May 2009 - This too shall pass.. from leg warmers to pennies

[Momino]

this too shall pass!

evening all.
didn't watch xfactor, got out dvd 'in the loop' which was quite funny. I'll have to watch xfactor rerun when it's on.

belgian, I know what you mean about stress rubbing off on your DC's. it happens here too. you're very ambitious to try to pack whilst looking after 3. hope you're able to get some of it done.

llare, christmas? now? actually, I've always wanted to do my xmas shopping this early but am the type of person who can only get things done last-minute when deadlines are looming in front of me.

BLW, with dd1&2 we did a combination of finger foods and puree stuff.

pula I want your bed!!!

looby, so exciting about the campervan!

all, i'm off to bed. still no spots on Harper. I saw a few tiny ones yesterday but they're gone today so must have been heatrash or something. she's bright as a button and 'talking' lots (ie, ahhh, ahh, ahh)

good night all.

Morning everyone,

DD1 came down with the sock ons this am when she got up. I knew she had something to do with their dissapearance.

DS is going away to his best friend's b'day party today. In a way it will be a bit of a goodbye party for him too

I'm slightly less stressed out today. Once ds has gone I'm going to argos to buy some boxes. I've decided that will be the least stressful and quickest way to acquire some boxes. momi I haven't got a choice but to do the packing with the 3 dcs around.

BLW I've read some more in the book and the spoon feeding battles with ds came back to mind. It all seems to make so much sense. With dd1 I seem to have naturally done a combined thing and so this time around it'll be true BLW.

momi good to see that H still is cp free. Hopefully she's escaped them.

pula I want a super king sized bed too!

Oh and looby have fun with your campervan. Camping/caravanning is so much fun with lo's. They always meet lots of friends.

Belgian Are you on Freecycle? People give them away on there all the time. Are there any SOLD signs in your area? You could knock and see if they've moved and have the boxes still.

Gorgeous day here. I went to a car boot sale this morning and got a great fisher price famr yard with all the animals and tractors. They also had the garage set and the firestation but I resisted buying them too. I kinda wish I had now as DD loves the farm yard and her birthday is in 3 months I could have kept some till then. Oh well lots more chances to collect plastic tat in weekends to come.

Both DCs are napping although I can hear DD chatting to herself. Yesterday Rueben had a one hour nap in the morning and a 2 hour nap in the afternoon which is so good for him. He went down this afternoon without a fight as well. Maybe we have turned a corner on the naps. Hooray!! It still takes over an hour to get him down at night and I usually have to feed him to sleep but hopefully it will improve as well.

Looby your camper van sounds fab. Me and DH went campervanning along the Garden Route in South Africa the year we got married in his grandparents VW combi van it was so brilliant. One night we had to braai (bbq) in the pouring rain and then sit in the van from 7pm, soaking wet clothes hanging up everywhere, drinking box wine. Another night we had a yummy meal with lots of drinks and were sleeping in the van at the beach and we woke up at 4am really thirsty and only had coke so DH jumped the front and drove to a garage to buy water while I was still lying in bed.

Beligan Don't you find the DCs are always more needy/whiney when you have to get on with stuff. DD puled the overflow pipe out from under the sink yesterday and flooded the cupboard under the sink. While I was sorting it out she became a cling on on my back, whiney and moaning and climbing on me. When it came to bath time I couldn't find her as she was happily playing in the garden.

jennster I'm on freecycle. I didn't think of looking for boxes on there. Once we get there I might put some stuff on there, but everything is so short notice (got to be packed/binned/donated by Tues) that I just can't do it now. I need to know that they'll pick things up tomorrow and that's asking a bit much I think.

Got my boxes now and ds is at b'day party. I'll be bad mummy for a bit and let dd1 go on the computer to keep her quiet and hopefully C will cooperate too.

Well I'll carry on now with packing.

Hiya everyone. Weve had such a lovely weekend here took DD to the cinema for the very first time yesterday, which she absolutely loved, and then we stumbled across a very nice park, so we had our lovely picnic there. And then today we've had lunch out and took baby J swimming for the first time with DD, which he absolutely loved! So in all, a very successful weekend, been a VERY long time since weve had one, with me being so poorly, so I'm very happy. DP is making paella too, yum

My mom has apolagised about everything that happened on monday, but to tell you the truth I'm still quite P.O, and I don't think I'm stupid, for still feeling like this. My auntie and Uncle have only ever driven down here 3 times in the last 20 years, as my uncle is in a wheelchair, so it's always us that have to go down there and visit, so to come all the way down here, and not visit us, is a big deal, as I know that the only way they will end up seeing baby J next is when we make the effort to drive all the way down there, if you get me? So that's still really really on my mind. They know that we don't have a very lot of money, to drive down to their house costs £70+ worth of fuel and thats alot of money to us, especially when for the whole day monday I was sitting in the house allday with my DC's doing nothing, and they were half an hour away all day...My moms excuse when I said to her, well why did you have to go to the farm knowing that I couldn't get there, when theres a perfectly good park not far away from my house, with birds and everything in, and it was a lovely day monday,was, "I didn't think..." which I think is a lame excuse...they only managed an hour at the farm too by the time my mom had finished work which is even funnier, what was the point in going?! Right I'm going....Sorry for my vent again...Jael X

Dandilioness I think why I'm P.O is the fact that my Mom,dad brothers etc had all spent Saturday at a theme park with them and Sunday doing something else with them already. Monday, as pre-arranged beforeand with them, was supposed to be my day with them so they could meet our new addition, and so our girls could play together. But instead, my Mom decides it's a better idea for them to go the farm, but she doesn't finish work until 2pm, so therefore making them wait around in their tiny little town for four hours (perfect opportunity to come visit us) but no, my mom wouldn't suggest that, because we live half an hour away from their house, and that's too far away to drive....so by the time they get to the farm there's an hour before it closes. The farm is about half an hour from my house too. There wasn't any need to go to the farm, when it was a gorgeous day and we could have all walked to the park, and seen all the birds and animals there...but "she didn't think".
As for driving, I would love to learn to drive, but can't because of my panic attacks, until they're under control, no-one will teach me to drive.
My partner as far as he was aware, and thats what I thought was happening too, believed that we were spending Monday with my Auntie+co, as my Mom had already spent the SAt+sun with them, we knew we were going to eat something. There would have been noway we could have had enough food to feed 12 people, let alone fit them in the house.

Febes, love Mia's pictures on FB. Would buy one straight away if I had the spare cash. She's very talented.

will catch up a bit later. still haven't eaten. hope you all had a good weekend.

Momino Mia's says thanks she is my SIL who lives with us and won't be able to work in 2 weeks as her visa requirements means she can only work for a year. So she is going to try to sell her paintings on ebay and markets around london. My MIL is also an artist who sells painting for a living in SA.

Febes I think I'll have to see if I can have a look at those pics on FB.

Well, got half the house packed up. Seeing empty shelves has finally made it click with the dcs that it it really happening. Ds is feeling sad. It is sad, because he has a true best friend up here, but I'm sure he'll soon find another good friend down there.

Time to do a little bit of relaxing now and watch a little telly before bed. Tomorrow is my last chance to do 1 more bit of packing and after that I'm off to Belgium. Remember the hypnotherapy CD's? Well I had to use some of those techniques to be able to sleep last night . I might not have used it during my fast and furious labour, but I have had use for it now!

jael IMHO it sounds like it was all a big misunderstanding and probably not 1 person is to blame. A farm and a park are 2 different things though. If I promissed my dcs a trip to the farm and ended up at the park they would really complain.

OMG, Belgian, last night I did the same thing: use natal hypnotherapy to get back to sleep. '3, 2, 1... relax'.

Ah, Jael, the situation has really touched a nerve, hasn't it? I come from a big family and we have a lot of such misunderstanding so I know what you mean. I hope you and your mom can settle things between you.

had a quiet day here as DD1&2 are at the inlaws. It was really nice to feel like a one child couple again. However, it's too quiet without the toddlers . as difficult and high maintenance as they are, I do miss them!

Febes I love the work in progress. How do we find them on Ebay.

running Just saw your holiday pics on F/B. They're lovely. Looks like you had a good time.

monino Funny is both using hypnotherapy to get to sleep. I know what you mean with it being too quiet with the dcs gone.

Evening all. Had a hectic weekend, catching up with some friends in Norwich and being (sort-of) involved in a neighbourly dispute. Yuk. I hate confrontation and conflict.

BLW I think I am going to stick with what I know and go for purees. I am having a few problems with G's feeding that are bugging me. He has gone from sleeping through the night at 3-4 weeks, to waking up 3 to 4 times for some food. I think it's linked to him getting hungry and also he is not feeding properly during the day. He feeds for a couple of minutes, then pulls off either crying or to have a good old look around, and he won't go back on again to either boob. After the initial success of the bottle of formula, G is now refusing bottles, so my grand plan for giving him formula as the last feed of the night has not worked out. Is anyone else experiencing the same thing?

Belgian/Monimo I too have been using the relaxation techniques after being woken up at night to get back off to sleep. Glad the CDs were useful for something

Dandilioness Well I think it was for me to decide, I think I should have at least had a say it in. Why should it of been all their decision? My Mom, by herself, decided to go to the farm, and yes, basically told them what to do, and when I have spoken to my Aunt at a later date she has said that my Mom arranged it all, and she didn't want to go against my mom's wishes so she did as she was told basically.
I think whether the park close to me has "Farm animals" or not in neither here or there. They all kno that I have not long had my operation, and life has been really s* for us recently, it was a beautiful day, at least I could have walked to the park with them, it's not a horrible park, it's really nice. My mom only decided to take them to the farm on the Monday morning. I'd already discussed previously with my Auntie that as we unfortunately wouldn't be available Saturday and sunday to see them, would Monday be ok, two weeks before, and she had said yes.
So to get up on Monday morning, thinking as previously arranged, DC and myself would spend the day with them. I had got them all ready, and DD who is only 3 had got toys and everything ready to see her little cousin. Only for my mother to decide, no I've got a better Idea, we'll go to the farm instead....but fine ok, I'm being unreasonable, and everything is my fault.

Jael- i can totally see your point of view, and I have a very similar mother who also "just doesn't think". I think what Dandylioness was saying was that your aunt and uncle could have stuck to the original plan and met up with you rather than just do what your mum had told them to do.

{snigger} I just misread the title of this thread as 'This too will pass, from legwarmers to penises'

Mia's art on ebay Hope this link woks as I haven't done one before.

I have learnt a new skill. .

Tummum H took a bottle in the beginning but doesn't seem to know what to do with it now (mind you, I only have size 1 teats, so that probably doesn't help). If you look in the sleep section, there is a 4/5 month old (lack of) sleep club - seems it's a classic time for babies to start waking & wanting feeds in the night because they are too distracted in the day to feed properly. Some days I struggle with feeding H, which has been more stressful since I got him weighed & saw he is slipping down the chart. But he's generally a very happy bunny so I'm trying to be chilled about it all as I think they can tell when we get stressed.

Jael I can completely understand why you were pissed off. It's hurtful that your mum didn't think a bit more clearly about your feelings, particularly as you've had such a hard time lately. I think it's just one of those family things though - your mum's still your mum, and you need to look forwards rather than back. It's not good for you to be using your energy in feeling angry. Presumably you've told her how upset you were, and how you're feeling now, so she can hopefully be more sensitive in future?

Right, off to look at Febes SIL's art.