robbery that they can charge that much!

Damn I've forgotten everything else I've read, hi to all, back later, promise! X

That should have said 'how is she', stupid phone!

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Where did everyone go?!

Thinking of you all...

I did a pg test , negative, very eat days but was just checking cause got some cheapos on eBay. Think we'll just carry on as we are and see what happens !

Hello all My stressful week has once kept me MIA. I miss being able to vent here when RL is sh*t.

Marco will be celebrating his 1st birthday in a couple of weeks, so we are busy planning the party. Of course, Marco and Sofia have had snotty noses and croupy-sounding coughs for over a week now which is just lovely.

Have finally made decision re: Nanny VS Nursery, and Nursery has won out. We are saving $600 per month and I wont have to worry about care since Sofia used to go to this place while I was preg with Marco. We had found a wonderful woman (British non the less ) to nanny for us, but I started to suspect she may have been having some financial troubles. We werent offering her as much money as she would have liked, so I was worried she would take the job just until she found something better. Nursery spots here are hard to come by (we have been on a waiting list since before Marco was born for the 2 DCs), so I didnt want to risk giving up the spots for the nanny, only to have her abandon us a few months later. Then we would have been in a HUGE mess! The down side is we will need my parents to pick up the babies from nursery a few days a month when I am working late. Am also going to look into getting a maid to help clean every other week. I can barely keep up with housework now, so I cant imagine what I will do once I am back to work full time!

Me me post over

How is everyone else?

Dal were you disappointed in the test results? That would tell you a great deal. Hope things work out the way you want.

Choc How are you feeling? Hopefully MS is a thing of the past. I do not look back fondly on those days, thats for sure. Had such bad MS with my last 2 that I couldn't even stomach water unless it was just small sips here and there.

On the up side for me, had bikini line waxed and eyebrows taken care of. Next week haircut and highlight. Am starting to feel much better after all the recent stress. (stupid woman bruised my eyelid doing my eyebrows today though ).

Hey bb4 sounds like you've made the right decision regarding the nursery, if he's been there before I'm sure he'll be happy and taken care of well. A couple of tomes a month isn't that often for parents to pick him up

I could do with a maid and I only have 2 dc so I don't blame you!

I wad a little dissapointed in the test result at first but then slightly relieved as even though I'm happy for it to happen soon I've had a tough few days and didn't feel very 'up' for morning sickness etc iyswim. I'd be happy for it to happen in the next few months but equally we're in no massive rush. I'm a great believer things happen for a reason so i'm sure it'll happen (if we're lucky enough for it to) when it's supposed to...

Bleh I spoke to soon and have had a terrible few days! I think if I get tired it gets worse. Anyway today so far has not been too bad.

Glad you have made a decision re nursery bb4, it is such a nightmare trying to make all these choices. It never feels easy. I have been thinking a lot about our life since my Dad died and feeling the need to make some changes. DH and I are discussing the possibility of me going back part time after the baby is born, I am hoping only a couple of days, so that I can be at home with the children. Also thinking about home education when the time comes. Starting to look into it. I feel a lot happier since we decided these things. We will have no money at all but I figure work less and live more. Will just have to stop being so materialistic. Or maybe I am having a mid-life crisis or something!

Darly I totally agree with things happening at the right time. I always find that when I really push something and it is not happening then later I can look back and see it wasn't right. Your next little one will come when the time is right, sure it won't take too long.

DH has his brother and his cousin here at the moment to help with a job. It's a night shift one so they are all sleeping now. I have one on the sofa even. It's a nightmare!

Hope everyone well.

Hi Lovley Ladies!

Sorry I have been awol yet again and dont have much time now either, but I have at least had a chance to catch up on all your news
Inzi I dont have the words ...it never rains but it pours and you are truly being storm tested ... (((((((((massive hugs))))))))))... I just hope the illnesses all evaporate and you can be stress free for a loooooooong time.
BB4 Glad you have come to a decision about child care, I'm sure your parents will enjoy having a few days responsibility for the los even if you dont like relying on them.
choc sorry the ms has returned I hope it will be over soon
Herjazz..glad to see you here but sorry you are suffering...

bother got to go again, sorry not to reply to everyone I'll really try to get on tomorrow and chat properly xxxx

sorry for the me me me but I'm having a bit of a dilema and need your wonderful advice!
xx

Just sent this to my brother (the one in England, not the one getting married)

Hi J

Having a bit of a wobble over going to Canada for various reasons:

1. C's mum is nervous about having Tobes and Hen for the week. Tobes is into everything and she'll be in her own (normally has J/J to help her out when she has the boys)

1. I haven't left Tobes for that long (will be a week)

1. It's costing a bomb, about £6/£7k if you include the weeks earnings we won't get due to Chris being self employed. Flights are in the summer holidays so majorly expensive and I don't want to stay in a dive when we get there as we'll be knackered.

1. It's not like it's a holiday, here's the itinery:

Tues night after work drive up north (3/4 hours)

Wed morning - fly out

Thursday -free (but probably knackered)

Friday - Meet up with MN friend for a BBQ (they live in Tornonto) T's Hen night

Sat - Family dinner

Sun -Wedding

Monday -fly home

Arrive Tuesday morning in Manchester and then have to drive home with the kids (3/4 hours)

C back to work on the Wednesday.

1. C's work are being itchy as he's extremly busy.

1. Dad is being an arse and, quite frankly, I don't want to spend all that money if he's not even talking to anyone.

1. We can't make it into a holiday due to us leaving the kids with C's mum. I want to get back, she'll want us to come back. Sat-Sat would have been more possible but the wedding's on a Sunday.

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Just to add that my brother has told his fiance that he's been married, she hit the roof but the wedding's going ahead. This happened only last week. My dad is being an arse to my SIL and my brother (ones in England) is sticking up for her, quite rightly. I agree so we're envolved now too. Dad won't apologise so brother/dad/sil all not speaking and it will just be us and them from my brother's family. Also, if I'm really being honest my anxieties are kicking in big time. Anxiety dreams, worries of me dying and what will happen to the boys type thing. I feel I should to support my brother who is like a best friend to me. Really don't want to go...

x

Hey everyone

Don't have much time, had a family bust up last night hence me bringing the kids home at 2am in the morning, but will tell more when I have more time.

Hugs to all that need them!

Muppet-Personally, if I where you, I would say to brother I'm really really sorry but we're not going to make it, it is no reflection on how much I love you-it's just too difficult regarding all aspects.
Could you arrange to go at a different time, maybe when they're settled after getting married and C isn't so busy at work?

You are going to make yourself poorly with getting anxious about it, so just decide that you're not going and stick with it, things will feel better then.

Sorry I haven't personalised to everyone, will make big effort to get on properly later x

Muppet-Have just read again and seriously, please don't put yourself through all this-don't go. Is there any way you could video link for the wedding? I feel bad for your brother, but you and the boys have to come first x

thanks nc xx
the video link is a good idea, will suggest it and see what they say. Would be possible with skype and webcams wouldn't it? It's in a restaurant so they'll have a computer there.

Muppet- I agree with NC, your bro will understand and the reasons you give are all valid. Tbh though I would say your anxiety would be reason enough without all the other stuff.

As NC says you could plan a trip when it's a better time for all of you.

Sorry you're feeling so anxious lately, we're all here whenever you need to talk and you don't have to reply to anyone else, just pop in whenever! (((hugs)))

Thanks Dal xx
The anxiety is based around just this trip which is wierd as it used to be sparked by one thing but then effected all aspects of life. I suppose at least this is a step forward!

My brother has emailed back and said maybe I should go with Tobes. I think I'm just going to have to be honest that Dh can't really come for the financial reasons and I can't come on my own due to the anxiety. Crap but honest.
xx

Aw he obviously wants you there but don't let that make you feel guilty or upset. Your reasons are not crap, they are what they are. It's a massive mission to make without kids and all the reasons you've stated. He might be a little disappointed but if you mentions trip in the future that'll give you something to all look forward to.

You know what weddings are like anyway, you nearly get 2 minutes to talk to each guest do I'm sure you won't be as missed as you're imagining in your head iyswim. No offence meant, obviously he'll miss you but it'llbe a busy day for them.

Do the web chat thing, send a nice pressy and I'm sure all will be fine ((hugs))

You barely get 2 mins

I wouldn't go! That's a lot of money for anyone, especially right now. They will get over it and your health and your family have to come first.

NC are you ok?

Hello Floria - I know the feeling! I find it hard to keep up on here too.

Sorry wasn't ignoring you floria and nc, just was out and about so answered muppets query...

Hi Floria, how's Alex's foot now?

Nc- what's been happening?

Choc - seen in fb you've been baking a lot, is that a oh thing? Just wondered cause I got the urge to bake a lot whilst pg, a bit like nesting! Hope you're doing ok anyway.

Still getting woken at least 3 times a night here dh is just watching Dylan and I'm gonna try have a nap with Miles. He let me sleep in a bit this morning too bit I've still been exhausted and grumpy all day.'

Inzi- how you doing? Thinking of you x

Off to try sleep now, hi to all I've missed x

It prob is a nesting thing as I am awful in the kitchen, really awful. I want to be able to cook but food just stresses me out. I really don't enjoy it and don't feel comfortable cooking. I need to learn though!

Dareh been waking up these last few nights too which is weird, I guess it is good practice for the next monkey.

Hope you get some sleep Dalry.

Dal - hope Miles starts sleeping better soon - have been following your fb updates, you must be exhausted!

BB4 - hope Marco & Sofia's coughs are improving / gone. How are the plans for Marco's birthday? Sounds like you've made the right decision about nursery vs nanny - and if your parents are anything like mine I'm sure they will love any excuse to have their grandchildren occaisionally after nursery.

Choc - poor you, hope it eases soon for you. How long are your dh's brother & cousin staying?

Muppet - what's the worst that will happen if you don't go to the wedding? It's a lot of money and it sounds as though you're only going to spend the time (justifiably) fretting about how C's mum is coping with the boys while you're half way across the world. Leaving aside family arguments, I wouldn't go for those reasons - if it was my wedding I'd understand. Even if you just went with Toby, that's even more expense (plane ticket at least) and C's mum still has to cope with the other two on her own, so it doesn't make it much better. Think NC's suggestion of going later when it's cheaper and more practical is a good one.

NC - how's things?

Had a lazy day with Anya today - couldn't be bothered to do more than walk to the local shops. She's got a busy day tomorrow - we've got lots of errands to run in the morning then nursery in the afternoon, so I don't feel too guilty. I've had to take the gazebo down - the rainwater kept collecting in the canvas roof bit and despite me emptying it out regularly, the (metal) sides were starting to buckle . So a heatwave should now start this week and last for the rest of the summer .

hELLOOO. Ooops caps.

Muppet-Will your brother~(the one getting married) be okay with you not going if you're honest about why? I imagine you're a bit wary of them thinking you're just making excuses of why you can't go. Not sure how you'd do the video link but I'm sure it can be done. May be a good idea to give your bro a ring, but write down all the reasons why first so you don't get flustered.

Choc-Sorry you're feeling crap, sooo don't envy you there. Hope it clears up soon. Shannon has been getting up in the night too, am walking zombie.

WWaJC-Hope that there is a heatwave now you've taken it down! Aww it's nice to have a lazy day now and then, does you good I think.

Dal-Poor you with the getting up! I so hope the little monkey starts sleeping through for you. How's the feeding been going?

BB-Def made the right choice with the nursery I think, at least you'll never have nanny ringing in sick or abandonning you. It'll be good for kids to mix with others too wont it. Oooh what birthday plans you got for the little man?

FT-How is Alex's foot?
What have you been up to to keep you away from Mn?!? Is is students?

LL-You feeling any better? Judging by FB, potty training is gradually getting better!

Inzi- So sorry things are still going shit for you. Are you able to start paying pet insurance again for the future?
Crap about your nana How is she now?

Don't you be going into labour missus, much as we can't wait to see George, he's better in there for a bit longer.

News from me-Basically, am extreemly pissed off with my father-Only started seeing him about 3 years ago again as he didn't give a toss when me and db where kids-anyway to cut a long story short, we where staying in a caravan in his garden last night with family and their friends, I had kids, they all went to pub and I just wanted to sleep-I was selfish by asking them to keep it down at 2am and not have the door wide open to the caravan ( I was sleeping in the living room) and not have all the lights on. He was going on about why should he be quiet in his own home blah blah, so I got up-we had words and I took the girls and drove home. Luckily I'd hardly drunk anything so was fine to drink-There would have been no reasoning with any of them as they where steaming, so I thought it best to get the girls out of there.

He was annoyed with me from the beginning as I'd bawled him out about giving 10yo dd sambucca! and for playing too rough with her and bruising her and I said he should apologise-He didn't like that, he thinks I should bow down to him like my brother does but theres no chance of that, just because his kids never came first doesn't mean mine wont.

Sorry, that turned into a bit of a rant!!

Anyway, they all stayed up till around 5am apparantly-I'd left Rich there as he was too drunk to pay much attention tbh and had gone in his own car, he came to my house just after lunch looking sheepish-but I wasn't annoyed with anyone but my dad, I just wanted to sleep and spend Sunday with the girls without being grumpy tired.

Ended up having a nice tea and watching toy story 1 so at least had a couple of hours kind of family time, although I was cleaning some chairs and a table that I got off freecycle through it.

More news is that I got my new car, a Picasso-a bit more than I got from insurance but it was worth it, and they paid out way more than I thought so that was good.