Jan 09' Dribbling, drooling, swaying and babbling...thats just the mamas....

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mssparkle - i mean that i'm socially awkward, not you! just reread that

missj Bless you- its only natural to feel like that. Agree you should express and have some "you" time more... i know i should!

msSparkle Sorry for annoying friend. Being my first child i've never had anyone do that RE: Children, but i've had the same competitive situation about other things. Such a bizare thing to do, i personally think was i in this situation i would be phasing this friend out of my life, as she does nothing but make you feel inferior. I met my only friends with young children through the NCT. Could try your mumsnet Local?

Dog i guess some would find you staying upstairs childish... but i would imagine i would do something similar! That either makes us equally childish... or just human! I'm surprised that a grandparent can be so removed? I can't keep OH's parents AWAY!!!

Tink you shopping machine you... laughed when someone brought up the other day you braving the jan sales heavily pregnant! Brave Brave Lady.

Anyone else's memories of HATING being pregnant ( i sure did) starting to fade and ALMOST wanting a little bump again??? Don't get me wrong... i'm NOT having No. 2 until Esme is about 3.... But... i keep seeing pregnant ladies and just Smiling!!!

oh... almost forgot..... OH won Player of the Season!!!! VERY Proud! MASSIVE trophy & a Glass Thing to add to his growing collection! Woo!

Need sympathy as I truly am a bad bad mummy now.

I was putting dd in her high chair so she could be with me in the kitchen while I did some baking and she lurched sideways and bashed her head on the edge of the butchers block. I managed to pull her back a bit as she went, but as it doesn't have a roll top edge she had a v shaped dent in her forehead. She really screamed and I grabbed her and screamed for DH to come in from the driveway, he got the arnica cream and I immediately put her to bf as I read somewhere it is painrelieving. She did settle and actually took a full feed and the dent disappeared really quickly. We were going to take her to a&e but she seemed fine after her feed and there's just a red mark there now.

She's been fine ever since really, just a bit clingy but I feel awful, like I really let her down as if I'd been concentrating more on what I was doing it wouldn't have happened.

Been feeling pretty useless today anyway, having been pretty low functioning for the last 2 days, the house is an absolute tip and I have a huge washing monster to tackle. On top of that we were supposed to be working on getting dds room prepped for decorating this weekend but that went out the window with the anaemia. At this rate she'll be in our room till she goes to university!

I only did the baking because ds1 asked me to make some melting moments for him and then he announced he didn't like them because they made his tongue feel funny! We've been having issues with things making his tongue feel funny for a few weeks now coming hot on the heels of 'Mummy, when people clap it makes me itch.' I usually find his sensory processing issues endearing, but wasn't so entranced today.

Anyway enough of my moaning ....

Congratulations to your OH Ray. MsSparkle competitive parenting is a nightmare round here. I hate hate hate it and tend to avoid the worst culprits. Try not to let it get you down.

good grief it has been (almost) a year since we found out we were pregnant... may is violet's middle name because thats when we found out. god, i was definitely in a different space the.

moose hope you kick the illness soon. you've really had a hard time these last months. DD hates tummy time but she can sit now for a couple of minutes at a time and she can stand when we prop her up by the couch. she loves standing. freaky baby.

dog we never got anything from family. we have to phone them to tell them what's going on... but it was like before Vi came so i didn't expect it to be different. infuriating though. its family FCS. how many times do i need to explain to them that it is about a dozen long distant calls for us and only one for each of them.

missj me too! i want two minutes. just to pee in peace. DH is working lots again, so is gone earlier in the morning and coming home later. i'm a because he gets to be with adults with the same creative interests all day, drinking, etc, whereas i get to googoogaga all day and now am finding my mind is slowly turning to mush. argh! i love my daughter to bits but as we don't have family out west... i wouldn't dream of leaving DD with uncle who lives upstairs (we live in his suite of his house) for some creepy reasons... and friends rarely make it up to this neck of the woods, i'm stuck.

speaking of which, things are going to need to change real soon. i have a commission to work on that needs to be shipped out at end of may and i've been invited to participate in the florence biennale which is in december. i have some art making to do.

so the crib thing seems to be working. 3 days ago i started her at about 7pm after feeding her. she cried and i went in at 5 minutes and patted her, told her i loved her, tucked her in again laft and increased the time by one minute each time till she fell asleep. the next day was a bust. persnickety hour turned into persnickety marathon, starting at 3pm and she wailed till 9.30pm, when i could longer take it and we crawled into bed. she passed out. it was awful. i couldn't do anything for her. and to top it off, uncle gord's girlfriend stomped around upstairs so it just agitated me more. like i need to listen to that as well. her crying is only a muffled sound upstairs. we know, because we checked it out. she also only does it when uncle gord isn't home. anyhow. i phoned DH at 8pm crying because i was slowly loosing my head. you never phone a restaurant looking for the chef at 8pm but i was desperate. i just needed someone to know and reassure me that i was going to be ok. that night she was up all night too. shite night. but last night was good. i laid her down at 7 and it only took her 30 minutes to calm down and sleep and she didn't wake again till 10.30! i got some research done and listened to daft punk in concert at full blast on my headphones... don't worry, i had the monitor in immediate view. it was fabulous. DH got home soon after, they had a bath, fed DD and put her back in her crib for another hour. DH and i had a lovely time just laying in bed snuggling for an hour. both of us thought we should have sex because we could but really, we were both too tired. snuggling was far better for the psyche than the carnal. cross fingers for today.
sorry for such a long post. hope everyone is having a good weekend.

Oooo i should be on this thread lol

Remembers has baby snoozing upstairs

How is everyone doing? Havent read whole thread

DS is bloody TEETHING we have just brought ONE bumgenius nappy and i have fell in LOVE and wished i had just took the plunge and brought loads.. read in the paper the other day about bonjela being dangerous and so threw all three tubes i had on the go away and felt like a terrible mummy for a few days.

Well have got this in threads i'm on now so hopefully it doesnt move too fast for me to keep up with

Take care xx

ray congrats to OH.

moose aahhh. i bump DD's head all time when she is in the sling, poor thing. she's use to it now. you did good with the arnica and boob. the actual fall probably scared her more than the pain. its like you can see it in their face when they teeter over unexpectedly if they are going to cry or not. you can't eye them every single minute. and don't fret too much about you being low functioning. you need to be to get better. your body will shut down before you do to ensure you get better. "Mummy, when people clap it makes me itch" very funny.

sparkle i think sometimes people come off as being competitive due to their delivery of 'look what i, DD or DS can do'. but it does seem a bit weird that it is every time your DS does something.

good grief. DD is grunting up a storm here, farting like seasoned old man. phew!

stercus its moves fast here but no pressure. welcome aboard.

moose - for dd's head, i cut c's finger recently while trimming her fingernails and it's unbelievable how bad you feel...

chef - it's amazing how the time goes - dp and i went out for a drink on thursday because thursday was exactly a year since c was conceived (consequence of unorthodox conception methods, you become very clear about the timing)

stercus - welcome . teething?! is ds beginning of january or end?

Wow at Jan 2010 thread - I remember going to say hi to the April 2008 thread and finding about 5 of us from April 07 had already posted there to say congratulations (more than there were of them).

We went to an event today in commemoration of the Tolpuddle Martyrs, ds1 enjoyed running around and seeing our friends' kids who are about 10-14 but adore him, I had lots of people wanting to hold Conor and the local paper photographer came and took a picture of him! And we all enjoyed the music, including Billy Bragg. DS1 wanted dp to sing him lots of songs in the bath tonight.

Welcome stercus, and congratulations ray's dp

mssparkle, its amazing how competative people get!! I've done it once , DS1 was the first of our NCT group to crawl, then realised during the next coffee morning I was the one running round after a daft baby while the rest are sitting contentedly in one spot early crawling/walking/rolling isn't a good thing!!!

well just to boast had a 7 hour sleep through last night. ps its amazing what some people call sleeping through - I say it's a full 8 hours but had a friend insisting her 4 week old dd was 'sleeping through from 7 to 7' what she actually meant that she was waking for 2 or 3 feeds in between!!!

welcome stercus!

rray congratulatins to your DP!

Jan10 - we'll have to go over and scare them tell them its all wonderful!

Chef i am too feeling awful, was feeding LO laying down in bed this morning & my Phone Alarm went off, so i picked up the phone, and it slipped from my hand and dropped on LO's head. Clumbsy Mummy.... Felt like Crap, she burst into Tears and So did i... Quite rightly OH Prized her off me and she settled straight away, me crying too of course just made her cry more. Didn't have Arnica Cream... but Have Burts Bees baby bees "All better Balm" For bumps and Bruises, so have smothered it in that, and then put her back on boob. Seems fine now, but i too feel like the WORST Mummy! :-(

OH & Esme's middle name is also May... But i decided to do the old fashioned spelling of Mae. SO it Esme Mae.

Jan 2010 thread, omg...Time FLIES.

Hope everyone else is well... taking Esme swimming this morning.

morning nice sunshine here

dog - meal sounds good

rray - well done to oh

mm - there is no point in feelig guilty these things happen it is so hard being a mum and getting everthing right!! glad she is ok

chefsw - night time sounds like it is getting there

i found out i was 4 weeks pregnant with bracken on 17th of may last year

dh working till aft

Oh competitive parenting... well- I don't need to compete- my children are far more advanced than anyone elses! DS is already counting while he rolls over, and DD just performed her second symphony to an audience of 100!

Not.

Just ignore!

congrats to DP ray

{sad] for all the babies hitting heads etc- they are quite tough though aren't they? soon recover.

for teething already stercus

DS is still v unsettled, but not poorly IYSWIM. Just wish it would come out, and then leave his system. [grr]

DD is complaining of a sore vulva this morning too, so both of them are crabby.

Hi ladies.. thanks for supportive messages. Stripey you are so right about it being the "fulltimesness" that gets to you! Anyway, am feeling better this morning after lovely day at Mum's - she could read my mind as I walked thru the door (or perhaps it was the dark circles under my eyes and unwashed hair!), she took Nye from me, and made me go to bed for a couple of hours... heaven!

MM well done for putting to boob, that was good thinking. and ray OH dropped phone on LO once too - knocks and bumps are all part of life I guess, it's going to happen sooner or later, so they may as well get used to it! No-one should feel guilty.

Eppm competitive parenting - I am always the first to tell other mothers about his constant feeding/ waking/ tantrums/ how knackered I am - I usually find this tactic encourages similar honesty in return!

chefswife sounds like are making progress with the crib thing. I might try similar in a few weeks when LO is a bit older. Great news on all the art commissions.

Big scare yesterday. Got a phone call from OH who had been in an accident involving 2 yearling horses he was trying to move - he basically got caught between them and was dragged at high speed across the field - badly concussed, face covered in hideous rope burns, and has lost all memory of the following 30 minutes - the hospital xrayed him and gave him the okay, but I was pretty worried for a couple of hours there... I knew it was serious when he said he was going to A&E, usually nothing will persuade him to see a doctor! Anyway, I made him sleep in the spare room last night so he could get an unbroken night, and he is feeling much better this morning - but looks pretty scary!

Morning,

Dog i am at your posh meal! Wish it were me. I used to go to those groups when dd was a baby, although i used to go with my friend and would sit there the whole time just chatting to her and so didn't really get to know anyone else. This time around it's different because the friend i went with doesn't have another baby yet, although maybe that's a good thing because it will force me to speak to other people if i go to a group. There is an under ones group on tomorrow afternoon (i like the afternoon ones because it's too much drama trying to get to a 9am one!) I might leave dd with my mum who lives around the corner from the group and i could take Finley. I am really nervous though because i am really rubbish at speaking to people i know, let alone those i don't. I figure the secret is go every week rather than going once and moaning i don't know anyone?

Stripey it's ok, i am very socially awkward too.

ray i was like that after i had dd. I moaned like hell when i was pregnant with her but after i sort of missed being pregnant and would look at pregnant women and wish it were me Now however, it's a different story! After having ds and not wanting anymore children, i look at pregnant women and think i am glad that's not me I guess the novalty has well and truely worn off! Congrats to your OH

moose i wouldn't beat yourself up about it. We have all done silly things. When my dd was a baby and could sit up but not crawl, i put her on the kitchen breakfast bar to sit while i did stuff in the kitchen. She decided that day to reach out for something and tipped over onto the hard floor! I caught her straight away but her head hit the floor and it went really soft and squidgy. The doctor said she was fine but i felt awful. I never put her up there again, i guess we have to learn the hard way. You are not a bad mummy!

chefswife sorry to hear your having a hard time with your dd. I hope things improve for you.

missJ what i scare for you! I hope your dp gets better soon

I am keeping my distance from my friend who is competitive. When her baby was "waking once in the night" at a week old, she forgot to mention that she was putting her down after a feed at midnight! So she was feeding at midnight then going to sleep, waking "once in the night" at 3am then waking at 6am for another feed That to me is not waking once in the night. To me it would be baby going down at at least 10pm, waking at 3am and going until at least 7am to be able to say baby is waking once.

We took Finley to be checked over at the doctors yesterday. He is ok, still on the antibiotics and is getting better slowly. He poos loads though! He is so lovely, smiley and he coos all the time. It is so cute.

He is 14 weeks now, we manage to get him to bed by 9.30pm after a feed in the evening and he wakes at 3am for a feed. It's a bit random as to what time his feed after that is. Sometimes it's 6-6-30am and other times it's not until 8am. It's hard doing a routine though when you have a damanding toddler too.

Wow that was a long post!

afternoon

have been chilling and do claning etc.
dh back @ 3pm.
was sunny here seems to be getting grey clouds in sky again

each peach lol @ counting
sorry to hear that they r ill

miss j that must have been a shock regarding oh hope he gets better soon

ms s - bracken is 14 weeks tomorrow time is hoing really quick. she is very contented, smiles alot and laughs.
we feed bracken @ 7pm then wake her and feed @ 10:15pm then she just wakes between 3 and 5am then feeds @ 7:30am.
glad fin is getting better
have put dd1s name on a waiting list for rainbow brownies

Dog How do you accidently buy Sat Nav? What were you intending to buy?

Tink/ *Dog - Rainbow Brownies is the one before brownies isn't it? Like Cubs before Scouts! i was such a Tom boy as a child, i went to the one "troop" of scouts nearby that took Girls! Army boots & Mud was my idea of heaven. funny thing is i actually later on turned out to be a real girly girl. Funny how we all evolve!

MissJ What a fright you had. I used to ride, i had a lovely horse, but i was once when i was about 14 riding a friends horse back up from the field, and i have no memory whatsoever of what happened, but my mother was waiting by the yard in her car & just saw the horse come in without me on. I was back up the track where it meets the road in a pile on the Floor. My poor mum, was running towards me and i wasn't crying or moving- she thought i was dead. I was severly Concussed for Days.... but didn't have any spinal injury like they though. Only now i'm a mother can i realise why my mummy says it was the worst day of her life! I carried on riding for a while, but when i broke my wrist a year or so later, and my sister got concussed in the same month my parents had enough of Camping out in A&E and made us give up! They were VERY unpopular with us for a while!!!!

MsSparkle your friend is obviously kidding herself that her life & baby are perfect. Why she feels the need to do this is beyond me... but silly her! I totally agree i wouldn't call that sleeping through at all. Esme isn't sleeping through yet... i think she would do the majority of the night if i put her down at 10/11 ish... but OH and i want some time kiddie free. So she goes to bed at 7pm... wakes at about 2.30am- we're both 1/2 asleep for a quick feed, and then wakes at 7am. Suits me just fine... Can't complain!

Oh..... Esme Wailing in bath with her Daddy... Very unlike her, isn't really a "crier"... Took her swimming today & think Totally exhusted... better run & get little one in bed before TOO tired!