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March 08: We're about to get our first little sister or brother!

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turtle23 · 29/08/2009 07:31

Thought I'd start a new thread as as soon as evie pops we're bound to fill it hugely and some of us have phones to work with!

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megonthemoon · 26/11/2009 13:31

Everyone's toys stayed in the pram today, thank goodness: we've just exchanged!!!

Champers in front of The Restaurant and Gavin & Stacey ce soir I think

timelordvictorious · 26/11/2009 15:11

Hoorah! That's fab, Meg, and the pics on FB are gorgeous.

Turtle, sounds horrible (but also lovely to have a newborn). Do you have any help?

Merry, I am all about the power. Men with too much power are my special weaknes. I think it is the root of my Simon Cowell dream problem.

ilovegreenbeans · 26/11/2009 15:24

meg, just popping in to say wow to such a grown-up gorgeous house! Congrats and hope move goes well.

CricketsMum · 27/11/2009 12:24

Hello all

Work has been absolutely mental recently and i have barely had time to think, let alone lurk! Have quickly skimmed all I've missed and huge congrats to Turtle and Meg for respective good news (and commiserations to Meg at the same time for not good news). Hope you are both bearing up ok.

Hope everyone else is good. Getting back to process mapping now. yawn.

xx

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turtle23 · 27/11/2009 12:39

tlv- Thanks...I have a postnatal doula twice a week who is cooking for me and helped me undo the mess left by P's week with daddy. Other than that I'm pretty much solo, but just not caring about some stuff that can wait!
Meg- Hurrah for the new house!!!! So pleased for you!!

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turtle23 · 27/11/2009 17:25

I want someone to take P away. He is so horrid today I am really struggling to like him. He has screamed for three solid hours. I can't take anymore!

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merryberry · 27/11/2009 20:40

know what you mean turtle, i really do. walk towards the problem! he is just dead insecure now. treat him like he's newborn as well in terms of extra holding, don't expect any rational behvaiour. just baby him until you feel ready to help him prise back off of you. it is never going to be anything less than completely over-demanding the next few weeks, but don't look forward to it all, just deal with each half hour as it is happening.

littleducks · 29/11/2009 20:49

just a dash and quickie post

Turtle fb pics are very cute, lovely boys! i remember dd playing up big time when ds was born, in fact i will share a confession, when the hv came round to do ds baby check (so at some point in the first week) i kept ds in a hat, hoping she wouldnt notice (which she didnt) that ds had a huge scratch that dd had inflicted and i felt so guilty about more tiny helpless baby being scarred by it (in rational hindsight it was not that a serious scratch but at the time it was beyond awful)

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turtle23 · 30/11/2009 06:29

P slept through the night AND went to bed with no fuss...I am human again! Still fed for 4 straight hrs from 5-9 and then every 2 but I slept inbetween this time !!!!!
Morning world!

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megonthemoon · 30/11/2009 09:40

Big hurrah for P

Ewe · 30/11/2009 09:48

Woohoo! Good to hear turtle, hope you might get to squeeze in a nice long afternoon nap too!

Essays suck. I can't do it, it's really too bloody hard, I am not clever enough

merryberry · 30/11/2009 11:24

morning turtle

yes you can do it Ewe! this is early days, do your best and as time goes by your best will just get better and better.

I am also trawling for sponsorship! Singing the Messiah for a street kids charity on Sunday. Just a couple of quid, pretty please? www.justgiving.com/streetkidsmessiah

megonthemoon · 30/11/2009 17:27

hi ewe - i still remember the horrors of my first essay at university (something about poststructuralism...). i did miserably and thought i'd never be able to do anything, but i graduated with a 2.1 in the end so must have got better! it just takes practice - you'll be rattling them off in an hour by this time next year!

timelordvictorious · 30/11/2009 22:40

Hoorah for P, and sleepy toddlers in general.

Ewe - of course it's hard, otherwise everyone would be doing it. I had a similar panic a few weeks ago writing my first essay since 2003. But it will get easier (that's what I'm hoping anyway). Good luck with the essay.

Will sponsor all the sledders and singers, plus transfer money to Ewe when BT sort out our sodding phone line. Can't Internet bank from phone, and we're marooned as far as we can possibly be from the exchange with an ancient line.

Am loving toddlerhood at the moment. Everything is an adventure and we're getting new words everyday. Yesterday she passed me her milk before bedtime and said, 'share', and today she ran to the kitchen to get me when the dancing started on ITNG and dragged me to the tv saying, 'dance'. She's awesome.

megonthemoon · 01/12/2009 11:23

I'm panicking a bit about our move and all the upheaval it entails, particularly since my parents are in a bit of a stand-off with us about Christmas (they don't understand why we want to be in our new house given we won't be fully unpacked so are expecting us to make the 5 hour journey north for a couple of days to see them, but I'm worried about DS being away from home again when he'll have just been unsettled with the move). Anyone got any advice they can share on managing crazy parents moves/change in childcaremy thread here?

timelordvictorious · 02/12/2009 19:29

I let Bloke buy some t-shirts for Ff from the Internet. On a scale of 1-10, how bad would it be to let him dress her in the 'BABY (not midget)' one he bought?

The other was an AB/CD one, which I love. (Back in Black is her favourite song).

How goes the essay, Ewe? When do you break up for Christmas?

Meg, I think he'll be fine. Even being at the new house will be an upheaval, so a trip up north probably won't make much difference. And they are resilient little things. However, I would dig my heels in for Christmas at your lovely new house if I were you.

Home alone with the dogs until Saturday - Bloke and child are at Grandma's. Very odd.

Dontpanic · 03/12/2009 23:28

TLV seenthis?

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turtle23 · 04/12/2009 07:02

DP- Thank you very much for the card.

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timelordvictorious · 04/12/2009 15:56

Yum yum. He could do very bad things to me and I wouldn't complain. At. All.
Have seen a little trailer, and Donna's back I think. Can't wait.

merryberry · 05/12/2009 10:15

hi Meg, we moved house when ds1 was around this age, if i remember right. he didn't bat an eyelid about it!

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turtle23 · 05/12/2009 11:16

Tell me why I care? D has postponed this afternoon's visit il 4 as he HAS TO play golf with a friend first. Then rang me to say he was coming at 1 to pick up golf clubs. I said no as P asleep and is my me time. He said he could posibly do 1215ish. I said why cant you come now, no reply. I said I take it you are not at home, then...no reply. Should I just let it go that he is sleeping at some girl's house and that is (obviously) why he couldn't visit yesterday eve as well? I just think that he should hold off until things are settled between the two of us. I know I shouldn't give a shit, and it's not like I want him...but I just find it really fucking rude that this is what he meant when he said he would be seeing less of the boys as he has to make time now to "make a new life for himself." Am stewing and I know that I will have a go at him when he does turn up. Do I get his golf clubs and shoes out and leave them outside and lock the door? I've been so bloody well-behaved in regards to his behaviour and I am SICK OF BEING THE GROWN UP!!! Rant over, back to your biscuits, ladies.

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Ewe · 06/12/2009 22:15

I would be feeling SO jealous and angry turtle, I think your feelings are entirely natural. It must feel so unfair to think that he gets to go and play at being free and single when you are so grown up and tied down all of the time. I know the thought of J moving out makes me feel irrationally angry at his potential for freedom and I am pretty lucky and get a good three nights a week to myself! You're doing amazingly well, just try and take pleasure in the fact that you are the Better Person and karma will restore equilibrium when he is least expecting it

I am one essay down and one almost finished with my deadline tomorrow, hurrah, did you want to meet up and bitch next week now I am free from the French Revolution and Printing Press!

merryberry · 07/12/2009 10:27

I've been thanking everyone all over the net for your wonderful donations to our Streetkids' Messiah (and using this as final chance to try and raise a couple more quid) . So thank you! The total of all sales and donations is rising past £6k, so good!

Here's the link, one last time. I PROMISE www.justgiving.com/streetkidsmessiah

pantshavenames · 07/12/2009 13:49

Quick duck in to say hello, DD is giving up her daytime nap, sob sob, but as she was up half the night teething is currently asleep on the kitchen floor, comforter in one hand, large stuffed flower in the other so I shall take 5 minutes to check in.
turtle your ex is an arse. does he not realise his 'new life' should be that of a single father first, louche lothario second. grrrr on your behalf.

How is everyone doing on the organising for christmas? I am ridiculously pleased with this for DD's stocking, especially as I'll probably play with it more than she does
Anyway, I'd better go wake up sleeping beauty before she gets welded to the kitchen floor with drool.

merryberry · 07/12/2009 18:26

sorry if that wasn't a rhetorical rant turtle. yes, he's an arse. i hope you being angry is quick and relatively painless.

conversation just took place behind me:

dm 'is there any question that doesn't end in no, gg?'
gg 'no'