Dec 08 babies are nearly one - PARTY TIME!

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As I accidentally filled up the old thread I thought I'd better start a new one

evening
jj hope you and dd are ok after your fall.
kiwi how has nursery been?
ladyt hope you're on target for your Monday deadline...nearly there!
kayz are you feeling better? great news about the tumble drier!
ZJ - it appears that the road between you and I is rather snowy - they kept telling me so on the radio today! Hope you're not too stuck.
Well it's pretty snowy here - Lu was outside playing in it at 8am then was crying in the school playground because she was so cold and wet! I went to P's nursery babies party this afternoon - very cute .
CPN went ok on Wednesday. She's very lovely and very good at her job. Basically I'm not too sure how I am! When I was struggling last month I put it all down to Lucy being difficult. She's improved quite a bit over the past few weeks so I expected to pick up and feel better - and I do to a certain extent - but I've remained a bit low and teary. So anyway it could be a blip or it might be worth upping my meds - but we're going to wait and see for now and I'll see her again in 2 weeks. TBH I feel a bit crap about it all - I mean I first got PND when L was about 6 months, and she's now 5, so surely I shouldn't be on meds and having appointments still. It frustrates me that I can't just get on with it like normal mums. CPN has suggested Cognitive Behavioural Therapy so is talking to a psychologist about what might be helpful for me. Sounds good and like it could be positive, but I have the same feeling that I should just manage like everyone else without needing professionals to sort me out. Anyway I'm fine. Thanks for asking after me. Sorry to ramble.
P astounded me on Wednesday night by sleeping right through from 6.15 until 5.45! I was thrilled She didn't repeat it last night but hey - there's always another night...
Lu's asthma is not great at the mo (possibly not helped by playing out in the snow at 8am!) but she's really wheezy and needing her inhaler lots, so I'm bracing myself for a night of little sleep.
Oh and the Breaking News here....Phoebe has a tooth! Finally! Top right front one - it's only a tiny bit poking through at the moment and looks funny!
Anyway I must go to bed...
night all xxx

Hello everyone! Just popping on to wish all the December 08 babies a very Happy Birthday.

I hope someone remembers me, I think I dropped off the thread about 5 months ago when our laptop was acting up.

We celebrated Eddie's birthday last Saturday with a very small family party. I'll post a photo of my little boy (no longer a baby, sniff, sniff) on my profile in a mo'.

Evening all, just popped on to say hello, got to get an early night after DD woke up at 3.30am yesterday and barely slept again after. Ugh. It's her birthday tomorrow (this time last year I was high on gas and air and hadn't slept... and I haven't haven't had a decent nights sleep since ha ha) and we have about 25 people coming for her party. Where's the oh-my-god-what-have-I-done emoticon when you need one. Wish me luck and that my house is still standing after 10 babies have had their way...

Second session at nursery was slightly better, apparently she was on and off teary at the beginning, but when I came back to pick her up I could see she was on someone's lap playing with a toy - but the minute she spotted me she started wailing in a "why oh why did you abandon me" manner . Now she has a big gap before she starts properly which is annoying but is because of christmas/new year period so I guess not much I can do. I just hope she gets used to it relatively quickly because it's so awful to see her little face crumple like that

Jump are you ok? Bike fall sounds potentially nasty. I've just yesterday bought DD's bike seat for her trip to nursery, am a bit nervous about the whole thing as I've never tried it out!

Kayzr Your mum rocks. I want a tumble dryer soo much. And a bigger house that would fit one, of course.

Trace A friend of mine raves about cognitive therapy, she had it for depression (no babies so not PND) and credits it with completely sorting her out. Definitely worth a try I think? Hugs to you.

Morning all, hellooooo Nolda! Of course we remember you and Eddie He's such a big boy now, he looks so grown up!

kayz three cheers for your mum, that's brilliant and hope it helps with the dampness

trace it sounds as if your cpn is lovely and really helpful. I think if a lot of us are honest we're not managing as well as we'd hoped (well I find it much much harder than I'd ever dreamed!) and it's great that you can be so open and brave about dealing with it. And what great news about the sleep and the tooth! Just in time to munch on her Christmas turkey

kiwi see, she's already having fun! the whole 'why did you leave me???' thing is apparently very common - they're enjoying themselves, and then when they see you they realise you weren't there and get cross. But it does stop, yesterday when I went to pick dd up she smiled at me

We're fine after the bike incident she really took against the seat again on the way home, arching her back so her head was right back over the top of the seat, and flailing her arms around. It got so that I had to stop, push the bike with one hand and hold her back into the seat with the other and there was a certain amount of sharp talking I was just so scared she'd make the bike fall again in the road. Am really hoping it was just because of the cold and maybe that she had a cold bum or some such, not that I'll never be able to take her in it again.

Good morning,

kayz what a fab Mum you have! That is such a great present for you at this time!!

Jump sorry to hear about your accident. I think it might just have been an aversion to the cold. DS went mental in his pram yesterday on the school run. I couldn't figure out why unless it was just too cold for him

veggie How are you getting on with the unpacking? I hope you are all sorted and settled soon.

trace Glad your CPN meet went well. The CBT sounds like it could be a real help.

kiwi I remember when DD started nursery she used to scream when we pulled up outside, and then when we got in. But by the time I rang them about half an hour later they always told me she was settled. They said that its like 'emotional balckmail' for leaving them but they soon settle when you have left. BTW DD started at the end of November, and I was so worried that the Christmas break would set us back but bizarrely enough she improved....fingers crossed its the same for you

Had a meltdown here last night. MIl was admitted to hospital last night for a blood transfusion as she is so damn weak. They have also mentioned the posibility of chemo in the New Year if her general health improves. DH started ranting that no-one was doing anything fast enough for her. I tried to explain that the system isn't quick, tests have to be exhausted etc etc but that she couldn't have chemoo now she is just too ill, it would probably see her off. Then he said that 'they' were prepared to treat my GP's and they are 79, so its not fair. I tried to reason that neither of my GP's have been diagnosed terminal, he wasn't having any of it....I know its all part of his coping strategy or whatever but it hurts when he was having a go at my GP's.

Plus DD has been a horror the past few nights. Think Supernanny's opening scenes and multiply by a thousand Nothing I try has any effect on her. I have taken toys off her, stopped her watching TV, having treats...I even smacked her bum. Nothing she just stands and screams at me or DH refusing to go to sleep and becoming hysterical. I am at my wits end with her I have no idea where it has come from or what to do. I went to bed last night in floods of tears feeling the worst wife and mother and I can't seem to sort my family out. Not feeling much better today either....

daisy you poor poor thing. Please go easy on yourself. Yes your DH is struggling, but that doesn't mean you're not entitled to be hurt by his comments. You know I've not been managing my dd1 well - you have my sympathies. Things have picked up with Lu here a bit and our tactics were just consistency, prayer and chocolate (for us not her!). It's so tough and she's probably picking up on the stress in your house - not that it's a fault at all. You are doing an awesome job, you're a devoted wife and mummy, you love them so much and that is the best thing you can ever give them. They are all loved and safe and secure and you are truly amazing. Wish I could come round and have a cuppa and cake with you and give you a huge hug. xxxxxxxxx

Daisy, sorry you are having a hard time at the minute. I'm sure he doesn't mean to take it out on you.

I am just going to have a small rant about MIL. Our neice is being christened tomorrow. MIL said she would be buying the boys outfits as she doesn't like what we dress them in. Well the outfits are bloody disgusting. Urgh.

kayz at your MIL disapproving of how you dress your boys!
nolda you have very beautiful children Great to hear from you again.
daisy hope you've had a better day. Am praying for you.
Just had a mammoth present wrapping session so it's all done now . It's our church nativity tomorrow and L is an angel. They had the dress rehearsal this afternoon and it was so sweet - odd to think that this time last year I watched her being an angel wile my very newborn lay sleeping in my arms. I imagine this year I'll be trying to stop her from crawling onto the stage

Got a tummy ache this evening so I'm off to bed, for hopefully more sleep than last night.P was awake and really crying twice, but L was up 5 times but she's not well so I can't be too harsh . her chest is bad so she needed her inhaler quite a few times in the night, but then that sends her pulse up and she can't get to sleep, so all in all we were rather short of zzzzzzzzzzzs last night. Here's hoping for a better night...
xxx

kayz I am completely at your MIL!!!

trace how was L at church as an angel? DD was one this morning, and she sang beautifully [proud mummy emotion]

Right off to the panto now, DH a bit better, hopefully more later.....

Just a very quick post to say thank you so much to my Secret Santa (I don't think you were meant to reveal yourself, but then again, I probably wasn't meant to open the parcel yet). Anyway, I haven't read any Camilla Gibb and it looks great, am really looking forward to it. DS is obviously still a bit young for the Shel Silverstein, but DD was really enjoying it already - its one of those things you don't see round here at all, but they are amazing. We have a copy of the Giving Tree, but not the poems, so that's wonderful. Very kind and generous of you to buy for us both.

Kiwi - how did he party go? many happy returns to L.

Daisy - I was so glad to read your later posts at the end of the thread, having started at the beginning. Sorry you are having such a hard time of it, but glad you are getting to enjoy the DCs.

Kayz - hugely annoying to have other people interfere in how you dress your children. TBH I sometimes find it frustrating when people buy them clothes as I would much rather dress them myself, but can't always justify more shopping if we have a stack of things we've been given.

Its amazing how having kids around reminds you how much fun some things are/should be. It was DS's birthday today. He's actually a bit ill (a cold, nothing too serious), but DD really got carried away with project birthday - she insisted on balloons, we compromised on muffins with candles instead of cake at breakfast, did lots of singing and almost let her brother play with his presents. Had some family round so pretty low key, but my brother was in town visiting from New York, so it was extra special. Mr J took it in his stride, I think his favourite thing was the balloons, so maybe DD knew what she was talking about when she insisted...

Morning all! I'm at work today so actually have time to post . DD's party was ace - she was a bit overwhelmed by all the people and babies at first, I think she thought it was like nursery and I was going to leave her but then she is being super-clingy at the moment anyway, even crying a little when DH takes her from me which she's NEVER done before. Anyone else finding that? I did hear that 1 is the peak of clingyness/separation anxiety?

Anyway it was great fun and she got some lovely presents. And her Secret Santa arrived so thank you mysterious Mumsnet Santa, whoever you are! I have been very good and am saving it for Christmas day.

Invis Happy Birthday to your DS for yesterday!

DS is definitely being more than usually clingy at the mo, although I'd partly put that down to him being unwell. He was wailing this morning when DS had him and I even got a little whimper of mama when I took him back - first time that's happened, so not at all convinced its for real, but still....

Hello,

Daisy hope the weekend improved for you. Can your DH take some time off work (aside from the holiday ?)

Kayzr I am jealous of your tumbledryer Hope the condensation improves as a result. What a great present from your mum !

News here is we have the pox, so I am not getting much of my time off Doesnt matter though, as for some reason being with the kids for a full 3.5 weeks without working takes the pressure off of having to do stuff all the time IYSWIM. Yesterday we went in the garden snow and made stained glass biscuits, which neither of them liked, so I had to eat them.

I've been dreading chickenpox, and we did have one night and 2 days of only sleeping for 30 mins at a time and severe discomfort, but DS1 seems to be improving now. We just have to wait for DS2 to get it now !

As for clingyness, DS2 is pretty bad at the moment, but he has just started having the most hilarious tantrunms ! Lying straight down on the floor on his face feeling sorry for himself if someone upsets him, or he gets told off, I just cant stop laughing at them

Hello gorgeous girls

This is not the promised catch as I feel so ill I felt a bit crook over the weekend and then started throwing up for England yesterday afternoon when we got home from the MIL's - every hour in the night. I can barely stand. Might it be SF? I have muscle pains and can't even really keep down water. Poor little DD was vomiting on Fri and then had diarrhoea over the weekend, but she seems ok now and it back on her grub.

DP's trial has been adjourned so he will be home by about 2 and I am so grateful as it took me all my time to feed and change DD this morning, I can barely lift her.

So I won't finish typing my book today although seeing as I have typed this, I might try. I am so thirsty.

Daisy, you are an excellent wife and mother. You have just got WAAAAAY too much on your plate at the moment. The transfusion will have a dramatic difference and this will cheer your DH up. He is naughty to talk about your GPs but people lash out when they are upset. As to your DD, I am sure the vibes from your MIL's illness and the whole Christmas thing are hyping her up. Be brave. You can do this, you really can.

Hello Nolda, of course we remember you and you have been asked about several times! Glad to see you back.

Kayz, that is topping about the dryer.

JJ, the bike malarkey sounds very difficult. So glad you are ok.

I know I have missed people but I can't type any more. I needed to go out and get my Secret Santa sent off today and now I may not be able to. Hope tomorrow makes it in time for Christmas...

Hello everyone,

My secret santa gift has arrived and I've put it under the tree for Christmas morning . Thank you very much indeed.

I posted mine on Saturday so I really, really hope it is going to be delivered in time.

trace You really shouldn't feel bad about still needing meds and chats with the CPN. Honestly! Depression is a horrible illness and you are doing all the right things in keeping on top of it.

kayz Hurrah for your tumble dryer! We got one when DD was a week old!

daisy As you said your DH is just lashing out. It makes it very difficult for you but I don't know what you can do about it. Has your MIL accepted any help? Speaking to a specialist nurse might help improve her outlook on the situation.

ladyT It sounds like a winter vomiting virus but you could ring NHS direct and see what they say. I felt just awful when I had it a few weeks ago, I had to ring my mum and get her to drive acrss and look after DD. Hope you feel better soon.

It is very snowy here and no one has seen fit to grit the roads . It is very pretty but not much fun if you want to go anywhere. I'm just hoping that the postman comes with the parcels I'm expecting and that the Tesco man can get through tonight. Fingers crossed.

Hello everyone,

My secret santa gift has arrived and I've put it under the tree for Christmas morning . Thank you very much indeed.

I posted mine on Saturday so I really, really hope it is going to be delivered in time.

trace You really shouldn't feel bad about still needing meds and chats with the CPN. Honestly! Depression is a horrible illness and you are doing all the right things in keeping on top of it.

kayz Hurrah for your tumble dryer! We got one when DD was a week old!

daisy As you said your DH is just lashing out. It makes it very difficult for you but I don't know what you can do about it. Has your MIL accepted any help? Speaking to a specialist nurse might help improve her outlook on the situation.

ladyT It sounds like a winter vomiting virus but you could ring NHS direct and see what they say. I felt just awful when I had it a few weeks ago, I had to ring my mum and get her to drive acrss and look after DD. Hope you feel better soon.

It is very snowy here and no one has seen fit to grit the roads . It is very pretty but not much fun if you want to go anywhere. I'm just hoping that the postman comes with the parcels I'm expecting and that the Tesco man can get through tonight. Fingers crossed.

LadyT That sounds horrible, stop even thinking about typing anything and get some rest! And remember to drink loads of water to keep yourself hydrated.

Those with cycling babies (well, babies who go on bike seats, 1 year olds who cycle would be impressive..) - can I ask, what do they wear? I think I need to get an all in one snowsuit thing for DD for the bike. Does anyone know where I can get a nice waterproof one? I saw the sort of thing in BabyGap but it was bright hideous pink...

NJAN and LadyT - hope everyone is recovered soon.

Kiwi - I like little trekkers for outdoor baby gear. There is also a Swedish chain called Polarn O Poyet which does lovely non-pinky children's clothes and also some good outdoor gear (thermals, waterproofs etc) - they have a shop in Brent Cross and also a concession in House of Fraser on Oxford Street. Pretty expensive if you pay full price, but they do have good sales.

Hi all, just a quickie as she's in a good mood shoving her walker about

Lady you poor lovey, hope dp is home and looking after the two of you by now.

kiwi - we have a waterproof from a Canadian store that my bro recommended so not much use to you but can second Polarn o howeveryousayit, they have great if expensive stuff, will be liking for them on ebay. My feeling is that waterproofing is more important than thermalness, as you can always layer underneath but wet clothes are dismally horrid. Glad to hear the nursery party was fun and that she's getting settled in

NJAN you're sounding very stoic about the pox, how brilliant that you can be so positive about what could be a horrid situation.

Thank you very much to my secret santa, pressie arrived this morning and I've been squishing the parcel lots to try and work out what it is

waaaahhh! dd is now sat on the floor (wooden floorboards so very resonant) and has just done an epic fart that I am serious lasted 2 seconds. Either that or is was a small earthquake!

we've had the agony and the ecstasy in the last 24 hours - dd's first proper tantrum yesterday ( that it took so long!) she woke up from her afternoon nap, was ok for about 10 mins then just cried and cried and writhed and stamped for about 45 minutes. Then she decided to stop and was all smiles again So that's what we have to look forwards to in spades...!

And today we were in the library making very slow progress towards the door, she was walking herself and suddenly stopped, looked up at me and reached up for my hand. [sob]

right time to give her tea, big hugs to everyone and festive good cheer my lovelies! I'm so excited about all of us having our babies be so grown up this Christmas, thinking that they were so tiny and squawky and (if we're honest) a bit wrinkly last year (or not even here for some of them!) and now they're such little people all of their own. Awwwwww....

Seeing as I managed to garble it, link to Swedish brand is here

Also have to post as my very dear sister is expecting her first child in August. Its a state secret in RL but am bursting with excitement so had to let off a bit of steam somewhere. So pleased for her and her husband and also for all our DCs as hopefully they will be close enough in age to be good friends as they grow up.

lady so sorry you're feeling so rubbish. Sounds more gastro than SF but I guess just see how it develops. Hopefully all will clear up very soon for you. Hope your DP doesn't get it too.
NJAN nice to hear from you - sorry you're pox-ridden - hope you're all spot free for Christmas.
Invis congratulations for your sister . Do you live nearby each other? How exciting!
jump at the tantrum! But that is so sweet about her reaching for your hand.
On clingyness - yes P is rather clingy at the mo. She's fine being left at nursery, but when we're at home she just wants me to hold her, and even then she can be unhappy. If dh has her she's started reaching out to me, although if I've been with her for ages and he gets home from work, she is keen to go to him. She has started pulling at my clothes to try to get to my boobies!
My secret santa gift arrived today so thank you! It's safe and sound under the tree (until P spots it no doubt!)
daisy the church nativity went really well thank you They were all so good and L looked beautiful! DDs across the nation were no doubt dressed in white frocks and silver tinsel, making their proud mummies well up...! How are things with you?

Oh dear LadyT you need to get to bed and STOP TRYING TO DO THINGS.

DH has been really ill here as well, fortunately better now. I think it may have been flu, though he didn't really have the totally can't get out of bed, hallucinating phase that you usually have with flu. So maybe just man-flu then . I hope I don't get it!!

njan sorry you have the pox, I hope everyone is better soon.

We need to get an all in-one snowsuit as well, as we have booked a snowboarding holiday, as well as it being too cold for him on the back of the bike in just a coat in current weather. I don't want to spend too much though (feeling broke due to snowboarding holiday!)

I like Polarn o Pyret (or the Pirate shop as we call it) as well, there is one in Cambridge..

Well I have to say DS is not really clingy at the moment (in fact he is going through a super sociable, cute stage at the moment) but the little bugger sometimes cries when Daddy leaves the room. Sigh....he LOVES daddy. Daddy is very pleased. He tries not to be smug but doesn't always quite manage it.

Oh yes, hello to nolda!! Of course we remember you...your Eddie looks very grown up these days.

lady & njan So sorry to hear you are poorly. I hope you are both feeling better soon.

invis hooray for your sister, that is such wonderful news!

jump sorry but I did at the tantrum. DS has recently discovered how to scream at the top of his lungs if we take anything off him.

Well things are a little better here (and thanks trace and everyone else for thinking of me). Although it does look like MIL will be in hospital for Christmas. She has yet to have the transfusion. Apparently they are concerned generally about the fact she is so weak and dizzy. Yesterday she had some more scans (inc brain) to see if it has grown/spread any. DH is handling this okay for now, but is stressing about seeing her on Christmas Day as we are cooking dinner for my folks. I have just said we will have dinner around visiting if she is in hospital.

DD's behaviour has been marginally better the past couple of days. Its so fustrating as one minute she is the most adorable little girl, and then she turns into a monster!! DS is too cute for words, trying to stand and walk but fails miserable falls over and chuckles away to himself. He tried it the other day in church (with biscuit in hand) fell on his back and just laid down looking at the roof and continued to eat said biscuit. He really does take everything in his stride....Anyway, the DC's will always keep me positive i have posted a recent picture of DS, he is enormous!!

Hello everyone,

invisible Congrats! How exciting for your sister . Will she be able to hide not drinking over the festive period?!

daisy What a shame your MIL will be in hospital. It has all come on so suddenly from her being a bolshy MIL to being so poorly . Hope you are OK.

ladyT How are you feeling now? Ritz crackers or similar are excellent for getting a little sugar and salt into your system. I ate plently during my hyperemesis (sp?) on the advice of the drs. I can't face them now!

jump We have had a few mini tantrums when she hasn't got her own way but nothing on that scale! Very funny.

I've been after a little waterproof suit, I'll check out the consession in Kendals in the sales. Thanks! This thread is sooo useful .

Wowsers the snow is so heavy here. The forecast was for clear skies but it has been snowing since 8 this morning. It is so deep the cat's belly scrapes on the snow as he walks. How is everyone else doing weather wise? No one has any long journeys ahead I hope. Back soon....

Hello chaps

My secret santa arrived yesterday and because I was a bit drunk when I got home I opened it . thank you so much - it's a fantastic bag. Really lovely.

Kayz that is a fab present from your Mum. I love my tumble drier in a totally unethical way. Something so depressing about being surrounded by washing (she says surveying the sheet hanging on the dining room door).

Christmas is great .

Can't wait for DD to be big enough to be an angel. We're housebound atm as both DCs are ill - DD has a throat infection and DS a chest infection and they both have sticky eyes. So house of antibiotics. Were supposed to be traveling up to yorkshire today but going to postpone. Starting to worry about how we'll get there though if snow gets worse.

Daisy have been thinking of you and your family. Glad your DH is doing a bit better.

Better go - our nanny is dropping round a football shirt for DS - apparently he ran out of his first football class saying that maybe father christmas would bring him one and FC is obliging. I have about 10 minutes to order things so it looks like we've been doing something educational rather than me being on mnet and DCs watching madagascar .

Ladyt I hope you're feeling better.