January 2009 - Wiggly babies, wobbly mummies (well some of us) and never shall we all meet??

[LenniEd]

Reverse psychology...

oh no dog and tiger

good luck @ drs

we are off

Hi Dog so glad you decided not to disappear. Wouldn't be the same without you and you know we are all here for you. You have been there for me through maaaanny ups and downs over the past year and reiterating what the others have said, I for one am more than willing to do the same for you if you will let me.

Lenni sorry you are having it so tough at the moment as well. Am sending very un MN manly hugs and a big bunch of virtual flowers to you (bearing in mind your other thread which I have read but not subscribed to as yet).

Soccer sorry to hear about your relocation, hope you manage to find a beautiful new home really soon.

Been a really tough week here. Things really blew up when the landlady/aka my dad's girlfriend came to talk about the garden. Won't go into it all but suffice it to say it raked up a lot of stuff about my Dad's death (and his life for that matter) for me, as well as lots of stuff about us being trapped in this house and feeling desperate to move but being unable to and sent me spiralling down into a big 'ol black hole (lots of crying and stressing etc etc). Its taken me a few days to work through it all, but we are getting to grips with planning our new garden now and am actually managing to get interested/excited in it.

In other news, DS1 really does have swine flu this time. It was frightening how ill he got so suddenly (mild cold symptoms for about 12 hours followed by serious decline in just under an hour). I was scared to go to bed last night because he was wheezing so badly, in the end we set up the baby monitor in his room so that we could hear his every squeak. Neither of us slept a wink. Fortunately we still had the Tamiflu from when they misdiagnosed him last time and put him straight on it, as the collection point was closed from just about when he went downhill until 10.00 am on Tuesday morning! He is slightly better today, still has a temp, bad headache, nasty cough and is too weak to stand, so has been in bed all day, but the wheezing has improved, he has eaten (a whole punnet of strawberries and half a tin of tomato soup - it was what he requested) and is not too bad in himself despite it all. Just praying no-one else goes down with it now.

Sorry to those I've missed.

Hey moosey. Great to hear from you but sorry to hear about swine flu and garden. Sounds such a complicated situation regarding your house, but good to know that you are feeling better about it.
Dog camel park sounds like fun. How is Arlo's talking going? Hope he is still coming on leaps and bounds.
HKZ yay to building work starting. Hope its all done and dusted for you soon. When do your lovely new beds arrive? Have you looked on line for hippos stuff? Guess its one of those they won't deliver. Actually think you said it was discontinued so no help sorry.
Had a great day with family at the park and pub lunch. S on great form but ds1 a pig and think he is coming down with something. BIL arriving to visit and then when dh finally gets home from rugby at 9pm we are having x factr and a take away. Food focus is not pleased with me today.

Moosey Great to have you back!

Gumps Doing the X factor night here too- and just demolished a bar of chocoloate! Whoops! ... i win- OH wont be home from his match until 11pm or later! us sports widows! urgh!

Dog Glad your feeling bit better today. xx

X factor - thanks Gumps you might have saved my evening, if I haven't missed it already. Am pretty bored on my own now. Only 1.5 days left now though.

Thanks for listening to my ranting yesterday. Have calmed down - am completely shocked by their audacity over holiday rather than annoyed now. We can't cancel, hotel have confirmed today but they are willing to change dates as a goodwill gesture, are also willing to transfer us to their sister hotel which allows kids. I'm buggered if I'm giving up without a fight though, I wanted to go on my birthday not a month later - I think I am being a little childish on that point . I really don't see why they aren't offering to move their holiday since ours was booked first. My stubborness could cause a family row though if I'm not careful. There was no apology today either, subject came up briefly when MIL suggested FIL reimburse us for the holiday, FIL didn't comment. I think we might just take the kids and go for a week perhaps - can't face flight with two DCs just for 2 nights away. It's too much for my sister to look after 3 kids on her own, and with my PILs away there would be no one else to help out if anything happened. What would you do?

Moose Am so sorry to hear about trouble with land lady and garden and things. It must be hard for you with living with that arrangement. We have similar here, we live in a lovely inherited house, but we can't move and don't technically own the house, although we will at some point. The awkward part like you've experienced is when any work needs doing - we don't want to (and can't afford to) pay for it as its not our house but we also don't want other people to decide what we live with. It is so awkward. I love it here but once the DCs are teenagers I know I will want to move to the village, it will be hard for them being stuck up on the hill on their own.

Dog I am so glad you are still here. I would have missed you like crazy. Where is the camel place? Must add it to my list of places to go in May, sounds fab.

Hey everyone, busy packing here and will get in trouble for Mnetting so just being crafty and getting on quick.

Hey Moose, lovely to see you.

and Dog, lovely to see you are still here, glad a better day today.

Tiger, you are in the right about the holiday, don't forget that! Will be good to get away even if it is with kids.

Hey to the sports widows too, enjoy the takeaways and chocolate (how do you girls eat all that crap and still look fabulous [mystified].

Better bugger off now, DH looks suspicious!

Hia all.

moose good to hear from you, sorry to hear its been a tough week. I'm glad that you are managing to get exited about the new garden.

dog LOL at ice-cream endangerment! Camel park sounds lovely. I hope things keep looking up for you, but if you do feel bad, please don't hide away. That will only make things seem worse. You should always come here to chat. We would miss ya!

gumps I had forgotten about the x-factor! Hope ds1 feels better soon.

DH went to housing place yesterday and the woman took one look at the information he had (the same things they did the review with) and said that there was no way that we owed them a penny as DH simply hadn't earned enough. She said that they must have done the review WITHOUT looking at any of his information, WTF!!! He has to do a new claim but with any luck it should be ok. Our landlord should be cool with the next rent being late. When its all sorted I'm going to be writing a formal complaint. Am so with them. Apparently they mess up all the time and even sent a lady an eviction notice by mistake and she had a heart attack and died!

MIL and FIL were up today which was good. MIL has made a baby nest for DD out of a paddling pool which she has made a padded cover for, its lovely and DD thinks its great. BIL up tomorrow with his girlfriend.

Went to shrink yesterday and he has discharged me. I told him how I felt a couple of weeks ago but that I was feeling fine again now, but said I was worried because my mood may swing back down again. He says that it is to be expected because of previous problems with depression and anxiety. Its left me feeling a bit scared really and a sense of inevitable and impending misery! I'l just have to get through the bad times as best as I can. At least I will appreciate the good times.

Sorry for mammoth post!!

tiger about holiday, thats bang out of order!

moose so sorry forgot to ask, hows ds1 doing now?

I also forgot to ask after DS1 Moose - hope he is better now. And hope you are feeling a bit brighter too.

Dog That is a great suggestion re:nursery as by then DD will be at pre-school so could prob swap days around. Have a bad feeling my birthday falls in easter hols though...

Furry Am really shocked that they could mess up so badly but pleased it's all sorted for you. Sorry to hear about counsellor discharging you - are you sure you are ready for that?

Birthday in easter hols - grrr. I had high hopes. I think I am going to suggest to DH that we take the kids and he will just have to look after them for me on my birthday so I can lie in and read the papers in bed (my burning ambition after Gumps managed it! The more I think about it the mre I realise leaving them with my sister is not an option - she wouldn't be able to get them all in her car for a start so would be confined to the house pretty much. If she had two and we were leaving one it would be okay, but I wouldn't have coped with 2 more when I just had DD I don't think.

He was a psychiatrist so only saw him a few times and not for very long each time. I think it'l be ok as I still have access to crisis team via GP. If things get really rough again I reckon I will get referred for some kind of counseling. I'm really glad he didn't put me on AD's though. He though the side effects would outweigh any usefulness because I don't feel bad all of the time.

Am off to bed, hope everyone has a good nights sleep.

Thanks for asking guys. DS1 is sleeping better tonight, still very hot and coughing lots, but much more on the planet and a lot less wheezy, I think getting the Tamiflu into him straight away must have helped because he was so poorly and going downhill fast this time last night.

Had my own little health scare this week as well. Got a letter to call my GP about the bloods they took after my stomach episode thing. Called, expecting them to say I was a bit anaemic at worst, only to be told my liver function is really 'out of whack' (obviously a very technical medical term used by the GP there ) my sedimentary rate was raised (meaning I was fighting an infection) and they couldn't make sense of the results but something was obviously not right. Was told to go straight back to the hospital for repeat bloods and additional blood tests that day and they would be sending me an appointment for a liver scan which should come through before my gastro appointment. She told me to book an appointment with one of the other GPs to discuss the results as she is on holiday next week, but the first appointment I could get was for Monday the 7th. Since then I have found out that the acid inhibitors I'm on can in rare cases cause liver damage which is reversible, but as I'd only been on them for four days when they took the blood samples I don't think that could be it. Not really sure what to think now to be honest.

Lenni the PILs thing is a nightmare isn't it. Mine have driven me up the wall this week. They kept phoning to come round including calling to see if I was in when I was just on my way out the door to the hospital (heard the answermachine message as I locked the door) then turned up anyway and were peeved because we were out. Next day they were cross because we had to go out and do the whole new school shoes and school bags, pencil cases etc shop so couldn't see them then, then the next day they called and I told them we were going out on a picnic with my Mum to a local park. They called an hour later to say 'where are you, we're at the park with sil and dnephew and you're not here'! So, gritted my teeth, invited them to 'pop in' as we had yet to make the sandwiches and dh would be home any minute so they'd get to see him too. So they came round and stayed and stayed and stayed, then announced they were coming back to the park with us! Followed them to the park but felt we couldn't eat our picnic as there wasn't enough for everyone, but by 3 o'clock the boys were starving so had to feed them. At which point MIL has a tantrum, says we should feed DN, even though SIL says he won't eat anything and they have to go anyway. So I give him half of each of the boys sandwiches which he promptly says yuk to and throws on the grass! Offered to share mine and Mum's sandwiches with PILs but instead MIL has a strop and says 'No thank you we are leaving' and strops off to the car park! Irony is that DS1 came down with swine flu the next day and was probably infectious when they invited themselves along on our picnic! DH rang to tell them this and they were really cross! Can't win really can I? I was reading a thread earlier about some PILs that refuse to not eat peanuts around their dgs who has a life threatening allergy. I think some of us are just unlucky with the PILs we are dealt and all we can do is try to work around it as best we can. I try to be as reasonable and courteous as I can but sometimes it really does drive me insane when I can't do right for doing wrong with them.

Oops sorry, huge post - ah well, you know me, why use one word when 20 will do!

Sorry to hear your ds is ill Moose, hope he gets better soon. And grrr at difficult inlaws (yours and Tiger's).

We arrived safely in Ilkley but had a very difficult last few hours at home, as dp did his usual appalling tantrums when we're getting ready to go anywhere thing. How do you get it through to someone who is supposed to be an adult that shouting, saying really nasty things, swearing etc in front of a two year old and a baby (who will be soon old enough to get as upset as ds1 does by all this crap) is totally unacceptable. AND THAT HE COULD SIMPLY NOT DO IT. Sorry, I'm getting angry just thinking about it again.

Oh Elkie, that sounds hard. Perhaps someone else needs to tell him? If it's any help my DH does tend to strop and shout when he's stressed out, so you are not alone. But definately sounds like you need to address it as you sound upset.

Morning!

Moose- Hope DS1 better today, and you and Dh got better nights sleep.

Elkie- I can wholly sympathise, my DH is given to diva-like strops when stressed or going somewhere. He is never nasty or sweary though, but shouty and it does bother me so I can see why you are upset. Very childish behaviour imo so I treat it with the contempt it deserves. Have a nice break despite that though won't you!

Furry- glad the money situation sorted-what a cock-up! So the right thing for your DP to do to go down there. Hope you are somewhat less worried. Hope all the emotional stuff gets better, I am sure you can just ask your gp to refer you if you feel you need it again, hope you don't though.

Anyway, had to come on this morning because I forgot to put yesterday that we have clapping and waving going on! It's so sweet! the waving has been coming on for a few weeks bot looks more developed this weekend. the clapping started yesterday in the car when DD, DH and I were clapping along to the Ting-tings (one of DD's faves). He does it all the time now (except when you want him to obviously).
He has also learnt how to cruise from the sofa to the armchair..........bad times........could he not at least wait till 8 months for that business.

morning all

i keep meaning to be active on this thread but with a 5 yr old and a 7 month old i just dont seem to be able to sit down long enough to catch up on the thread and actually post anything!

so am determined to try again, so here i am

my LO was born 13th Jan, so he is now 7 months old.

ok must post this now ! and will try catch up!

Hi everyone... Right, am just going to steam on with this as I keep spending ages trying to catch up with the thread, and then just as I post, something else comes up... usually in the form of a grumpy 7 month old .. I can only hope this is teething - he's just really upset unless he's distracted by something, gums def seem tender and swollen but no sign of a tooth... but worse still, he is biting down on my nipple with his gums and then pulling away [very painful face] ! If he does that with teeth, there will be trouble!

Does anyone think those powders work? Have teething gel, calpol, ibuprofen, the works...

tiger (you will always be Lenni to me) how crap of your PIL - hard to stay calm under the circumstances. Hope you come up with a good solution. I know, I'll have them!

Are you still coming on the 6th? Sorry, I didn't mean to ignore that, it's just I am almost def off to London on the 5th for a few days. But sorely tempted to rethink and go on the 7th. I have a meeting about (whispers) c b b on the 8th. Anyway, if you and pat keep me in the loop about plans I can meet up with you if I am still here. Would love to!

pat yey for waving and clapping, that is too cute. N has finally been crawling properly after commando moves for a month, although how he gets his fat little belly into the air at all I don't know.

soccerette great that you are altogether again, and hope you find somewhere nice soon. The thought of looking for a lovely new place makes me feel quite excited, but I suppose after 3 in 3 years, the glamour wears off!

Sorry, grumpy is calling again so no time for more. Will do my best later. Miss you all. Have a fun Sunday. x

Another moment... furry surprised that you have been discharged just like that - would have been nice to have some ongoing support.

eppm any more info about those omega oils? Not sure I am getting enough. I am same as you with BLW, doing a mix as he just wasn't bothering to ingest much - quite happy playing with food, but nothing really going down - and the constant bf-ing is knackering me out. STILL every 3 hours at night. Proper feeds too, not just 2 minutes comfort suckling.

elkie sorry to hear about DP tantrum - wasn't sure I read that right at first - my Dad was the same - something weird to do with anxiety about leaving familiar environment (we think he is prob somewhere on the autism spectrum, but obviously only very mild).

heron good to hear from you. Drop in when you can, we don't mind! (I am very crap at keeping up and everyone nicely seems to tolerate me)

dog yey for kitten - will be great and lots of fun!

tree and boden are you getting excited about starting school yet? I only need to think about packing N off for his first day at school and I well up!