October 08 - The Second Year

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10th Sept (Due 1st Oct) - loulou33 - Boy - Joe Louis David - 6lbs 12oz
16th Sept (Due 8th Oct) - Ksal - Girl - Emma Rae - 6lbs
21st Sept (Due 5th Oct) - myjobismum - Girl - Naomi Caitlin - 5lbs 10oz
2nd Oct (Due 12th Oct) - star6 - Boy - Quinlan - 5lbs 15oz
3rd Oct (Due 26th Sept) - purpleflower - Girl - Rebecca Jill Erzsebet - 8lbs 10.5oz
4th Oct (Due 30th Sept) - Aubergenie - Boy - Stanley - 7lbs 12oz
8th Oct (Due 6th Oct) - ronshar - Boy - William Dexter - 7lbs 11oz
9th Oct (Due 17th) - Marthasmama - Girl - Martha - 7lbs 10oz - Elective c-sec
10th Oct (Due 1st Oct) - CantSleepWontSleep - Boy - Duncan Elliot - 8lbs 4oz
12th Oct (Due 4th Oct) - pistachio - Boy - Thomas Fraser - 10lbs 2oz
16th Oct (Due 11th Oct) - heather1980 - Boy - Alexander James - 9lbs 5oz
17th Oct (Due 10th Oct) - pepperrabbit - Girl - Jessica Rose - 7lbs 15.5oz
24th Oct (Due 29th Oct) - Ekka - Boy - Matthew - 7lbs 15oz
26th Oct (Due 20th Oct) - jenwa - Girl - Phoebe Jasmine - 9lbs 2.5oz
28th Oct (Due 23rd Oct) - RachieW - Boy - Jack - 7lbs 4oz
31st Oct (Due 20th Oct) - KnickersOnMaHead - Boy - Samuel Paul - 9lbs 11oz
5th Nov (Due 29th Oct) - Honeymoonmummy - Girl - Poppy Grace - 6lbs 15oz
5th Nov (Due 30th Oct) - MamaG - Boy - Harry James - 10lbs 9oz

Nice names ladies.

50ft get some sleep lady and give DH a massive big kiss for making you go for the night. M will still be there in the morning.

looks longingly at 50ft and her night of sleep... Well done mr50ft! Sleep well

I did our weekly shop out tonight instead of online because I wanted to get out after Q went to bed. DH is being horrible. I hate his moods. I was irritated because the dishes he washed still had bits of food on them (they really did - it was nasty) so I re washed them and told him I was annoyed by it. He refused to believe they were still dirty (but wouldn't come look so I could prove it!) and then said "all you ever do is complain about me" and "I'm sick of you"
Certainly that's not all I ever do! It's not. In fact things have been going ok lately. He just can't handle criticism of any sort!! Anything less than positive about him and someone is constantly putting him down. It's just not true!! I DO think I should be able to express my feelings, though. I did "complain" earlier about him not brushing his teeth this morning for a while. his breath reeked horribly. yuck. He has a cavity that he won;t get filled because it requires a root canal and an artificial tooth (too much money). But it causes his breath to stink so badly if he doesn't brush first thing in the morning. I feel badly but all I said was to please brush your teeth. But I don't complain about him all the time!! I don't! Then he said "well I could complain about you a lot more than I do, but I just bite my tongue"
Well, maybe he deserves someone better, then. If he dislikes me so much. I pointed out that I said the dishes were dirty and I wanted him to brush his teeth. I didn't say something hurtful like, "I'm sick of you" He just says "whatever, I don't want to get into this" and WILL NOT discuss with me. Just rolls his eyes, stares at the TV or laptop and says "I'm not doing this. You're trying to cause an argument and I'm too tired to do this" And this is what he always does!!!!!!!!!

Sorry for the rant.
as you were

Get his lap top and bang him over the head with it.
Or just treat him how you would treat a small child at school who was having a tantrum. Ignore him.
If DH cant take a small bit of constructive critism(I can never spell that word) then dont rise to it.
Please dont tell yourself that this is anything to do with you Star. It is all DH not you. DH seems to find it very easy to take out his bad moods on you. Try and laugh at him, not to his face mind you. I can imagine that would go down very badly.
It is not your fault.

I have to go now. I am supposed to be having early nights while DH is away. Last night it was 12, tonight isnt looking good either

He refused to discuss. So I sent him an email (not too lengthy) this morning and he responded that I was over reacting to the situation.

It is a tricky one and I agree with Pistachio & Ronshar (wise young ladies that they are). I really don't know what to suggest. If DH pulled that shite with me I would give him the bollocking of his life. But I can do that in my relationship with DH. It's such a tough situation for you Star.

Pistachio - I used to suggest a wife swap to my friend with the cheating bastard husband as she was basically a slave. That would have given him the shock of his life and my DH the lovely break he deserved. But he would probably have stayed where he was rather than come home to demanding old me!

Last night went well. M woke up twice for a grizzle once DH left her to settle herself & once picked her up for a cuddle. I slept ok, but I think I am programmed to wake twice a night now!

I did give him a bollocking. He just says "whatever I'm not listening to this"
No matter how strong any woman or man is, he would react the same way. he doesn't really get intimindated like that. He'd just react by rolling his eyes or shutting you out. I'm not kidding!
He used to respond to me and shape up when I told him to - I used to "wear the pants" (trousers you would say!) in our relationship. I feel like he sees no reason to back down to me now.
And he certainly wouldn;t tolerate someone else telling him off. Just difficult!

Yay for the good night, 50ft!
I don't think I have ever, in my life slept a whole night without waking up... is that odd? I thought that was normal?

Hey all, wow an October thread Wife Swap! That's waaaay better than Secret Santa

Just a quickie to say Pops seems to be getting the seperation anxiety peak, crying whenever I leave the room etc. I have to go anyway, laters!

I sort of played the martyr - stupid I know but just pointed out how it is. I'm willing to work on "not complaining about him" and whatever it is that I'm doing that bothers him if he's willing to work on the 2 things that frustrate me about what he does. Because I love him, I'm willing to make compromises and work hard on our relationship.
I wish he'd try as well. I never thought I'd be the type of woman to just sit back and swallow my feelings for the sake of a man (ooohhh how my liberal arts professors would glare at me now!)
Problem is, I'm not like that. I'm going to TRY to be. It's only when I SAY something (in DH's terms, "complain") that things go wrong. If I say nothing and just happily merrily pretend all is ok, then nothing bad happens between us (for his part). But then it will build up and I'll resent him, so I shouldn;t do that. But I honestly don't know what's best at this point. Maybe it indeed IS just better to ignore, swallow irritations and play happy housewife.

And HMM yes, Q does the same. If I'm around, he doesn't want me to leave the room.

I'm going to post in behaviour/development in a few minutes. Having a nightmare of a time getting clothes on him and nappy changed. Just me, no one else!

I know. But he refuses to go to therapy together. He says it's a waste of time and he doesn't want to go and listen to me complain about him in front of someone else. I've tried so many times to convince him to just go once with me. Nope.

wow pistachio that was amazing. Can I email you a photo and get a consultation (I'm not kidding!!) before people catch on to how good you are and you can start charging loads for the advice?
I'm a failure at shopping, never find clothes to suit my shape and always feel fat in whatever I have! I look through my closet every morning and get soooo frustrated!

myjob I second that. Exercise definitely makes you feel better and see yourself differently. It's well worth even a quick 30 minutes if you can squeeze it in.

Having said that, I've met you in person and you look lovely. Really, you do!

I'm at my mum's home soon to sort you out Myjob!