May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

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this too shall pass!

Jennster at least one of us has penises on her mind

DH and I got frisky after step-sis's wedding and I then remembered I'd not taken my pill for 2 days Bf-ing should mean I'm ok - I hope so - not ready to be pg again yet!

spangle- let's hope BF will save you . There's only 12 months between my sis and me and a friend of mine has an 11 month gap between her two!

Well S decided he wasn't going to feed from my right boob for 3 feeds in a run today, but would feed from the left- what's that all about?! It's like tummums G refusing another bottle after he's had one- fussy aren't they- it's all food so why so picky! Luckily i've expressed so i'm not engorged. Time for bed now. S has slept through til 5.10 and 3.50 the last 2 nights (records for him) so fingers crossed for another good night. Night night everyone.

Oh Spangle, I do hope you will be OK. My best friend got pregnant when her DD was 3 months old. She thought exclusive breastfeeding would protect her. She now has two DDs 12 months apart.

febes I had a look at the link and I love it. I'm going to show DH later, I'm sure he'll like it too.

Tummum I think DS2 is refusing the odd feed. He used to feed whenever I offered it to him but now he is being a little fussier.

Dandy welcome back, I missed you!

We cancelled our September holiday today. It was my suggestion as I really don't think we should close the business just 2 weeks after moving into our new business premises. It is also a very busy month for the trade, so going on holidays would just be silly. I'm looking for a long weekend in Derbyshire instead, as I want to indulge my love of all things Mitford with a trip to Chatsworth.

Watching Top Gear on Sky + with Boris Johnson. DS's hair is just like his. I often call him my little Boris.

Off to soft play tomorrow for lunch with my friend and her two DDs. It is a great play venue as it has a great big wooden pirate ship outside so we need not feel too guilty for taking them to soft play in summer.

Spangle believe me they are only on mind. Dh had his appointment with the young, female, newly qualified GP. He just has to make the appointment himself.

Eek! I remembered the other day I got pg with H after a wedding almost exactly a year before my step sis's wedding and thought it would be a strange twist of fate...

We did discuss me getting a MAP but I'm sure it would mess with bf-ing, and since H won't take a bottle anyway, we decided not to bother. I'm 99% certain I'm not, last time I had symptoms by now, but if I start feeling funny I'll go wee on a stick

Via the NHS booking service doodaa for his vasectomy that is. Rather criptic that last post.

Dandi I wasn't having a go at you in any way...
what did you mean by you won't rehash it?
I actually liked hearing your opions. hearing being the wrong word but you know what I mean lol because I've felt it was my mom in the wrong, and I think I've got from what you were saying that you think my aunt was too?
I just can't let it go, there was so much more we could have done on that Monday. Even though they'd already spent the Saturday+sunday with them, and my aunt had promised that they'd be visiting and spending the day with us Monday, if my Mom felt that they were missing out or whatever and wanted to come then that would have been fine, but the only people who ended up missing out were me and my DC. My little girl was so so upset, we had trouble getting her to sleep to 2 nights. She now refuses to go and visit her nanny's house, she turned round and said "If she won't come to our house, then I won't go to her house", and that is so unlike her, but she was so upset, after waiting in allday for a visit, and no-one coming to see her.
I'm just upset still, I hate falling out with people. I'm not having a go at you in any way at all.
I know I'm only young and I have alot to learn still about things, alots just getting on top of me, but that on mOnday really did it for me, I would never have done that at all. If i plan something with someone I stick to my plans, and try to accomadate everyone. And I definately wouldn't drive 200miles down south and be half an hour away from family members all day and not pop in... please be gentle with me, I am only 22

I don't mean to sound so grouchy everyone, really. Thankyou for understanding. I'm sorry to keep mentioning it. I just don't have anyone to speak to it about in RL.

Morning everyone,

Blimey Dandy, You were up late last night!

jael I hope you can put the incident behind you soon. It is not healthy and also a bit pointless to keep going over and over it again. My PIL regularly drive 1h to where we live only not to visit us but other friends/relatives. We used to be dissapoinged, but we've learnt to accept that they're a bit odd like that

tummum my ds did exactly like your lo. It led to us introducing solids at 16 weeks and tbh it didn't make any difference whatsoever. Unfortunately nothing but waiting for him to grow out of it and CC at 9m when it became clear that waiting wasn't the way to go. It seems to be quite common for babies to stop going through the night at 4m. I hope you get some more sleep soon. Also it's very common for los to stop using the bottle. I made that mistake with no1&2, so with C I've made the effort to try and introduce it early enough + continue to give her a bottle regularly. spangle I'm using a no2 teat which C seems to like better than the no1 kind.

llare sorry to hear about your holiday. It does sound sensible to concentrate on the business this early in it's life. I hope you'll have a nice weekend away instead.

spangle I'm crossing my fingers for you.

Well, today is my last day in this house. I'm aching everywhere from moving and lifting boxes. I need to finish it all today and then tomorrow we'll be off to Belgium.

we were dissapointed not dissapoinged.

Belgian thanks for the advice on the sleeping. I'm going out to buy some different bottles this morning, as I am determined to get the little blighter to take some formula. I'm hoping it will help him sleep through the night but, more importantly, I am feeling very tied to him being the only one that can feed him, so might help by DH feeding him occasionally.

Dandy IKWYM about holidays being absolutely exhausting. I can't wait for the school hols to be over as my DC are driving me absolutely crazy. I did laugh at your DD calling you a poo-poo head as it is a common saying in my household (which sends the DC straight to the naughty step!)

Llare about holiday canx, but I think it's the right decision. Sounds like things are really taking off which is great news. Do you think the business would support you working there too, sometime in the future?

Spangle keeping my fingers crossed for you !

I had a blimmin' awful night with G up 5 times (5!!), DH waking me up when he came up to bed and when he woke up to go to work and DD1 having a nightmare. I am feeling surprisingly awake at the moment, but will probably collapse in a heap at about 4pm this afternoon.

Just a quickie, so please can I be excused from name-checking? You all talk loads in 10 days!!

We're back at home now, spent loads of time with my family. Although the funeral was obviously really sad, it was great to see my family for so long, and DD1 had a whale of a time with her grandparents and great grandma. Glad to get home though, my bed is so much nicer than anyone else's!

I'll try to cathc up with what's been going on, but might not be able to. We've still got to unpack the car!

tummum If you're going to buy different bottles it might be a good idea to try the Early Years Breast Flow Bottle. It's got a special double teat and babies are supposed to use a technique more similar to bf when they feed from it. Both my eldest did reject the bottle for different reasons though: ds couldn't get to grips with the technique, while dd1 didn't like the feel of silicon teats, which back then were much harder. (The tommee tippee ones didn't exist yet) She did much better with latex, but refused to take the bottle from anyone but me, which sort of defeated the point of giving her one in the first place. So it might be an idea to have a little think about what G doesn't like about the bottle and go for a bottle/teat that addresses that problem.
I hope you'll have a better night tonight. It might be an idea to go to bed with them tonight.

dandy I think having 3 works in my favour in the hols. They entertain eachother and notice the fact that I'm holding/feeding C often much less. But I will be glad when they're back. I'm a bit fed up with having mess and toys everywhere and I'm looking forward to a tidy living room again.

Anyway. I came online to look up the vet's tel number, but instead my clicking finger went to MN. Better run off.

dandy, yes, my DH had a vasect in Jun. he's recovered by now but we still haven't had 'relations'. we need to use protection still (until he provides a sample that indicates all clear) - don't want any accidents!

poor DH, i have absolutely no desire for sex. i even cringe when he touches my arm or tries to cuddle . i really hope this feeling passes as i love my dh - just not physically attracted at this moment. Please tell me some of you feel this way, I'm not alone!

flippin, glad you're back.

llare, right decision on cancellaton. about Boris Johnson hair.

tummum, 5 times ! hope you get some rest today.

pula, was it you mentioning thread for 4/5 mos waking up? must go find... Harper was awake at 3.30am, quick feed, 'talked' to herself about 10 min, fussed so i put her down in the spare room where she fell back asleep till 730. not too bad.

spangle, try not to worry. it's a risk, yes, but chances are low, right?

Belgian, good luck packing. hope all ok with calling vet as well .

I should log off as soon as H finished feeding. DD1&2 at inlaws till tomorrow so trying to clean their room, freshen up from CP days. it's quiet without them!

Belgian good luck with the packing.

Llare it's a shame to cancel the holiday but sounds like the right decision. Sometimes holidays are more stress than they're worth, particularly with your own business. DH always runs up phenomenal phone bills when we're away and a visit to a world landmark is often accompanied by a phone call from one of his joiners.

I'm not worried about being pg. I really think the chances are low - I forgot to take a pill the night before the wedding, so my body wouldn't have even noticed the lack of hormones until, say, the evening, then it would have had to ripen an egg and pop it out pretty quickly. It's possible, but unlikely. Anyway, I wouldn't be distraught at the idea of a 2nd DC (DH would though!) but I'd prefer to give my body (and my sleep!) a bit of a break first.

Dandy I struggle with early nights too, though I'm not as late as you - left to myself I'd go to bed about midnight. When I was/will be working, I have to get up between 5.45am and 6.15am depending on where I'm going, and I HATE, HATE, HATE it! I think I prefer being woken in the night than having to be out of the house at 6.30am.

Dandi I couldn't have got to the farm at all, as DP was still at work, and had the car, carseats etc. My mom did know this. We had mentioned the carvery at first ages ago, but on the day DP knew we would be eating with them "at some point" so thought he would cook for them instead. In his eyes, by the time he'd get home from work, at 5:45, they'd be at our house, as they were supposed to be spending the day with me all day, so a two second change of plan there, I don't think would have been any problem, he'd bought wine etc, if they hadn't have liked his idea, then fair enough. I had explained earlier to my mom and my auntie, that I didn't think we'd be able to go the the carvery with them as my DD had had such a busy WE with her GP that she'd been fighting tiredness allday which is unlike her,shes got so much energy normally. But she had been getting up at 5am with him and not going to bed until 9-10pm rather than getting her 12hours a night! I knew that if we went to the carvery, she would just be too tired and way too grumpy, that and the fact that we'd mentioned the carvery for dinner in the first place, as it was somewhere not very expensive for dinner, and the nice thing to do when you have family over is pay for dinner/make dinner etc now everyone wanted to go to the carvery 12 people I think I worked out last night, we'd have to pay for everyone...when the original plan was just my family and my aunt+uncle+co...as my Mom+dad+brothers, had spent all of Saturday, and all of Sunday doing things with them, I think if you knew them, you'd probably understand a little more. DP probably thought it was best to cook for them, that and the fact he used to be a chef, and people like him cooking for them.
Yes my daughter is probably picking up on my negative energy, because I am still very upset. because I would never do anything like this. My DP and myself drive 200 miles down south several times a year to go and visit over 30 members of my family, and we don't miss anybody out. I would never drive all the way down there, and be half an hour away from somebody allday, somebody who you know has two small children, spends alot of time by herself, was sitting in allday Monday waiting for a visit like originally planned, but instead, listen to my Mom, and decide to go to a farm for an hour. It just makes me angry, because I know that if they actually want to see our son, then weve got to drive all the way down there to see them, even though they wee here allday Monday! And it will probably be christmas now when they see him...DD is fine now, she's forgotton all about it, until she see's all the photos etc, she's really sensitive.

Morning folks.

A bit here. Our sofa which we ordered at Easter (long story) is supposed to arrive this afternoon. This morning the armchair that the company loaned us when they cocked up our original order was supposed to be picked up before 9am. Got up early despite a crappy night with A and They hven't turned up. Have now been waiting in all morning and have missed my one planned activity for the week - a taster baby yoga session which I was really looking forward to Now have to wait in all pm for the sofa to be delivered as it will be 'sometime' between 1 and 4pm! How annoying.

Speaking of sleep, A has reverted back to only sleeping on chests or in our bed since the hol. Aaaargh. I just hate her crying so chicken out of letting her cry at all. Am I really making a rod for my own back as some RL friends have suggested or shall I just wait until she's a bit bigger to try to get her to sleep on her own. She still feeds 2hourly or more during the day and 3 hourly at night and is 12 weeks on Thurs. We have tried putting her down sleepy, shush patting, etc but putting her down seems to wake her up without fail. In fact, having typed all that I think I am going to head over to the sleep area and do a post to see what advice is out there.

llare shame you had to cancel your hol but I think it does sound like for the right reasons.

dandy spangle am completely the opposite to you, I am at my best early morning and usually in bed by 9pm even without a lo to get up for in the night.

Belgian good on you for the packing. I have total sympathy after our 24 hour notice of moving back in March and we didn't have DC's to contend with back then. We're still unpacking some boxes! Hope the move is ok and have a fabulous time in Belgium, I hope you get the chance for some relaxation/you time while you are there. Thanks for the lovely comment on hol snaps too.

Hello to everyone else! Expect I'll be back a lot this pm given I'm just haning about the house. Haven't even got any washing to do as I was too damn efficient over the weekend and did all of it

Dandy and Belgian thanks for the tips on different bottles. Will head to the shops and take a look

Monimo I am so glad you mentioned you weren't interested in relations. I am not at all, and although DH is being patient, I am feeling a bit distant from him because of it. I don't feel the urges at all , and that's why I am thinking of giving up on the BF malarky, and also because I want my body back. Having SPD and AND in pregnancy means we haven't done it for around a year.

Running at delivery men. What a PITA.

Rant alert... do you remember the hassle I got in getting my employer to send me childcare vouchers when I am on SMP. Well, they rolled over in the end, but guess what... they have not sent my vouchers this month. I am so . It shouldn't be this difficult. Having had bugger all sleep, then dealing with neighbour row, incompetent employers and then the study bookcase toppling on me and files bashing my head, I am feeling pretty . I phoned them, and apparently the woman who is dealing with it is on holiday, and won't be able to sort it for 2 weeks, and no-one else could possibly sort it out in her absence. This is an employer of 50,000 people !!!! I took out my rage on the caravan, which is now clean and sparkly ! But am still angry! So the study will be my next target

Hello (sheepish emoticon)

I feel so bad I haven't been on here in ages, I really do see MN as a lifeline sometimes, and its so good to talk to people going through the same thing. Am I allowed back? Pleeease?

Me & M update - ok, so I've officially got PND, but only mildly. GP and HV lovely, v supportive. DP blames himself, and is now doing more to help with M and makes sure we do lots of nice things. M is practically totally formula fed, which means more SLEEP - she is only waking once at night now, so its not too bad. Only thing is now she has terribly dry skin (both DP and I are eczema-y, so no wonder) so we're off to the GP's this afternoon to get lots of nice creams and things. No doubt the formula is probably playing a part too, so may have to change. Hey ho.

Thank you to all those who said happy birthday to me on facebook a few weeks ago - we had a rainy weekend in Norfolk!!! (Facebook is the only thing I can really 'get' to online these days, and even then, only for 2 mins! Dandy - saw your 'hello' the other day, but was at my parents on my Dad's pc, and Mum came in being all nosey so I had to shut down, ggrr)

Also.... and here's one thing that has been a HUGE shock - remember I failed my re-submission on my PhD - and I was arsing about whether to appeal or not? Well, I did, and I won!! I get another chance, have to re-submit by 1st December, which is do-able, Mum is going to come over loads and look after M for me. Yay for appeals - Dandy - I saw a while back you won yours for your dd's school - you must be SO thrilled, am v happy for you!

Life up here is ok, I've been to a few mum and baby groups and have felt a right twat - the first one I went to I felt very naughty as I asked for sugar in my tea, and was told 'oh, we don't do sugar in this house' Bugger off. Still, am going to my parents a fair bit as I still have to sort out a wedding - ie, mine! 31 October - its not far now, eek! Friends keep popping by too, so not too bad I spose. Who was it that lived near my brother in Roade - was it you, Tummum? We should sort something!

Anyway, that's me. Hope I'm allowed back in the thick of things now! Think I'll go and have a cup of tea.....