April 2004 Toddlers - Babies no more!

[Yorkiegirl]

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Okay, I get the picture, I was talking rubbish

It applied to my two though!

Message for Mrs Doolittle in case you drop by (off topic), you're a clinical professional aren't you, I was just posting on this subject, when I thought that you might know something or could point me in the right direction?

MI

Sorry to hear about your Mum's heart problems, HMC (and welcome back to the thread!).

On the SAHM/working mother thing, I think they're both hard, in different ways. Agree that people who think being an SAHM is easy can't have looked after small children on their own for any length of time!

dolbear, your list idea is scary indeed - I'm not sure whether to try it or not!

I would like to be a SAHM, but I definitely know it wouldn't be easy! In a way I am one for the hext few weeks, as DH expects the house to be spotless when he gets home. Yeah right!
Do you like my new nickname?

Hi HMC, I think Flossam makes alot of sense in her post. Although, I should add that there are plenty more Mumsnetters who will know lots more than me on this matter, I'm based in University now.
I think it is obvious your Mother has not been followed up annd 'silent' MI or not she still has had a heart attack, other than that there appears to be no real picture of what state her heart is in which is why you need a tape and echo. She should also be on cardiac drugs, you haven't said if she is. I can't believe she was snet home without any.
May I suggest that you find out which Consultant Cardiologist your mother was under during her admisson? The team have slipped up here and you need to get onto them. Annoy his secretary and demand a response. I'm afraid to admit that all too often it is a case of 'he who shouts loudest'.

Glad to see you back on the thread though, it's a scary world 'out there' on the boards.

Chuffed, I am thinking I ought to buy a pair of maternity jeans/trousers for my travels. I'll be 13 weeks when we leave. If I get two pairs then I'll love in them.

Anyway, I have been as sick as a parrott for the last two days with D&V, dh and I have dd to thank for that! I haven't eaten for two days and dh is putting together beans on toast!

Wish me luck!

MrsD you are going to the States aren't you? I got a pair of maternity jeans last time from Motherhood under belly ones that look just like normal jeans at the back but have a thick rib just at the front that sits under the belly and they fitted quite well and will be what I'm taking around Eastern Europe along with the beige cords I got in the same bootleg style there. Otherwise you'll probably pick up some jeans in the next size up pretty cheap over there just leave room in your suitcase for them.

Thanks Chuffed. I was forgetting that would the best place to buy a pair of jeans of course. I'm not sure if we are going to have an opportunity to shop though, we have only got a few days and dh has already lined up a visit to a Jimmy Hendrix museum - can't say I'm excited.

Dd is cruising and has been for weeks now. As for walking she will not be rushed. Infact, she just sits down when she thinks she has done enough, she did this when dm and I were walking her between us in a park. She's pretty confident against the furniture and climbs the stairs with aplomb. I think she might be a teeny bit lazy.

Hello! We've got an exciting day lined up tomorrow - I've got the day off work and we're off to buy new shoes for the boys (their feet will insist on growing!) and a bra for me - I'm ashamed to say I'm still wearing my breastfeeding bras!!!

Couldn't be a full-time SAHM if you paid me..! I can do holidays, and lovely short weeks, but day in day out would drive me to the edge... (mind you, work's doing that at the moment - had to have an emergency gin and orange at 5pm when I got home today - has made tea time/bed time very easy to cope with!!)

Are you really thin now then Yorkiethingirl?
If so congratulations!, but also . How much have you lost?

Thanks Mrs D - where in the States are you off to btw? Bad luck on the d&v bug - it seems almost criminal suffering from a tummy bug during high summer (I tend to think of them as a winter thing mostly)

Dot - maybe you should splash out and buy 2 bras. Lol at you still being in breastfeeding bras!

Ds is growing into a really sweet little boy. I like the way he seems to need his cuddles more than dd does / ever did. He toddles off to go and do something and after a few minutes toddles back for a quick cuddle, then toddles off again. It's like he has to check in for a hug on a regular basis. DD by contrast is a loving (and lovely) child but sometimes too independent. It is nice to feel needed.

I only bought myself a new bra 2 weeks ago - had been in b/f bras too! Kept thinking I was going to lose weight and therefore should wait before splashing out.
Gave in as no weight lost!

TracyK,

I had the same thing with clothes - delayed buying stuff for my portly self because I thought I'd loose weight. Hasn't happened.

I went off to Rigby and Pellar a month after stopping bf and bought myself a bra then ordered two more on the internet that I had tried on only cheaper. I don't change size at all back went up from 32-24 by 40wks back to 32 after dd was born then same size bras afterwards. I'm one of those unlucky people that no matter how much weight I loose the chest does not change.
dot we need to find some sneakers as dd is in her sandals in this weather as her sneakers are too small just and the next size we have is a 6 which are too big so need to find a 5.5 cheap somewhere.
Managed to find a pair of new sandals for her thank goodness - did you find a pair Tracy?

Bras. I hated my breastfeeding bra, absolutely deplored it. I'm afraid I am one of those B&A types, with a hefty bra size of 34F! 34G at the moment and til I settle down with breast feeding.
I can't stand being without an underwire, I stayed with mine until dd was born and then back into them 3 weeks after.
Yes, I know you are not supposed to wear underwires when pregnant and breastfeeding but that's only because some women don't know how to wear wired bras.

i loathe breastfeeding bras too, have thrown all mine away, hurrah. i have full wardrobe of fat, fatter and slightly thinner clothes, am now back in the thinner ones so am happy. (it's all relative, am hardly Kate moss )

am having a hellish week. not only is Dp in Canada and girls all off school and childcare and holiday coming up on Fri, but now I have a job interview next Tues, in Exeter, but i will be on holiday in the Isle of Wight. plus the bastards want a presentation on something I know nothing about and I have no time between then and now when not in sole charge of 3 children (one teething, one tantrumming, all of us up since 4am today ) or in holiday caravan (presumably without internet access etc for researching presentations. feel very sad, i wanted that job but am not prepared to cancel family holiday. even if i did i still wound't have time to do the presentation preparation. not this week of all weeks. i am a nervous wreck due to the tantrum ferocity too.

bugger. am stuck in manchester for life

Chuffed - yes I got a pair of sandals off ebay size 5 - but too wee. Anyone want them?
Got sneakers from Next sale and Clarks - Clarks do half sizes.

Fennel - will they not rearrange the interview for you?

Tracyk - not sure, I am trying to phone them at the moment to see about rearranging but it's engaged. I am not sure that being on holiday demonstrates real commitment to the new job really, in their eyes.

trouble is, if i got the job it would be worth ruining a holiday for, but if i didn't get it i woudl be so pissed off about spoiling a family holiday. and it doesn't seem fair on dp and the kids and dsis etc who are all going too, to just cancel. we have about 46 weeks of the year which are dominated by work, i think the holiday weeks should be left alone.

Oh no cancelling the family holiday! - can't the family go without you and then you join them later after your interview?

Agree with Tracy - it might be worth ringing them to see if they will give you another date.

Maybe just say 'i'm out of the country next week' - of course they'll understand.
It's a perfectly reasonable reason not to go for an interview!

yes. does IOW count as abroad do you think? it's a ferry crossing anyway.

wish i was really abroad that would make the decision easier. (and it would be sunnier )

it's the principle too, family can't always come after work. even for me who likes work i am not prepared to do that to them really. and also, if they aren't flexible about this, do i wnat to work for them anyway....

I dunno, take it from me, there a strange lot the islanders (we live across the water from IoW) - seems like a foreign country!

I've done interviewing before and being on holiday is perfectly reasonable - in fact I think anyone that had rearranged because of hols - got the job - maybe just a co-incidence!
Plus at least they know your hols are over and done with - not starting and a month later taking hols off.iykwim.

blimey hello all
welcome HMC - i have ventured onto other threads , but after reading some of them i have been scared off joining in too much !!!!
re cruising ds was not interested at all i think he did it for well felt like only a couple of days
I am joining the p/time club as SAHM is starting to make me kranky not good 4 me or ds
why is it that when u r sah yr dh all of a sudden expects eveything 2 b spotless , ??? also starts 2 leave wet towels on the floor , and shaving bits in the sink , am now house servant also ?? as well as the occaisional comment like - cooker is looking a bit dirty or the stairs needs a hoover then , when he can not even get dressed wghen he is alone with ds rant rave raaa etc

hi dolbear - what part-time job have you got?
Hope you can work things out for next week Fennel

Listen, maybe you guys can tell me - why do you think it is that nobody seems to be interested in this?

Niger

Does everyone have compassion fatigue, or do you think that everyone is just quietly and unobtrusively getting on with donating to Niger without making a big song and dance about it? Or is mumsnet just quiet today?

Good for you dolbear on the part time job. Hope it works out better than the grotty garage experience with the 'orrible boss(that was you previous foray into part time work wasn't it?