Dec 08 babies are nearly one - PARTY TIME!

[EffiePerine]

As I accidentally filled up the old thread I thought I'd better start a new one

Gahhhh!!!! Teething disaster here. Yesterday DD2 was in a foul mood and grizzled and weepd all day. I spotted a huge bulging lump where her first lower left molar will be so I put it down to that and with medised she slept fine. Today she has been a NIGHTMARE. Most grizzly day I ever remember with either girl. Could not be put down for a second and yet still cried and moaned in our arms. Have been alternating calpol and nurofen and using Nelson's teething granules. Now she is awake again. Bulging gum looks red and sore and her cheeks are flaming so I am sure it's teeth. But what can I do for her???? Any tips appreciated. The mood she is in will ruin Christmas if it continues and I do really feel for her even though I am v near the end of my tether. Help!!!!!!!!

Didn't get to do my big post yet and just back from a trip to London. I know it was stupid but there were bits I needed from my flat etc. Aubi, no tips but didn't want to go to bed without offering sympathy...

Mom, I am really touched about what you said about DH's book - thank you.

Tons of love to the rest of you and the mythical catch up tomorrow.

I am a lot better, thank you all for asking. A bit weak and weady and headachey but sickness gone. Secret Santa arrived today -so exciting!

Right, and so to bed.

I meant weedy. Don't know what weady means, ha. Veggie, I love mulled wine. I know you will all fall off your thrones with shock at that one

aubi - could you give her frozen peas to eat? Apparently the cold is meant to be quite soothing for them. Poor little love

aubi we make ice lollies out of fresh OJ and give them to DS. Makes quite a mess but puts a smile on his face for a bit. Plus the OJ helps his constipation

Right cleaning beckons, not a clue what the plan is for tomorrow. We find out later if MIL will get discharged for Christmas, so I am assuming she will and that I am cooking dinner as per.

Poor baby Aub . Ice cube in a flannel? More drugs? Hopefully the tooth will pop through soon.

At work today, will hopefully be pretty quiet so I can get through emails and tidy up generally. I need to get another emergency present for DH - any ideas? Failing further inspiration I'll try and pop out to Stanfords at lunchtime as I love the shop and it always has interesting books.

MoM: I think 2 milk feeds a day is fine, as long as you're adding dairy elsewhere (yoghurt and so on). Neither of mine are big cow's milk drinkers.

Veggie: magnetron is the thingy that powers microwaves, the Dutch are obv a technically precise people! I am coincidentally helping to organise a conference on the history of the cavity magnetron next year. Oo the excitement.

MULLED WINE: I never follow a recipe, but to make even the roughest red wine palatable add loads of fresh orange juice, brown sugar, spices (cinnamon sticks, cloves, ginger, nutmeg, anything else you having lying about), slices of orange and lemon and heat up till all the flavours meld together. Adjust spices/sugar/orange juice to taste. We mulled a lot of appalling red wine as students and this combo never failed

daisy: youa re v good, our place is a bombsite thanks to me being ill or at work and DH being at home with the DSs. I do lie to have it nie and tidy for Christmas but it may be a lost cause this year. Hope you get some quality time with your MIL and your family have a peaceful Christmas . Will be thinking of you all.

Awww baby Aub.... ds was like that a while back. He was happy with cold yoghurt, and I made sure his milk was given to him cold - would she take it cold? other than that, it was dentinox gel which was the only thing that fixed him. pain in the arse to get on but did the trick in 10 mins or so, calpol did nothing for him.

Oh Lady what a bad time to be ill... Glad you're on the improve...
I've never had mulled wine - perhaps I'd better look into it. This sounds terrible, but for me, unless it's wine or something, I don't generally think the calories are worth it so for non alcoholic I always stick to diet drinks it's all about if it's worth having empty calories or not for me double !

OK I have last minute presents to wrap and baby to put to bed so he doesn't try and help!

It is blooming snowing again!! I am so bloody fed up of this snow!! We are meant to be going to my Nan's on Sunday. Everyone is going to be there, My aunt is coming up from Brighton and my Uncle is coming from Oxford. I am so worried we won't get there

Also DH is really struggling in the snow. He can't get up and down kerbs and the council have just piled the snow up at the side of the pavement. None of the crossings have been cleared so he is having to climb over a 2-3ft pile of snow and then try and get down the kerb. It took 2.5 hours to get home last night when it normally takes an hour to go to my Mums, collect the boys and go home. So we got home at quarter to ten last night.

Hello!
kayz yes the snow is a pain in the arse isn't it. We travelled from Cambridge to somerset yesterday and it took over 6 hrs which is almost double normal times. Fortunately we got here just before it started freezing up as the roads are lethal today (not much snow though). Glad we are here though. DS not impressed with being in car for 6 hrs though! Slept badly last night and is now fast asleep.
rubes I am with you on the fattening soft drinks. Diet for me too, even though I am sure it has loads of crap in it. Though full fat coke has magical properties if you need an energy kick/have a hangover.
aubs sorry no tips better than the ones given already but lots of sympathy and hope she is better on xmas day.
veggie I wing my mulled wine recipe too, similar to effie. How to gluwein recipes differ?

MERRY CHRISTMAS EVERYONE NEARLY!

And what a dreary day it is too. I've got a belting headache and am sitting at work doing big fat nada. Although DH took DD to his parents last night, so I had a night off and slept til 8.15 this morning - yay! Only got into work 20mins ago and have done bog all so far. Am leaving at 12. Treat!

I think it's the hormones, but was watching this lovely lady on the bus today, who must have been about 65 and suddenly felt all weepy because it's only 30 years til I'm that age and that's no time at all and I don't want to get old. Made me feel all sort of bitter sweet about it. Plus started thinking about Whizzy's face when she sees me and how it lights up - I love that special connection we have, that neither of us have with anyone else!!! God, I'm so soppy these days.

And at 6am I lay in bed and had rage for 45mins about DH doing the Ironman in August, when I'll have a 5 week old baby. He has promised that he'll only train one day every weekend - but he's at work for 5 days, so I'll see him 1 day out of 7. How am I going to cope? I mean, I know I will, but it'll be hard and it could be so much easier. Plus I can't keep calling on my Mum or his as they've got lives of their own and we can't afford any extra help. AND the thing that worries me the most is that I'll do what I did with Whizz and get so used to doing it on my own, that when he is there, he's more of a hindrance and gets in the way of the routine that we've got going. Hmmm. I've tried telling him all this and he thinks I'm being really negative and a cow.

I don't want to forbid him from doing it, as that's not fair. But I want him to choose not to do it because he's facing up to his responsibilities as a father and deciding to spend time with his family because he wants to be with us and help me! But I think that's far too hopeful for someone with his immaturity. Am I total bitch? I think I probably am.

Kayz - I hope the snow goes soon for you. If it helps, it's much warmer here today, so hopefully will warm up everywhere soon. I'm sure the snow will be fun for our kids when they're a bit older, but at this age, it's just really hard work!!!

Big love to everyone and apologies for non-christmassy rant. Just feeling cross. Still!!!

Beans: youa re NOT being a bitch. Your DH is being unreasnable to think that 1 day out of 7 is a good stint for a father of 2 young children .

On a different note, are you still up for meeting for a coffee/lunch in the new year seeing as we'll both be slogging in Central London? You can rant at me all you like

beans you are indeed a soppy bugger.
I am with you on the iron man thing though. I think it's selfish. But I would also have trouble saying "no you can't do it". Basically I have only had a few days cycling on my own (i.e. without towing DS) in the past YEAR. I would LOVE to be able to do the cycling equivalent of ironman (e.g. 12/24hr solo mtb race) but that is out for a few years I think. Why should sodding men be able to do these things but not us?? And I think things are fairly equal with DH and I, he doesn't have many days off either. I think it is pretty mean that he's going to leave you to cope with a toddler and a newborn every weekend for 1 day, when he doesn't really have to. But maybe I am a mean bitch too.

Hey beans maybe you should put your ironman dilemma on Am I being Unreasonable. And see what the scary wider mumsnet has to say about it?

Beans I am obviously a bitch too as I would be fuming if my DH was going to do that. I'm sorry but if my DH was only going to see our children 1 day a week I think I would kill him. There are other Ironmans he can do when the children are older.

Thanks guys - I really appreciate the support and kindness. I've tried maturely telling him how I feel (although obviously just dissolve into wet tears) and can't seem to make him realise that this is something he could do next year or something, when I'm not going to be bleeding and breastfeeding and trying to cope with two! But he cannot see it. Or he can, but chooses to ignore it because he's so selfish!

I think I am going to evilly speak to his father this week (6 days with inlaws!) and ask him to say something to DH when he mentions his plans to do the ironman, without saying that I've told him about it. Tell him in no uncertain terms that he's being a selfish bugger!

SL - not sure I'm brave enough to do wider mumsnet!!! Is there a link that has that on it??!

PS Effie - definitely up for meeting up for coffee in New Year! xx

Beans Here you go. One link to AIBU. Go and ask for some opinions.

I love AIBU, some of them are so amusing.

LAWKS! I'm definitely not posting on there - people can be viscious, can't they!!! (although it's bloody funny!)

vicious viscose viscious - no idea!

Ladies, I'm orf for Xmas and probably won't be back on til the new year as with inlaws and no time as busy being polite and perfect daugher in law. Which I am!

You are all angels and I hope your Christmasses are lovely - that various babies get their teeth sorted, and that the weather is clement and you all get all the prezzies you want!

Big big love to you ALL! HO HO HO etc.

xxxx

Beans - I actually don't think it is wrong to line the in laws up on your side. I would do it and hope he listens to his dad. Have you tried getting him to imagine how he would feel if you decided to indulge in a hobby for one day each weekend leaving him to care for the kids alone?

Well DD1 and I have just completed a marzipan nativity scene for the top of the Christmas cake and she is now busy decorating present tags while DH has taken DD2 out for a walk to calm her down. Peace reigns temporarily. Lovely.

DD2 is still suffering. DD1 never complained like this. In all honesty DD2 is a grouchier baby than DD1. It's odd because bringing up DD1 has always been a breeze and I think that's partly because she is a mini me. She reacts just as I would react to most situations and I can read her like a book. DD2's moods are a mystery to me, from birth she has had a tendancy to go from happy to incandescent at the flick of a switch and for no apparant reason. The nanny remarks on this too. It's odd as she is so gorgeous and affectionate when on form and so cross and shouty when not.

I am probably dwelling on this too much as I have been up with her all night but I am starting to worry that I will never understand her like I understand DD1. I love her just as much so my anxiety is hard to explain. And it's a stupid time to dwell on it because she is in pain. And it's Christmas and I have better things to think about. So ignore me. I'm not even sure what I am trying to say.

Right, off to make sure everyone's Christmas outfits are clean then we are going to a Christingals service at the in law's church.

Merry Christmas to one and all.

Xxx

Hi Beans, Hmm I don't think my dh would bother trying to suggest that, however he probably would bring it up, gauge my reaction, and then laugh it off like he was joking when I had a melt down over it! He was very good at 2 weeks stuck home no car with ds while I was at work - He bought a turbo trainer and trained in the laundry while ds napped. Could your dh do anything like that at times?

On a similar subject - quick question....Last night he asked me about this race in Spain he wanted to do. Wants me to come with him (plus he gets cheap ferry and we could drive) or he could go just with some of the other guys. I will be 34 weeks pregnant. He couldn't go to it last year as I planned to go home for my mums 60th and then changed the dates on him so he could have gone after all so I really want him to do it.
Anyway, I think I will go, but was wondering what everyone else would do? It would be 2 nights there and we would probably take the ferry from Portsmouth to Santander then a 3 hour drive and 2 nights there - so shouldn't be a problem at 34 weeks right?

Ahh cleaning all done, and DS has just launched DD's drink all over the carpet, DD has just thrown her packet of Quavers in the air in outrage and half of them are in the bloody Christmas Tree!!!!!! Why the hell did I bother.....

Anyhow...beans We will have a minin AIBU on here, so yes your DH IBU, and bloody selfish to boot. Hopefully your FIL might be able to persuade him to put it off for a couple of years.

MOM DS is no big milk drinker, he has an 8oz bottle before bed, thats it as far as drinking the stuff goes. Although he has a huge bowl of porrige/weetabix in a morning so easily has about 4/5oz on that and has plenty of yogurt too. I'll also mash his food with a bit of milk too if its a little on the thick side iyswim.

Effie what time are you working till?? Hope the day goes quickly.

Right I am certain i'll be back again today but if not, HAVE A WONDERFUL CHRISTMAS MY LOVELY DECEMBER 08 LADIES!!!! I haope that you all get everything you want and deserve

Thank you to my secret Santa!! It's just arrived. Blooming DS1 got hold of the pressie for the boys and opened while I was on the phone telling someone that I really don't want my loft to be turned into a room. It is a lovely book, thank you ever so much. He is now sat reading it to DS2 though I think he is making up most of it. I am being good and leaving mine until tomorrow.