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Broodzilla · 13/11/2009 16:11

I've just realized we're now under the "being a parent" header. I've got stage freight!

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Trikken · 29/11/2009 18:03

I think that made sense, am not sure. sleep deprivation is really getting to me now.

ErikaMaye · 29/11/2009 19:08

Trikken the one advantage of Bryn having a cold is he snores rather loudly! But whenever he goes quiet for a second I panic. Trying to get my head round the fact I will be doing that for the rest of my life!!

Becky good luck tomorrow, I'm sure you'll be fine

helips · 29/11/2009 20:03

bbl good luck tomorrow, it is daunting when the dh's go back but you will be fine!

Sorry to all the babies that have colds, hope they feel better soon.

erika I know what you mean about time going quickly, Millie is 4 weeks today, can't believe it!

It was my birthday yesterday, got lot's of spa vouchers and money to go shopping. Went shopping today and bought some boots, leggings and a coat but am struggling with tops as my tummy still looks big, Really have to stop eating for two now I'm not pregnant anymore!

longwayaway · 29/11/2009 20:29

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longwayaway · 29/11/2009 21:41

ugh, I meant postnatal thread, obviously... can you tell?

Fruitpastels · 30/11/2009 09:43

Morning ladies. Well baby has the sniffles all night. Not sure if its a cold as he's had congestion since he was born, but this has got much worse. We're buying a humidifer for our bedroom today. DS1 hasn't been well for a few days either. The worst thing for baby is the congestion. We have a device called Little Baby Nose-Clear. We used it when DS1 was a baby. You can suck out the congestion from the babies nose using this device. It's worked well and helping him to feed more easily. Might be an idea for the first aid/medicine box.

So another day home for me and the boys. I feel like I'm getting cabin fever. Mind you, the weather looks terrible out there today.

Hope the babies with colds are getting better.

BeckyBendyLegs · 30/11/2009 10:01

Morning all. Well I managed the school run today but I am sooooo tired it isn't funny anymore. I just want to cry

Had about 4 hours last night in total. Toby asleep now and I just tried to have a nap on the sofa but brain too wired to relax.

Welcome to the postnatal thread longwayaway. I'm so pleased you've got your little girl safe and sound xxx

maman2tom · 30/11/2009 10:08

hi all not been on for a while as my mum and dad have been here for the weekend. Bit of a trek for them (midlands to paris takes a while!!) but my mum was desperate to see the new baby.

I'll join you in the "baby has a cold" club. Can't remmber who mentionned the wedge pillow but thanks, we propped the moses basket on some books(?) in the middle of the nigh tand baby finally managed to go to sleep so i'm on the lookout for a proper wedge when i go out.

Congratulations on all the new arrivals and longwayaway i'm with you on the emcs being all a bit traumatic ( especially as in france they took the baby to maternity ward before i'd held him whilst i spent 2 hours all by myself in recovery!!)but bizarly i felt beter much more quickly after the cs then this time around with the episio??

wook · 30/11/2009 10:12

BBL all sympathy for you- is there any chance at all of someone coming over and giving you a nap?

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 30/11/2009 10:12

Hello? Can I come in with my New Baby? .

Grabs a seat, orders a HUGE plate of food & tells her birth story to anyone who will listen...

As many will know, by thursday i was 4cm dilated with no contractions, had a sweep and became very very frustrated at the lack of any further progress.

Saturday 28th November at 7:15am or so, after some stop start sleep, I lie there idly thinking about baby, and what he will look like, and in my thoughts, his mouth opens and he roots and the suckles. I feel an immense amazing rush of letdown into my uterus, and boom a contraction! Not painful, rather a heavy, hard ache in my lower backside.

Waters not broken, no show. DD gets up (slept in for the first time on a looooong time) and asks how baby is.

Another contraction 10 mins later. DH and I have breakfast with DD, got her dressed, called our friend to be ready for DD then he takes her there. Before contractions become painful. All nice and chilled for her.

Contractions were bearable, but every 10 mins with the odd one thrown in at 3mins just to confuse me

I spoke to labour ward at 8:30am who said, all sounded fine, needed to wait for contractions to get to 5 mins apart, and stay steady at that for 2 hours, the go on in.

Within 5 mins, they were 5 mins apart, i threw up my breakfast, had very bad tummy the other end too, and contractions stayed at 5 mins for 20 mins before jumping to 3-4 mins apart. DH called labour ward at 9:15am, said we were coming in, they said fine but take out time. And I said 'like fuck, i am going in now, i need some pain releif!' and off we went. How excrutiating is it sitting in a car having contractions? And catching every red light! "JUST DRIVE THROUGH THEM' i yelled at DH!

15 mins later, arrived at hosp, straight into delivery room, told I am in 'strong labour' - no shit! I was 6cm dilated. DH said 'oh ages to go then' and she said 'not really!' Waters in tact, offered to break them but I said wait 1 hour as they were ready to go.

Gas & air was permanently on my face! MW refused to give me any diamorphine as 'doing fine' on g&a. I kept insisting, she kept saying no! She wanted me on my back to monitor baby, i refused, stayed on all fours over the bed with mask attached to hand and face! (it turned out, there was no time for drugs and she knew but did not want to tell me!)

I really really wanted to push, however, waters were not broken and mw said it was the waters making me feel like that - very very painful, so she broke them, back onto all fours. The releif was immense! then i needed to push so she said push! 19 mins later:

Baby Reuben was born on saturday 28th Nov, weighing 7lb 7oz at 11:34am! 10 days late. I had a natural third stage, despite mw trying to persuade DH to get me to change my mind...cord stopped pulsating while we had skin to skin and i breastfed him, and DH cut the cord! Placenta came out on its own 26 mins later (after agreeing I would have injection if 30 mins passed with out any sign).

Reuben's breathing was apparantly a bit laboured although neither DH or i could notice, so paaiatrician was called to check him over, given full clean bill of health, but meant we had to have him on 4 hour obs so they stuck me on a ward and kept us in overnight , that and we had to wait for blood results for anti-d injection! I had wanted to be home by tea time! He was absolutely fine though and we got home yesterday afternoon after much paperwork filling/waiting around.

But he is here!!! And feeding lots and I am loving being a mum to a newborn again!

DD is wonderful with him. Just the best sister ever.

I shall try to find time to read everyone elses! And I am going to post about breastfeeding as need some advice from you lovely ladies if that is ok...

wook · 30/11/2009 10:15

BBL oh god I sound like my mother- that was the kind of well meaning suggestion she makes, to which the answer is 'no' and then tears- sorry!
But maybe there is someone you could ask for a hand today? Just so you can rest?
I am reluctant to ask people for help, but if I think about it the other way round- ie if a friend asked me, I know that I would be glad to help them.

wook · 30/11/2009 10:16

Pav x posted- CONGRATULATIONS!!!

BeckyBendyLegs · 30/11/2009 10:35

Wook no-one today. Best friend is looking after poorly son, my mum does voluntary work today, MIL in Manchester, but I'm fine. I'll catch up tonight hopefully. I had a lie down just now on the sofa and although didn't sleep feel a bit brighter for it. I'm just having a 'woooe is me' day today I think.

raggie · 30/11/2009 10:55

Hi everyone - just popping in.

pav brill to hear your birth story, made me giggle a lot

'like fuck, i am going in now, i need some pain releif!'

"JUST DRIVE THROUGH THEM'

'strong labour' - no shit!

So thought I might just have had the right to post here this morning - I had painful contractions in my back radiating to the front every ten mins last night for several hours, then through the night they faded. How disappointing? Especially as today is my EDD.

Having the odd similar feel now so still time I suppose but must not get excited.

Can't wait to join you all though on the other side!

BeckyBendyLegs · 30/11/2009 11:39

You'll be here soon enough Raggie!

Trying to get Toby to nap in the pushchair right now. We need to pick up DS2 in about 45 mins so not worth trying to get him to nap in his basket... He's not happy (he's quiet now as I sit here but awake and not sure what I'm doing to him!).

longwayaway · 30/11/2009 12:07

maman2tom You were all by yourself in the recovery room?? Really? I don't have a previous pg to compare this one to, but I will admit there are some silver linings to the situation... no stitches in my perineum, and stacks and stacks of unused sanitary pads!

Pav I love that you brought on labor by thinking about breastfeeding! That's beautiful. Hilarious birth story (in hindsight of course)

scarlotti · 30/11/2009 12:07

Pav woohoo!!! you're here and a huge welcome to baby Reuben (love the name!) Glad your labour went so well for you, and that it's not just me that shouts for pain relief and orders everyone around!!

longwayaway sounds like a good birth to me albeit not the one you planned. You took it all in your stride I'd say

BBL hope you manage to get some rest today. Am with you on the lying down helping, sometimes it's the only way but it does allow you to rest up. Am sure Toby will fall asleep once you head out in his pushchair if all else fails.

Raggie fingers crossed it's the start of things for you.

DH is finally getting over his D&V bug and luckily mil and pil are here so I have some help. Still doing ok sleep wise at night, manage to get about 6.5 hours in two blocks but am conscious that losing an hour or so every night and broken sleep will take it's toll in the long run. Mil happily playing with DS1 though so at least entertaining a 4 year old is covered today.

Tamlin · 30/11/2009 12:30

Pav, well done, you. He sounds lovely, and I like your hamster description (from the other thread). I always think of Arthur looking like a squirrel clutching a nut when he's feeding.

longwayaway, oh, those OP babies and the trouble they cause! It sounds as if you did wonderfully. It's brilliant that feeding started so well too - I was worried that my section would wreck my breastfeeding chances, but it's all gone really smoothly.

The sleep deprivation is starting to really catch up with me. I think I've got this far on new-baby euphoria, but that's died off now and I'm just left with the grim realization that it is going to be a really, really long time before I get any decent sleep. DS 1 was four and a half months old before he stopped feeding every two hours around the clock, and Arthur seems to be blithely following in his footsteps. And then DS 1 was still waking for two night feeds when he was fourteen months old... as a matter of fact, he STILL wakes periodically in the middle of the night. DH tried to take Arthur with a bottle for a few hours last night, but returned him after ninety minutes looking miserable, saying 'He wouldn't stop crying for me.'

Six week check today. My GP only has his six-week checkups scheduled for 2 pm, so that's any chance of a nap today shot - DS 1 naps from 1.30 to 3.

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 30/11/2009 12:45

longwayaway sounds like you handled the EMCS very calmly, well done you and welcome to your LO! We made it!

I tore a little bit, 1st degree but did not need any stitches, she said the tear was where i was cut last time, to be expected apparantly. Rather tender there now though

Sleep deprivation tamlin yes, I am with you on the whole new baby euphoria keeping you going. I managed 2 hours sleep which is the most since giving birth due to being on a noisy ward immediatel after, and after those 2 hours, I thought I had slept forever. I know that feeling won't last

Trikken · 30/11/2009 12:57

Had the worst nights sleep last night. didnt really sleep at all, but luckily is dh's day off today so at 6 dh took Annabelle downstairs so I could sleep and also got ds ready for and took him to playgroup as well. he then went food shopping (we normally go together) so has been a complete star. i didnt wake up til just before he got home again at half ten. am feeling very lucky.

maman2tom · 30/11/2009 13:08

Longwayaway Hopitals are a bit dire in France. It was really wierd I was basically ignored for 2 hours despite the fact whenever i dosed off i'd "forget" to breathe which would jolt me awake gasping for air! In 1 bad was a pregnant woman who wasn't in labour but was having pain reief for spd and in the other bed was an old man?? Don't know what he was doing in the maternity ward???

This time around it was the aftercare that was lousy: broken bed, pneumatic drilling outside my window at 7.30am , no hot water in the bathroom...and people say the NHS is bad!

PavlovtheForgetfulCat · 30/11/2009 14:09

maman that sounds horrendous poor you for such a bad experience.

I try not to be too bad mouthed about our NHS system. I has always proven to be there for me when I have needed it and i think all in all it works well. Hiccups, but that happens anywhere.

longwayaway · 30/11/2009 14:34

maman that's criminal I found some of the staff to be angelic, while others were pure box-tickers, but all in all we were well taken care of.

Tamlin glad to hear the feeding is going well for you - it feels like a nice reward for getting through the emcs. If I had to deal with the heartbreak of feeding issues on top of everything else I'd probably be in complete meltdown.

New-baby euphoria is getting me through the days & nights so far. Wow is this better than being 9 months pregnant. DH doesn't know what hit him He's gone from sleeping through the night to being kept up most of it. I at least had the transition of bad pregnancy sleep to three days in hospital, constantly being kept awake (by nurses, etc, never the baby!), so that when I managed 4 hours the first night home it felt amazing!

Trikken · 30/11/2009 15:09

I found all the MW's had different advice, when i initially went into hosp on the fri and stayed over I had six mw's at different times. one said they would break my waters in the next hour, she went off duty and then then next said "oh no, we wont do that. you have to go home for a bit" mind im writhing in pain and am permenantly attatched to the gas and air.

scarlotti · 30/11/2009 19:01

Euphoria/adrenalin has worn off here too although I'm lucky in that I get 3 hour gaps at night between feeds. Tamlin how on earth are you managing to function with 2 hourly feeds? I am in awe of your determination to feed him yourself given how often he feeds and that you seem to feel this may continue for a while.

Looking forward to a few days of normality here so I can squeeze in a nap but won't get that until later in the week as in-laws down until tomorrow night and then DS1's friend over for afternoon and tea on Weds. Am hoping they will entertain each other and I can just veg on the sofa...?!!
Luckily DH is now eating again so hopefully I won't have a 7am start again like this morning. Isn't it madness how an extra half an hour of sleep after the 6-7am feed can make so much difference.

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