August 2008 - Warning! Stunt Babies At Work

[cyteen]

Here we all are

Wotcha oops v of your sw romp. I loved Heligan when I went, did you visit St Ives and St Michael's Mount?
Also v at grown up chats.

LWFH ooh exciting for you. I think I've more or less decided to stick on one. Before I would have liked two but I think our family can be complete with just one.

Fortunately house does not need to be immaculate, only pristine, so I was informed in bed yesterday. Cue lots of teasing of DH from me and I told him that if it wasnt up to his standard he could stay home and clean and I would go out tonight. cue lots of sulking from him.
I did point out that his mum is far too nice and far too polite to every say anything about my housekeeping and probably too polite to even think of scrutinising.

DD took ages to settle last night and was up for a feed at 3 and up for the day at 6.30
I could have cried as DH had left the coffee table full of crumbs, a beer bottle and packet of fags so the first thing I did today was cleaning. Not as bad as yesterday when he had left out his pot. I keep telling him it has to be put away in-case Izzy finds it and it has to be in a safer place than a baby level broken drawer. The real clincher this morning was DH getting up and doing passive aggressive cleaning. You know when they wash two glasses, huff as they move a spoon to the draining board and shuffle some papers on the sideboard. Not actually anything particularly useful but just enough to say "look me big man doing cleaning - ugg"

Glad to see the back of him.

But getting up at 6 30 means you can go up to the boulangerie and buy croissants. I had a v silly grin on my face as Izzy and I pootled in the sunny hazzy morning.

smotcha spectnnt

Wotcha expectant hows life with you?

morning

expectant no need for a name change then, you'll only have to change it back soon

oops are you able to make the mini meet up on Tuesday? bit short notice I know
glad the holiday went well, clearly you were both rested enough and away from the daily distractions to have a productive chat, very grown up indeed

another bad night here, I hope that run of long sleeps was not a fluke. Just had to attend to dp's sunburn, looks like second degree burns to me. I would never make a nurse, thankfully had not had breakfast beforehand.

bonjour steak my goodness you have the patience of a saint. I'm afraid mansteak would receive short shrift in this house, in fact I would probably have punched him on the nose before now

croissants, yum, ta

sambo I just ignore it, leave him happy in his grumpiness.

indeed at sunburn, we saw some terrible stuff on Gran Can, seems like brits are genetically unable to put on sunscreen, I include myself here, some folk would look like a snake shedding their skin. eugh.

Expectant I am so jealous of your day at the zoo, it sounds idyllic Paddling in sweat and feeding the cats doesn't really have the same ring to it, I fear. Also very excited by all this ttc talk, not to mention the new minilongway kicking about; you girls will have me making a suggestion to DP if you're not careful

oops holiday and air-clearing chat sound wonderful. Maybe your DH could bottle up some of that understanding and post it across the Channel to mansteak?

I am so looking forward to our holiday next month, DP is worn out and stressed out with work at the moment and really needs a break. He is very underappreciated there, it makes me wild

Steaky feel free to ignore my prying of course, but is there anything good between you and Mansteak at the moment? From the way you talk about him, he seems to have changed so much and there doesn't seem to be a whole lot of fun there anymore. I don't like to think of you and Izzy living a funless life

steaky and to add to cyteen's qst. If dh's behaviour wasn't as it is would you eb intendign to ahve another baby? is it because of the ways things are? Remember there is absolutely no need to decide about another baby yet. Just because several of our number are going forth and procreating it doesn't mean you have to even think about it. Several of us had large gaps between dc1 and dc2....

argh. ds whinging in cot. that was a short nap - less than an hour. I thnk we're on the way to dropping the morning one soon. argh. although eh can't do without it yet, so it may be getting shorter first.

Cyteen pry away. We do have fun together but at the moment it does seem a bit hard won. Iykwim.

If you look at the stresses we have had in the last 12 months, on top of getting to grips with parenthood then who wouldn't be finding life difficult?

We closed the doors on our business, the day before I gave birth as it turns out.
Dh got another job, but because of a broken ear drum could not work and his boss wouldnt keep his job open for him. so two months after losing the business he lost his job.
This means we had to move countries and move back in with his folks, rather than stay the first year of parenthood in GC.
four months living with his folks, having a temp job and trying to find a new one, benefits being delayed by six months, me with PND.

And without making excuses for his bad behaviour then I do recognise that I have been quite vile to him at times so it is down to both of us to make an effort.

I think I am just a bit more laid back about the day to day stuff than him and he construes this as not caring.
For example, the pils babysitting. I know that MIL is a clean freak, that is just her, and of course I don't want her to think we are living in filth and we don't btw. The house will be cleaned to my usual standard and that will do. I don't need reminding and I don't need to discuss it, it will happen.
DH on the other hand needs to have his say, but when questioned does recognise that we don't live in filth and actually house is usually fine.

Tis annoying but tis his way, I stick up for myself as far as I need to but it isnt worth an argument as we have the same outcome in mind.

So what was I saying - oh yes he hasn't learnt not to sweat the small stuff tis all.

Albs i will reply in a bit but I have a ripe baby bottom to attend to.

Albs Yes of course how things are with me and DH is a factor in deciding on whther or not to have more, but not the only one. My age, not ancient but on the decline fertility wise, so if we leave it a couple of years there are no guarantees that we would conceive and if we do then there are the age-related complications. My friend who was pg with twins lost one of them recently which was age related. Then of course I wonder how I will cope with two, never mind how DH will cope. And then come the shallow/lifestyle reasons. I had a v easy pg, birth and recovery and reading of others experiences then I am not sure I want to chance it all a second time. And the financial/logistical side of the expense and doing the traveling that we would love to do is easier with one than two.

So that is pretty much it, seems easier to stick on one. And we made such a good one.

Good morning everyone.
steaky nil illegitimi carborundorum

Well it's grey and drizzling here, but still incredibly muggy. eurgh. Not much else to report though, just pootling along.
Hoping everyone's having a good morning.

Aye, it's raining furiously here but still sweaty as hell

Steak that does put a different light on things, all that stress and upheaval. It's just so shit that in times of trouble we tear apart the people closest to us. I suppose it's all that 'safe boundaries' stuff, but it's still bloody hard work.

Is it time for more painkillers yet? I am hurting quite a lot.

poor you cyteen.

No rain here. I wish it would. ALthough the 0.5 tog grobag i orderd ds just arrived so i hope i've not wasted my money lol.

poor you cyteen surely tis codeine oclock.

Just had a long chat with the neighbour, well she chatted and I ^retended i understood every word

wotcha ann along with "par mer par terrain" which is my other handy latin phrase. Tis the Royal Marines motto, but tis another tory as to how I know that.

Right pie to make for lunch.

btw not that anyone is interested but before i moved my arse from the chair ds stopped grizzling and went back to sleep. yay.

arse pie I was blind6baking is burnt, looks like omlette with last nights sauce for lunch.

yay albs

arse pie? sounds delicious

V interested in arse pie. sounds good.
Ihave a grumpy baby who is refusing to eat the food I made him while determined to eat bits of paper etc off the floor Think I need to get out a bit as my fuse will be prpoery burnt off by the time dp gets home at this rate

Rain, rain and more rain here
cyteen hope the pain killer shave kicked in poor you.
lwfh yay for movement. How exciting
expectant are you????
lol at arse pie

Hope that answers it - as DH would say 'chance would be a fine thing' sorry about the rain.

Albs DH only has 0.5 grobags - are there any offers on at the mo? Thinking of buying some in the next size that MIL can bring out here with her along with the long list of stuff I've already sent her of things I want from home.

sonot my dp says that too

AAAAAAAAARRRGGGHGHHGGHGHGHHG.

Absolutely bloody fuming!!

EVERY SINGLE TIME HE GOES DOWN FOR A NAP THE BLOODY PHONE RINGS AND WAKES HIM UP!!!!! AAAAAAAAARRGGGHGHGHGHGH!
And EVERY SINGLE TIME it is one of those automated sales things. bloody driving me nuts.
I now have a baby that needs to be asleep but is crying upstairs and I NEEDED him to nap so I could have a break. GGRRRRRRRR.

Ann unplug the phone for a bit, any emergency will call your mobile.
Can you pop him in the pushchair and go out? Even if he doesn't sleep it will be a break for you.

Maybe pop into local cafe for emergency tea and cake?

Izzy decided that she didn't want her nap but did want to do the mother of all poos. nice!

I am busily tryig to update photos on my etsy shop while I ought to be making the flat pristinely immaculate or immaculately pristine for babysitting.

Whatever, 2 loads of laundry done and the recycling done, only the bathroom needs a lick and polish.