June 2008: New Year, new thread, new names, new words, new goals, but no resolutions!

[abdnhikinginawinterwonderland]

New thread since the last one's at 997 posts...

Hey Neenz - that's great, are the dt's better today?

Good luck to Puree for tomorrow

Thanks for all the well wishes for my mil, dh has been phoning up all the banks etc to say that things could have been stolen, please freeze accounts until she gets home tomorrow and checks what's there. It's a nightmare

Hoping I still fit in my trousers tonight after all the creme eggs and Cadburys I had to eat in London.

I probably shouldn't mention that when I went to buy maternity jeans from Mothercare on Sunday I got size 8s .

The MEN article is so bizarre here in case you missed it first time round It is from 11 years ago (so thankfully no link ) and I have no idea why the Guardian used that particular cover. It's very strange!

I don't work there any more, but I am shocked that they have been taken over by Trinity, who will probably try to strip it down to its bare bones in a bid to produce it as cheaply as possible . And moving to Oldham is just crazy. That story was about Joe Royle who was City boss who said women should not be refereeing football, so I did a referee's course and wrote about it. It was great, I was really proud of the story but it was a shit period of my life - I was bullied by my boss, promised a promotion which was taken away, given a pay rise which didn't materialise, and I involved the union only to be disciplined myself! So seeing that yesterday actually brought back some crappy memories and I felt a bit down (I am hormonal too of course).

Then me and DH were talking about what the kids had been up to yesterday and he said 'you are so lucky to be able to be with them all day', so I said (jokingly) 'well next time you have a week off work you can do all the nappies and meals and everything to see how much you like it'. But he got quite angry and said 'I don't think you realise that when I am not working I need to have a break too' . Well when he is at Anfield Saturday afternoon and playing football Sunday morning that's a big break! So yes the times when he is at home at the weekend I do expect him to muck in but only cos he is out half the weekend! Prick . Like I said, hormonal

Yes the twins are better today - no sick since yesterday morning and they kept their tea down last night so all good.

I have asked to change my hours at work and it has been approved . I'll be doing 2-8pm so will only need half a day's childcare, which means it will be worth me coming back after this baby. As much as I want to be a SAHM it just feels really hard to quit my job because it's quite prestigious working on a national title and I have worked hard to get here (including going through all that shit at the MEN). And they use a lot of casual staff here whereas I have a permanent contract which I'd never get back if I quit. It also means I won't be rushing round in the mornings trying to get the DTs ready and off to the CM and then rush to work. Just got to try to renegotiate my hours with the CM now! Might have to switch them to nursery though if she is not keen, which would be a shame. But all in all, it's much better I think.

Good luck for tomorrow Puree!

Amber, I know what you mean about those threads - the ttc ones are just as bad... it is a very different part of MN to the AIBU threads!

[Pops head round door to say hello and goodbye.....assuming there's room I'll be off to the hospital first thing, hoping it won't take as long as last time. I'll keep you posted xx]

Good luck tomorrow Puree! Hope it goes nice and quick for you.

Neenz I don't think being 'hormonal' is anything to do with expecting your DH to muck in at the weekends. Like you say, looking after the DTs is your 'work' (on top of your job), so you need some time off too. It sounds perfectly reasonable for him to muck in when he's got a week off too - it's not like you can take a week off!

gosh puree - good luck. thinking of you

Debs, welcome back and sorry about the robbery. THat's awful. Gutted that yuo're not here this week.

Neenz, that's very slim. Well done yuo. Didn't understand any of the Trinity stuff! But your hours sound great- that's perfect!

Amber, good luck for your scan. I booked the table - no need to worry. Yes, see what you mean about fairy dust.

Deb, so sorry for your mil, but glad you had a good time in London.

Neenz, I would be with your dh too. The whole 'I need a break' thing pisses me right off. I mean, yes, fair enough everyone needs time to themself but that includes you. And doing meals/nappies when you are there helping and doing all the other things is hardly the same as being a sahm is it? Dh does all J's meals when he is at home on the weekends as that is the most stressful part of being a sahm for me and the bit I choose to take a break from.

Good luck PP, hope to hear from you very very soon!

Puree - Good luck! Hope we will be hearing some news from you shortly!

All this talk of size 8 and size 12! I'm still wearing my maternity jeans!

Neenz - Funny that they should pick that cover. Of course your DH should be helping out with the kids when he is at home, you are both parents, not just you.
I feel a bit sorry for my DH as for the last few weeks of my pregnancy and since H was born he has been doing the lions share of child care and household jobs when he is at home. I think he is pleased to go to work for a break at the moment!

Deb - glad you had a good trip, poor you with your back and your poor MIL.

Amber - hope your scan goes well.

I've had 2 days on my own this week, Monday and Thursday and I'm on my own again today. I've managed OK but the house is a tip by the time DH gets home! Henry is doing well, the novelty hasn't worn off yet for J and he wants to kiss him all the time.
I'm on the mend. Have an achey pelvic floor if I stand up for more than a few minutes, bit frustrating as I feel more than ready to be a lot more active now but I'm having to take it easy.
H is waking up, better go!

Hey ktpie, sounds like you are doing great. It is so sweet that J wants to kiss him. How's he sleeping at night?

Re my DH, it was just how mad I got about it that was the hormonal bit! I was seething, even the next morning. He is a cheeky git because he is out bloody half the weekend and then when he is at home yeah recently I have been kicking back and saying 'your turn to change the nappies' because I have been bloody exhausted making his baby . He does muck in atm but he got mad cos I suggested that during his next week off he should do ALL the childcare ie what I do during the week so he can see what it is really like. Of course that is a bit OTT, we will both do our share so we both get a break but I am thinking of suggesting that he do all the childcare on Saturdays and I do it all on Sundays, then we both get a day off. But he won't agree to that of course because every other Saturday he goes to watch bloody Liverpool . He really is a cheeky bastard!!

Apart from that things are great

I puked last night, I think I caught the bug off the DTs . I felt rough in the afternoon at work, then went straight to bed when I got home feeling really sick. Woke up at 11pm and puked. Felt much better after that and have felt ok today. We have only just got out of our pyjamas which has been nice

Just checking in on Puree

Also checking in on Puree - sorry about the absence, have been single parenting since sunday afternoon! Knackered. But I've knitted a lot.
I'm on ravelry - I don't know how to find friends so can someone help me?!

Hi everyone- hoping everything going well for purée. Sorry to hear bout your poor mil(who does she bank with as some banks offer Id theft protection) and your back but glad ethan managed ok deb even if it sounds like you have a shadow. What are you knitting tedi and when do you get dh back?

Neenz are you feeling any better? I can see how it's irritating as sahm ESP with twins is no walk in park but equally dh does need some time out. Fair enough I'd he doesn't want to go to church but your idea of Sunday off didn't seem unrealistic. Have you raised it again?

Amber I can totally see what you mean re ttc threads - you got a fair amount of that Hun type behavior on bereavement threads too(mean though it sounds home made poems don't help my mood any).

Sorry for anyone else I missed...

Got results back on tuesday

Split post due to iPhone- dh needs more tears and may be need some kind of assistance if can't reslovr issue (bit early to say what is as need more tests). I am sort of pleased there is something there of that manes sense even though it's nor great news.

How was London night out?

Tears = tests - predictive text!

God, I was wondering about that Poppy - I thought it must have been really bad news if he was crying. But I know what you mean - at least there's something, which removes the 'why why why' thing.

Had a text from Puree mid afternoon - she was on the induction ward but nothing happening. But who knows, she could be pushing right now!

could be a valentines baby after all

Just popping in to see if there is any news from Puree...

Name changed, but I'm pretty sure you can all work out who it is.

Happy Valentine's Day btw. Anyone's DH surpassed themselves in the romantic stakes? Mine def hasn't! I told him, as I often do, that I don't think of a Valenitines day as simply another excuse to buy expensive present. So of course I got a token gift and no sign of any romantic gestures. Last night I dropped some hints about my favourite breakfast. He said he'd make it if I wanted. I told him not to put himself out, which he didn't and now he's not really sure why I'm a bit frosty today...

Hello All. Back from our skiing holiday yesterday and have been catching up on all the news.

Actually DH is carrying out a romantic gesture. He is cooking me beef Wellington and lemon tart. This is to recreate an earlier valentines day from our youth. Unfortnately the downside is exactly the same both times: hours of him shut away in the kitchen, and an amazingly messy kitchen which he will tidy up, but not very well. Still, it is a lovely gesture and last time the food tasted pretty special.

It was me with the frozen coley. Just microwave for 1 min on each side and then a bit longer until it looks cooked. I think cod comes out nicer, and waitrose seems to work better than tescos P still eats tescos coley tho.

Poppy, at least you making progress getting answers with the test results. How is DH about it?

Amber, how was the second scan?

Waiting for news from purée.

Ok, will be back later with a proper post.

Just popping in to check on news from Puree.

DH bought a cheesecake from the Cheesecake Co. for valentines, it was a champagne one with a chocolate love heart and 'personal message' on it. It is a sweet gesture I think, and it tastes yummy!

Puree is 1 cm - just bumped into her friend in bromley. She's really fed up.

I am in tomorrow for egg collection - eek! Big old general anaesthetic. That's if there are any eggs. i still only have two follicles which is a shame as my body has done ecactly what it was meant to on these drugs - I mean text book. Still if I had more I probably wouldn't need to be on IVF.

Hi All BTW

London meet up was great. We had a yummy dinner and talked about eery topic known to mankind! (I think UDC was a bit tipsy!)

What's happening with this Friday meet?

Hello - had a bit of a hangover yesterday. A lovely time with Abdn and Amber.

Poor Puree. Boy I hope something happens soonl

Amber, good luck for tomorrow.

Poor purée - hope things get moving soon. Hopefully will be lucky tomorrow amber as if everything else is textbook they will be.

Spider sounds like you had great time and it's a nice gesture from dh even if clearing up not so good. Got roses and new pair of slippers which was very nice -now watching rugby.

Udc am jealous now re meet up as hangover sign of good night.

Back to the rugby now

Poppy you are right. It is a nice gesture, so I am not really complaining. I do think though that I will make it a priority that P learns that washing up must be done in hot water.

Glad that the London meet up on Friday was fun and boozy. Next time...

Our ski holiday was great. I would recommend the place we stayed especially if you have a car. chaletsolneige We booked the apartment which has 3 bedrooms, but we ate with the rest of the chalet, and the food was very good indeed. My parents joined us, so we had grandma baby sitting. It was so nice to have some adult time with DH (apart from when he intentionally wiped me out on a green run) The ski area was fantastic (linked in to Alpe d'Huez), although it got very cold last week. Minus 14 when we left the village yesterday morning .

Deb interesting what you say about Ethan's reaction to you since you got back home. I left P with GPs for 5 of the 6 days, from 9.30 till 3.30 ish, and he is suddenly really clingy for me. It got worse as the week progressed and I think he realised that I was going to leave him again. Normally if I get a rare day out he is very happy and no different the next day. He wants to be with me all the time at the moment, and really doesn't want to be with DH, which is a bit sad. I guess this is the longest and most repeated amount of time that I have left him for. Anyone got any advice?