For those of you wondering, and it might only have been Oops, my present was a bottle of Worcestershire sauce. Heinz not Lea and Perrins so I'm not even sure if it is real or not.
Well a truley hiddeous night.
DD finally settled at 7.45, had had her bath at 5.30.
Woke at 9.30, 12.30 and 3am.
Fed to sleep all times but not really hungry, but at 3 I didn't get it quite timed right and she woke up - I kicked DH out to go and settle her and he tried for 15 minutes.
Cue words that quickly grew into a rather nasty row with bad behaviour on both sides and me getting me and the baby ready to walk out to PILs. Glad the neighbours can't speak English
Things have settled down but I have hidden our passports and I have credit on my CC so if needs must.
However, DH has found us a counsellor - this is a big step for him as every time I have suggested it before he has said he wouldn't go.
I think it could be a big help to have a neutral person. It will help me get things in perspective. I just have to hope my French will be decent enough.
TS someone on another thread wondered if it was because he is French. I have to say I don't think so. When we were living elsewhere, pre-baby he did do his share of domestic stuff. Perhaps his attitudes to motherhood are cultural, or perhaps it comes from being a son of a couple who took on the traditional roles. But then you would hope he would at least value the mother/homemaker role some.
Or perhaps he's just an arse - time will tell.
DH now taken baby to PILs as he has to wash the car he borrowed and return it to a friend. He is bringing baby back first but then won't be home till 7ish.
BTW he has freely admitted that he won't help in the night because I don't include him in decisions. But how can you compromise on something that you disagree on? I tried to explain that he should help even though he disagrees as it isn't about him and his pride it is about the baby.
It really doesn't help my cause that her sleeping has got worse and worse this week, which I think is because she isn't sleeping in the day.
Oh we are in such a mess the three of us.
An exhuasted baby, exhausted mum and a bemused father.
Sorry - will try and catch up on the rest of the thread now.